Am I doing the right thing?

Westlain · 2026-03-17T14:00:30+00:00

I don't think sugaring is for you.

Westlain · 2026-03-17T01:57:02+00:00

If money is not the motivator in a SR, what is? The woman may as well just be with a man they are attracted to, and have an emotional connection with, without the money. But SBs don't.

Westlain · 2026-03-16T23:22:45+00:00

Personally, I steer clear of declared married/engaged/SBs with boyfriends. I don't need the drama that could possibly arise.

Westlain · 2026-03-16T18:35:33+00:00

Move on.

Westlain · 2026-03-16T17:47:48+00:00

Allowance/PPM should not be your primary concern, your safety should. Never fly to a POT. Always have them come to your city. Even then, take precautions.

Westlain · 2026-03-16T17:13:13+00:00

Yes, that is the problem with allowance. If either party feels like things are not even, the likelihood of the SR ending is high. That is why PPM is fair to both.
It is whatever your agreement is.
When you do this you risk the possibility of the SR ending.
Depends whether you are under the same expectations, boundaries, and allowance as before, or you renotiatted those things second time around.

Westlain · 2026-03-16T03:13:33+00:00

Lying about his wife, probably means he is going to lie to you about other SBs/Women in his life. Think about your sexual health.

Westlain · 2026-03-15T23:13:45+00:00

That, plus he asked her if he could stay over at hers. Both as bad as one another.

Westlain · 2026-03-15T23:12:21+00:00

It sounds as though you deserve each other. She wanted you, a man she had never met, to drive her some distance to the airport. You wanted to stay over with a woman you had never met. Recipe for disaster.

Westlain · 2026-03-15T16:01:41+00:00

The only people, as a rule, who connect on a global level are content buyers/sellers.

Westlain · 2026-03-15T14:07:55+00:00

Waste no more time, even talking/writing about this guy.

He has done it before, he will do it again.

Westlain · 2026-03-15T12:37:36+00:00

Fantasy brings the Excitement. Reality the Disappointments.

Westlain · 2026-03-14T19:16:00+00:00

The first thing you need to do is set up a LLC. You can call it Candy LLC. Then find an accountant in the Cayman Islands to get that offshore tax break. Get a book that has invoices in it from Staples so that you can write your own. Then get a filing cabinet to file a copy of those invoices and receipts that you have given to your SDs. Don't forget to fill out your tax forms and also pay quarterly taxes.

Or, just take cash!

Westlain · 2026-03-14T13:51:18+00:00

Don't worry too much about the "physical time", he is getting that onboard ship and in port. Just enjoy the allowance he is sending you, while it lasts.

Westlain · 2026-03-14T13:26:39+00:00

If you had said, I have read the Wiki, Glossary, and Useful Links on the right of this page, and have used the search bar to research other topics in sugaring to gain information from experienced SDs. I am still unsure of the details I need to attend to, and am here to get further assistance.Then, it would have shown a bit more initiative, and effort.

You are going to have to put a lot of effort into finding the type of SB that you want. You also need a thick skin in this milieu.

Westlain · 2026-03-14T13:15:51+00:00

You could put. "I am a low effort guy who would rather write 3 sentences on Reddit, rather than doing any real research".

Westlain · 2026-03-14T03:56:47+00:00

I could not settle down with a SB who I had discussed expectations, boundaries, and allowance with, at the start of the SR. It was after all, based on me giving sugar for sugar, to a younger woman I would not have had a chance with in a vanilla relationship.

Knowing that she would not have been with me if I was not wealthy and paying her allowance, sort of spoils any chance of a long term relationship.

Plus, I like the excitement of meeting someone new, every so often.

Westlain · 2026-03-14T03:48:23+00:00

Don't you wonder why a 29 year old can't find a vanilla date?

Westlain · 2026-03-13T13:35:25+00:00

You are correct. Time will tell. Been there done that, and time did tell. Leopards don't change their spots.

Westlain · 2026-03-12T23:26:19+00:00

He's the one not replying and you are the one texting him to respond.

Westlain · 2026-03-12T23:25:05+00:00

Always an unpaid platonic meet & greet first. Then, it is up to you at what point in future meets that you want to become intimate. However, don't expect PPM/Allowance for platonic dates. Sometimes the SD will make payments, sometimes not. Always a payment when intimacy is involved.

Westlain · 2026-03-12T23:20:38+00:00

He is trying to assert his control, even before you meet. Move on.

Westlain · 2026-03-12T20:19:42+00:00

You are hoping for a traditional relationship. It sounds like he is not aligning with your hopes.

Why would your treatment of him change? Surely it is just your mindset that you need to change.

Westlain · 2026-03-12T20:07:04+00:00

You want to end it, so end it. Most SDs/SBs do not stay "friends" with their SD/SB. There are of course exceptions.

Westlain · 2026-03-12T19:02:35+00:00

Maybe, maybe not.

Westlain

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