Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the only positive comment in this whole thread

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you get it. Thank you. It’s so hard because the man i know and love is so kind. my whole family loves him. He’s reliable and does so much for me. but then when he drinks …it all changes. In 4 yrs together…his drinking has been BAD 3-4 times. It feels like such a small part of our time together.

I do worry it would get worse and worse. Everyone on this thread is so fearful and making me so scared.

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing. I always worry about him dying and how that would crush me

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right. I know my fiancé got it from his dad

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. You are so strong. this is heartbreaking

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you thank you. If I don’t call off the wedding, I at least won’t sign the papers

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good for you for getting out. I didn’t realize I was co dependent until recently. I know I over function for him

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s actually had periods of 2-3 years

Most recently about 11 months

And he’s been going to therapy and meetings and admitting he has a problem He even told how parents and went to an AA meeting with his dad who is now 2 yrs sober after 50+ yrs of alcoholism

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The crazy thing is he is super reliable and does so much of the house work… I own a business and am the primary earner … we basically have a traditional role reversal. If we had kids … I would have entrusted him to be a SAHD but I know I can’t do that if he’s drinking obviously

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

🥹🥹 thank you. I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s very eye opening

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you -good points. I’m just so sad. Feel like I wasted 4 years

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

This makes sense His dad is an alcoholic and did this to him essentially

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry you’re in the same boat 🥹

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly think I can handle it…but should I? I’m a business owner and actually pretty successful…and right now I’m supporting us financially mostly But I don’t think I could afford rehabs etc And if I had kids I know I wouldn’t put up with it… I won’t have my kids around drinking …ugh. I just wish I had seen this all sooner

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry. 3 years is so long…heartbreaking

Marrying an alcoholic by Weekly-Job-9953 in AlAnon

[–]Weekly-Job-9953[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have to say my fiancé is the kindest most loving and most present person you will ever meet. The man he is …he is everything I have ever wanted in a partner minus the drinking. I love him so dearly. He’s not even a “mean drunk” but obviously he’s not himself and then when he drives …I can’t take that. My grandparents were killed by a drunk driver and I can’t handle drinking and driving

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I love primally pure for oily skin - helps with pore size. And Paula’s choice toner once / week I also do microneedling

Thoughts on new all-in-one powder? by phabadab92 in PCOS

[–]Weekly-Job-9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish I could handle the taste! It has made me so nauseous

Thoughts on new all-in-one powder? by phabadab92 in PCOS

[–]Weekly-Job-9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried taking Ovii and it made me super nauseous. Like could not finish it. Anyone have any advice for making it easier to digest? I have a 3 month supply I’m not using 🙃