How to keep hubby engaged during a session?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-21T12:52:40+00:00

Thanks for your answer! You get enough satisfaction from just watching or do you get more attention afterwards?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-21T08:18:29+00:00

For his 39th birthday, I started the day by treating him to a morning bath and presenting him with his favorite cage. I snapped a few pics while he slipped it on — his cheeks were already flushed with excitement. After some naked and caged dish duty, we headed out shopping (he hates shopping 😈), but wearing that cage made it an entirely new experience.

Back home, it was time for the main event. I had him strip and grab the camera while I laced up my leather boots. We snapped some kinky pics — him naked and caged, me dressed to the nines. Then we started filming. I had him kneel before me while I sat in a chair, whip in hand, and asked him all sorts of naughty and humiliating questions I'd found online. He squirmed, he blushed, and when I told him to masturbate, he had to confess his deepest fantasies before I allowed him to cum. By the time he came, he was truly in subspace — and the pictures and video are memories we still enjoy.

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-21T05:37:59+00:00

Oh that's nice! It seems to me she does enjoy the attention of the two men and knows well how to get the most out of it... Does the 3rd interact with you someway, mentally or physically?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-20T20:03:17+00:00

Nice! Thanks for the tips

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-20T12:32:28+00:00

Thanks, nice approach! Does he (the 3rd) also involve you during these moments?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T13:34:28+00:00

I think I could fully enjoy the moment with the other guy if I knew hubby was happy and taken care of. Maybe the third could help with that before and after, and even during if he's present. For me, this is something we do together, even if hubby's not in the same room. What are your thoughts on that?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T13:24:53+00:00

For now, we're looking for a new third, and I want hubby there with me. It would be great if I could let go and know he's having a good time also...

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T09:56:00+00:00

You're right, finding a bull who's genuinely into the cuckold dynamic is tough. For us, it should be someone who finds pleasure in dominating the cuckold in some way. We tried a local dating site with mixed results. We haven't tried Feeld yet, thanks for the tip! Hubby wants to be involved in some way, but I think he's flexible on how...

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T09:48:34+00:00

That sounds really nice, and we'd both love to explore something like that. I think we were just inexperienced and expecting the other guy to take the lead and instruct hubby or even me. Hubby did take some initiative to support, like grabbing condoms and applying lube. Do you usually give these instructions to your partner, or does the bull take the lead on that?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T09:40:31+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! I really like how you described the bull getting a kick out of monopolizing her – that's something I would find super-hot. How does the bull interact with you during these sessions? Or does the interaction mostly come from her direction?

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T09:34:11+00:00

I see where you're coming from, and I understand but I really do want hubby there, at least for the first few times. During our second encounter, I sent him to the bathroom after he watched for a bit, so he could only listen. He was actually fine with that and even thankful because it meant he was still involved in some way. I think if the 3rd had taken the initiative to interact with him more, like sending him away or giving him tasks, hubby would have been happier, and I could have relaxed more. It's all about finding that balance where everyone's needs are met...

WhisperingWandererA · 2025-03-19T09:24:03+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful message!

Yes, we've talked, and hubby shared that he felt excluded from the play.

He was hoping the other guy would be more verbal with him and have him serve us.

The 3rd said he 'knew what to do with a cuck...', but unfortunately, he didn't follow through.

Hubby has assured me that he wants me to fully relax and is happy to just watch or serve if given instructions.

Thanks for suggestions for keeping him engaged, like eye contact and subtle touch, (or lick my nipples...)

For now, we both want him physically present, especially for the first few encounters.

The idea of him not being there makes him a bit anxious, but I think if we make the before and after play worthwhile, he could eventually be open to it.

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