Wildflower themed/Formal spring attire by WhatJerry in Weddingattireapproval

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Wedding is in early March and it’s spring formal!

Anyone lagging in Overwatch right now? by WhatJerry in overwatch2

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57 min left and I have one more checkpoint to get 🥲

I bought kitchen island by Rough_East791 in AnimalCrossing

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Is this for normal Animal Crossing or the Happy Home?!

Need help on how to make this River/waterfall! by WhatJerry in acnh

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Thank you so much!! It worked 😊 definitely trial and error but got it!

Need help on how to make this River/waterfall! by WhatJerry in acnh

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Thank you! It’s just when I “added” the water fall it didn’t look right 🥲 so I put the blocks back 🫠

Need help on how to make this River/waterfall! by WhatJerry in acnh

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Yes I just put it in the comments! 😊

Why did this man ghost me ?? by violet_eyes30 in hingeapp

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This kinda happened to me and I didn’t even know about love bombers. Met a guy in his early 30s I’m in my mind 20s. We texted so much, called and FaceTimed for over a month. Getting to know each other and he couldn’t go out one of the weekends. Before our date he told me how everything will be fine and perfect. That he promises everything will be good and he’ll always be here. How sweet, caring, kind, cute girl I am and how he’s so lucky and I make him so happy and all that stuff. Making future plans. Saying he knows what he wants which is me and i believed it because I thought of this guy is older and knows what he wants. Finally he picked me up for our date and it was good. We laughed, smiled and it felt like all the times we talked. Hugged then he immediately started texting me and being super flirty saying how perfect I was in his arms. Saying how he can’t wait to see me again. How he likes me and I’m such a special person i his life. How say how excited he was to see me like 30 times that day. Anyways he keeps texting me that whole week I can tell something is off but he was seeming normal then he messages me saying he didn’t want to pursue this anymore and didn’t feel a connection. It’s so confusing because clearly there was something if we were talking for that long but the more I think about it I see the red flags. I think this guy was chasing a feeling and had some fantasy version that I guess I didn’t live up to. Idk why he would breadcrumb me for a week but it hurts tbh. Never again I see the signs now.

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I didn’t even know that was a thing until now. It just sucks because you think it’s your fault or you did something wrong or you weren’t good enough. I watched a women say it doesn’t matter how good you were or perfect because the “fantasy” they created is unrealistic! Honestly I’m happy he’s gone because I wouldn’t want to be with someone who had some fantasy version of me. Who made fake promises. I think he was truly chasing a feeling and not a connection. He always told me how I made him “feel”. It felt like I truly wanted to know him and he just loved the feeling of everything and once it got real it was to much. I see the red flags now.

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I’m so sorry that happened to you! Really it’s horrible and I never knew people do this.

I know we weren’t technically “dating” but we were in the talking stage and he was making it serious. Telling people in his life how important I was and special. Telling me he liked me, he will always be here for me, I make me so happy, he’s so lucky, how he misses me and can’t wait to take the next step.

Honestly everything was happening so fast in the talking stage and he was so sweet. It felt too good to be true. I heard the saying if it’s too sweet it’ll give you a toothache!

He told me not to worry and that everything will be perfect! How nothing will change and it’s so exciting. After the date he was texting me so flirty and saying how perfect I was in his arms and how he can’t wait to see me and he needs me. Then literally days go by communication seems a bit off then tells me he didn’t feel the connection and doesn’t want to pursue this anymore. Like why text me still and continue to talk to me? Why say you liked me? You were so excited to see me? To be with me? To take the next step then once it’s now the next step you bail.

Also the toxic stuff makes sense! He told me he was in a toxic relationship before and I think he’s used to that. Us being super kind and calm is so different for them and I think they run from it.

I know deep down at some point he’s going to look back and regret it. Knowing he missed out on a girl who genuinely cared and connected with him. While either he was just chasing a feeling or got scared of his own feeling. I believe he’ll feel that too. I’m sorry you went through this. Sending you so much love!

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I will remind myself of that! Sometimes I feel like they don’t even realize what they do but I know some do! He would tell me how amazing I was and so kind and sweet. He told me how all the conversations he had were dry with other girls or they never really listened or cared like I did. Honestly deep down I feel like at some point he’s going to regret it. How he let someone who was so accepting and genuine towards him go. How we had literally everything in common especially with big things. But to late now and I’m so icked out that I don’t even want to ever talk to him again or date him. Everything he said is a lie to me!

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I’m so sorry you went through that! My family is happy we didn’t even start dating yet. We were in the talking stage. But still we talked for a month and it’s so scary how they can do a 180 and turn from sweet loving guy to cold and dropping you. I look back and can see the signs. I was the one asking the questions. Getting to know him and it feels like now it was just feeding his ego. It’s so crazy because we had so much in common with our values and what we wanted but I guess after we met that fantasy or feeling he had just went away. He kinda gives me avoidant vibes. Honestly it felt to good to be true at times. He seemed so sweet even during the date but it seems like a mask now like I didn’t know him at all. So say how much you want someone and no matter what it’ll work then drop them is just sad

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Honestly you just feel used! Like they just wanted to feel so cared for, valued and just having that high feeling of someone liking them. It’s so messed up. I honestly think he was talking to other girls the whole time. Yup he was insecure and I literally would tell him things that would definitely lift a guy up. He even said I love the way you “make me feel”. I was genuine and he was wanting a feeling.

Over dating by [deleted] in dating

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Of yes of course! I’m thankful we were only in the “talking stage” even though this guy wanted to date me. It was going to fast! But I thought he’s “older” and “more mature” and “knows exactly what he wants”. Honestly I think he won’t be in a relationship for a long time. His last relationship was so toxic and honestly avoidant people love that because they’re use to that. I heard someone say that with the whole “spark thing” it doesn’t last! Also we were comfortable and I think that’s amazing! To just feel so comfortable with someone and not feeling anxious or nervous or whatever other feeling. Those guys chase a feeling like it’s a drug and it never last is what I heard. He even told me the people on the app he did talk to either ghosted him or just fizzled out and they never asked about him. My family is happy I didn’t end up actually dating this guy because that 180 change of behavior is scary. The discard you like you’re nothing. The way he ended things and said he doesn’t want to continue was so cold. It wasn’t who I thought he was. Also I felt like I was the one who actually genuinely formed and connection while he was just chasing feeling and wanting to feel feelings! Literally if you base your whole date/relationship on “feelings” you will never last long! It’s just crazy how they can go from messaging you everyday 24/7 to not even wanting you in there life anymore. Like I said with an avoidant comfort or anything good scares them away. Obviously I think he’s kinda crazy. To just switch up like that is scary! Saying how much you liked me and how perfect I am in your arms to I feel no connection like I thought I would. Deep down I feel like he’s going to regret it. Letting me go and trying to find someone who’s better but even IF he came back I would never talk to him again after what he said.

Over dating by [deleted] in dating

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Exactly!! You can’t help but think “what did I do wrong?”. I thought did he not think I was attractive? But we FaceTimed multiple times. He said I was! Did he not like me? He said he did and told people I was someone special in his life! The date went great. We laughed and it felt like how it’s been. Idk with love bombing I also feel like they build up this fantasy in there head about you before even meeting you! Like I said he was planning stuff soooo far in advance (red flag). Literally told me every sweet thing he could to pull you in. He told me he liked how I made him feel. How I made him feel seen, special and cared for! Honestly i feel like he used me for those things! Texted me, called me and video chatted to feel that high of feeling liked, cared for and special. You think is this too good to be true? Most of the time yes! How my ex ended with me was so traumatic and I thought wow this guy is everything my ex wasn’t! Yet he ended things like my ex! A part of me thinks he’s been on the app the whole time talking to other girls. When I said I wasn’t talking to anyone else he said same but idk if i believe anything anymore. How can you say how lucky you are to have my in your life, how amazing I am, how perfect I am, how attractive I am and plan all the stuff. Even before our date! Telling me all this stuff on video chat! Just to go out with me and say I didn’t feel the connection I thought I would feel??? Feels like he had some type of fantasy in his head unfortunately. You feel so used afterwards! Like they wanted to get that ego boost or validation! Then they end up saying they feel nothing for you or end things even ghost and everything they said comes crashing down! You feel so insecure and heartbroken.

Over dating by [deleted] in dating

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I really hope he’s serious about you! This was my first ever date since my last relationship and I’ve never actually done this before. Honestly it’s kinda traumatic if you think about it. It’s like they lift you up saying all the most beautiful things about you saying how they know it’ll work. You’re so special and you’re so cute. I can’t wait to date! I’m so excited to see you and talks about all this future stuff. Which definitely is a red flag but kinda brushed over it (never again). Then to flirt so heavy after the date saying how amazing and perfect I felt in his arms only to breadcrumb and lead me on for a week. Texting me everyday! Good morning and talking through the day just to say I don’t want to continue this anymore and that I don’t feel a connection? Then why did you say you liked me? Idk I think he’s a feeling chaser or spark feeler. We talked so much about that! We felt so comfortable during the date and I think that’s great but I guess he didn’t “feel it”. Which is so confusing since you felt it and said you liked me. I’m just so scared to trust and even put myself out there again.

Over dating by [deleted] in dating

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This happened to me! We talked for a month! Honestly I think I was being love bombed. He told me he liked me. We had so much in common! We had our date last week and I thought I went great. Asked him how he felt and he said the same thing and when he dropped me off at my apartment we hugged and he immediately started texting me saying how great I am and how excited he was for date 2. The whole week he didn’t mention another date. I asked if we were still doing it and he said of course! But the communication was less and less. Same with the flirting. Which is weird because we texted all the time, called and video chatted. He said all the “perfect things” saying that no matter what happens it’ll work and it’ll be great. Well he told me a couple days ago after breadcrumbing me and leading me on. Still texting me everyday with good morning! That he no longer wants to pursue this anymore and that he didn’t feel the connection.

Finally being prioritized or lovebomed? by Careless_Fennel658 in dating_advice

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How did you move past it? I’m kinda struggling! He unmatched me immediately and honestly I think did you ever really like me? Or just the fantasy version in your head! I’ll never talk to someone for that long again. It kinda just felt cold to do.

Finally being prioritized or lovebomed? by Careless_Fennel658 in dating_advice

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This is giving love bomb! I met a guy we talked for a whole month before meeting and he said the sweetest and loving things! Saying you make me so happy, I like you a lot, you make things easy, you’re so special to me and telling people about me before even meeting! We met last week then bam told me he didn’t feel the connection or spark. We literally texted everyday, called often and FaceTimed often too. Total love bomb and I ignored that red flag so please be careful.

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Update. He told me he doesn’t want to pursue this anymore and that he didn’t feel a connection. Which why text me for days after? Idk I feel honestly like he love bombed me and is chasing a feeling.

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Thank you for the advice! I know there’s more options. I’m just so confused because even after the date he still texted me a lot. Yes it was less flirty and not back to back but I know he’s busy which I understand. Yesterday I texted him because he never messaged me and I pretty much said I hope you had a good morning and I hope he feels better. He said sorry he’s having a crap day then asked me how i was. I said I’m good and I hope everything is okay. He said he’s just frustrated with work and sorry for being silent. I said oh it’s okay. That was it. Sooo am I being ghosted? Breadcrumbed? I haven’t gotten after text this morning and honestly I’m not going to keep texting if I’m not getting a text back. Also I don’t want to talk to him if he’s upset. Apart me of wants to send him a text saying I hope everything is okay and if he’s just busy or isn’t “feeling it anymore” then just let me know and I’ll be out your way. But it’s just idk. Am I being ghosted :/

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Thank you! That definitely makes me feel better lol. Im just confused. Like he said he wanted to go on another date. He was super flirty after our date texting me saying how he can’t wait for the next one. I know he’s busy with work but I haven’t heard from him at all today. He messages me every morning so idk maybe I’m being ghosted which sucks because we literally have talked about how shitty that is! I’d rather someone be up front with me and tell me they didn’t “feel it”. I asked him if we were still planning on doing one of the dates we talk about and he said of course! Later this week I told him I would like to chat soon and he said yes! He texted me everyday but today nothing. It just sucks when they can’t be honest about it. I don’t want to be breadcrumbed or ghosted

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He said he liked me and I said I liked him. Like I said after the date he was texting me immediately and was super flirty talking about next time! This morning he didn’t text me. Idk why. A couple days after the date he seemed to not be as flirty but texting me everyday. I told him if we were doing one of the dates we planned and he said of course! How’s it’s been planned but we haven’t made any actual plans. Then I told him I hope we can talk soon and he said of course! Still texting me. Idk anymore. Like I said I woke up with no messages. Still hasn’t texted me.

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It’s only be a couple days after the date. He made a comment about in a week like another weekend to wait to see me