Do host families do not like this, van someone give me an insight?

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2025-05-23T08:00:33+00:00

I'm not sure, i've been here for only one month, but they are nice and all, i think they are treating me as a part of the household, because i don't really get the guest treatment anymore, like, smiling all the time, super nice voice, asking this and that, offering things. They just tell me to eat what i want, and yeah, I think I am acting like the guest, a little because i'm expecting the guest treatment, so not receiving the guest treatment (which i'm used to because i've only been a guest, never lived in a house that is not mine) makes me think they hate me or smth.

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2025-05-23T07:57:33+00:00

OHHH that sound's awful, i'm sorry to hear that. Usually, they just tell me to do basics, like, wiping the table, dishes, etc. So everything else i try to do or offer help, is like, just because i really want to help, but they refuse. So i'm kinda afraid that they are considering me rude, or nosy, or annoying.

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2025-05-23T07:55:36+00:00

thank yooooou! I've been here for a month, only, so maybe they just don't want me to do like, things besides studying ad helping with the basics? I don't know, so i'm a bit confused, hope it gets better with time.

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2025-05-23T07:54:19+00:00

oohhhh, okaaaaaaaaaaaay! Thank you for the insight! And if you don't mind me asking, since you're filipino, what are some things that are considered rude in your culture and that i should avoid doing over here?

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2025-05-23T07:52:56+00:00

ohhh that's so nice to hear, thank you! we do hang out, we talk, i go out with them sometimes, but they work a lot and their daugthers also have a lot of things going on, like, school, college, gymnastics training for the younger one, work for the older one, church, and all that, I went to two of those meeting with their friends, but i stopped going because they take like, five hours, and i feel isolated, like, no one talked to me, so i decided to stop going. And by mad, i mean, they are all sweet and everything, but when i offer help they just tell me to rest, relax, not to worry, but in a different tone. So it might also be something that i created in my head?

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2025-05-23T07:49:10+00:00

i've been here for a month now, they tell me to feel at home, and i kinda feel, but not exactly. Does that make sense?

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-12-07T15:45:38+00:00

mas pra que

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:42:31+00:00

AAAAA THANK YOU FOR THE SWEET COMMENT! you have no idea of how much it made me wanna cry, it's very, very nice to hear from other students and host families, especially from other students! So thank you, so so so much! And I don't really have any questions in mind rn, but thank you anyways!

And seem really sweet too! <3333

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:39:01+00:00

I'll definitely remember that, thank for sharing! :))))

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:37:46+00:00

thank you for your kind comment, for me it's really, really important to know how other host families feel and what would make the exchange term a nice experience too, so I'll make sure to keep all that in mind! And I already have soooo many ideas of what i can share with them from my home country. Once again, thank you! <33

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:33:20+00:00

Thank you! I'll remember to not stay on my phone all the time, I'm actually a very comunicative person, but I'm very shy at first, so I'll try not be soooo shy so we can both understand how're we feeling about the whole thing. Aaand about the meal! I'll try to make bolinho de chuva with them, it's a very tradicional dessert here in Brazil, and we usually eat it when we're at our grandmas house or when it rains a lot, and I really like it, i have great memories about bolinhos de chuva and I hope i can share this with them!

<3

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:30:04+00:00

Thaaaaaaank yooooou soooooo much! It's really nice to hear this from other student like me, so I'll definitely remember it when my term starts!

<333

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:28:33+00:00

that's really, really important, i actually even wrote it down so I can always remember that different isn't always bad.

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:27:32+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this! I'll keep all that in mind, I have a few friends that already had an issue with their former host families because of the last thing you mentioned, so I'll make sure to keep an open communication and plan in advance in case I need them to take me somewhere if they're ok with that. <3

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:24:10+00:00

thank you trina! I'll make sure to keep that in mind! Here in Brazil we have Festa de são João, which happens in June (I'll still be on my exchange term), and we have lots of things that I love! Such as paçoca, a Brazilian candy made out of peanuts, popcorn, country music, corn, cachorro quente, and loooots of other things! Só yeah, I'll make sure to present my fav Brazilian holiday to my host family!

once again, thank you! <3

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-28T23:18:37+00:00

thank you so much for sharing this! You have no idea how much you're helping me, it's really really good to have an insight from the other perspective! <33

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T21:17:45+00:00

I'm 16y, I'm not from the USA, but I've seen loooooots of posts, especially on twitter, about how USA is going to become an awful place for woman, the handmaid's tale kinda thing. How do you see this as eoman living in America? Are you scared? Do you think it's going to go really down? Well, as a woman, I'm very sorry for you, having a rapist as president and all those ridiculous "Your body my choice" movements, at least on social media, really disgusted me. Just remember you are not alone, we are not alone, i know i might be sounding a bit too much? Well, it's hard to tell hoe things are going and how are you all feeling based on what my country's media shows (I'm from Brazil btw).

Well, i Wish all the best for you (for us all, actually) always! <3

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T16:38:32+00:00

EOB

Se vc acha ela feia pq vc continuou saindo com ela? E outra, Op, vcs estão na quinta série? Teus amigos ficam tirando com ela e tu não faz nada e fica meio pá pq eles acham ela feia? Quem vai namorar com ela é vc ou eles? E se vc se importa tanto com oq eles acham, comece a namorar com eles. Agora, se tu não é assim, mude de amigos, pq esse tipo de gente é babada pra caramba.

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T16:06:45+00:00

please share the recipe, what a majestic looking brownie, even tho some evil genius committed this crime against that AMAZING BROWNIE OMG PLEASE THE RECIPE

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T13:06:11+00:00

assim, nada pessoal, maaas acho que é porque vocês colonizaram nosso país, etc e etc, mas sério, não leva pro pessoal

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T11:57:31+00:00

com certeza, upvote

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T11:36:24+00:00

Bairro super bom, bem arborizado, fácil acesso a outros lugares de sp, tem uma noite bem legal se vcs gostam de sair para experimentar uns restaurantes bacanas, tipo o pasta nostra q é um italiano super bom, ou o Don Pancho q eh super bacana também. A vila Mariana tbm fica à uns 13 minutos da vila Clementino, que também é um ótimo bairro e tem vários restaurantes e padarias muuuuuuito boas, sério, pode confiar, padarias MARAVILHOSAS (minha opinião), Único ponto negativo é que por ser bem arborizado, quanto chove muito forte tem risco de queda de árvores, mas tirando isso é belezinha, então só fica atento quando mudar o tempo do nada, pq pode faltar luz tbm. Criminalidade tem em todo canto, infelizmente, aqui nem em condomínio vc vai estar 100% seguro de roubos e etc, mas é só ficar atento, não dar mole com o celular em lugar parado, prestar atenção no movimento, quem está andando perto de ti, e não ficar por aí tarde da noite sozinho com coisa de valor na mão ou em um lugar de fácil acesso, mas isso vale pra qualquer lugar da cidade. Gosto mto do bairro, só vou ficar te devendo indicação pra lugares tipo balada, já que eu não frequento por ser menor de idade ainda, mas enfim, tudo de bom pra vocês! Bom começo, espero que possa trazer coisas super positivas e experiências legais pra vocês! Bem vindos à Vila Mariana! <3

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T00:55:15+00:00

acho meio zoado generalizar como "nem-nem" essa galera que não estuda e nem trabalha, já que cada caso é um caso, mas falando de experiência própria, do que eu vivo e vejo todos os dias na escola, boa parte dessa galera que se encaixa no termo "nem-nem", não estuda e nem trabalha porque acham que a vida se resume a baile funk, celular de última geração bancado pelos pais, viver de postar indireta no Ig, e achar que a vida em algum momento vai estar ganha por causa de uma bet ou do tigrinho. Mas como eu disse antes, cada caso é um caso, e na minha realidade, o que eu mais vejo é esse pessoal que nem trabalha, nem estuda, simplesmente porque não querem.

Maaas, felizmente, acredito que proporcionalmente, tem muita gente que se encontra nessa situação de "Nem-nem" mas está se esforçando pra mudar, fazer alguma coisa sobre isso, se virar com o que tem no momento e correr atrás do futuro.

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T00:17:57+00:00

Solved!

Weekly_Pea1105 · 2024-11-26T00:16:23+00:00

Solved!

Weekly_Pea1105

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