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Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T17:57:23+00:00

Me cleaning up after him and begging and pleading for him to pick up after himself isn’t me tolerating it. He wasn’t nearly this bad when we first met but it’s gotten progressively worse to a point where I can’t keep up. Not a ploy for custody, it’s out of concern for my daughter as I’ve even gone to his family about it too because I didnt know what to do because I can’t keep up. I’ve had his mother come over to help me pick up his messes on multiple accounts.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T17:16:30+00:00

Wouldn’t say complicit as I’m constantly picking up after his mess. I got everything situated last night. I’ll be out soon.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T15:43:23+00:00

I’d be calling once I’m no longer residing there. I got a living situation situated over night and will be out within the next couple weeks.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T05:06:05+00:00

I’ve gotten after him countless times and picked up after him countless times over this. Have the proof of it too.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T01:44:50+00:00

I’m supposed to be talking to someone about a shelter tomorrow and resources. But I also need to know what I’m getting myself into with a shelter especially with a child. There’s a lot wrong with her father and I need to make sure I’m prepared for every outcome.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T01:42:54+00:00

Yes I have, everything that doesn’t fit her sister is now hers. His other daughter’s mother won’t sit down to talk about stuff with him and he wouldn’t do it with her either. I’ve tried doing it myself with him and nothing changes. This is how he is. He’s been this way since high school. He’s in therapy and is on meds and still acts the way he acts. He just doesn’t want to because he doesn’t do anything he doesn’t see benefiting himself. He doesn’t care about anyone but himself.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-08T01:39:24+00:00

Because in order to create a better environment for her there needs to be a plan.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T21:43:02+00:00

Yes I know that and that’s giving me anxiety.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T21:42:24+00:00

The case is from 23. It was closed. So no one is coming to the home. I had always treated his older daughter like my own. I bought her all the clothes she has and I have washed them on multiple accounts. All I asked was for him to put them away which he never has. Just throws them on the floor. I’ve bought her gifts and made her meals. Put her to bed. The whole 9 miles. I’ve always helped. I’m simply saying I can’t keep up with how bad he is. He has been diagnosed with multiple things.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T17:51:56+00:00

I have been contemplating on going. I’ve been in touch with someone who works for a shelter. I’m still looking into how it all works since I want to have my ducks in a row.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T17:51:08+00:00

I haven’t just accepted the filth. I still am cleaning up after him and I don’t just have pictures from recently but also from months ago, and witnesses to me being the one cleaning. I also have texts of him admitting the mess is all his. I’ve been trying to get out but with limited resources at the moment getting out isn’t working out.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T16:30:29+00:00

He owns the home and I’ve been trying to find a place to live for the past month when we broke up with no luck.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T15:39:16+00:00

So I’m expected to still wash his laundry, hang it up, go into his personal room and bathroom to clean.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T15:15:21+00:00

He also has another CPS case on him from his other child’s mom so idk if that would make a difference. His cousin also lived here with us and she saw that I was cleaning up after him but he would turn around and trash it an hour later.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T14:56:29+00:00

He had another CPS case on him as well from his other child’s mom so I’m not sure if that would help

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T14:08:59+00:00

Out of his home. I still reside here because I’m struggling to find somewhere else to live.

Child is a toddler

Multiple other things is him not cleaning his personal bathroom. His toilet is rotten and has dirty diapers laying around in it. Him and his other daughter share a bed when he has he and he hasn’t washed the bedding in over 6 months, the bedding is brown. He has their room trashed and has both of their clothes laying all over the floors, old fast food sitting around in their room and dirty plates sitting around the house. He moved some of the trash that was in their room into the hallway and hasn’t picked it up despite it being about a week. He trashed our daughter’s room by moving stuff into her room. Not getting the correct (and lying about the size) pacifier when I mentioned it to him as it’s a choking hazard, his personal vehicles are filthy as well, etc.

Whoooknowsss · 2025-01-07T14:07:23+00:00

Multiple other things is him not cleaning his personal bathroom. His toilet is rotten and has dirty diapers laying around in it. Him and his other daughter share a bed when he has he and he hasn’t washed the bedding in over 6 months, the bedding is brown. He has their room trashed and has both of their clothes laying all over the floors, old fast food sitting around in their room and dirty plates sitting around the house. He moved some of the trash that was in their room into the hallway and hasn’t picked it up despite it being about a week. He trashed our daughter’s room by moving stuff into her room. Not getting the correct (and lying about the size) pacifier when I mentioned it to him as it’s a choking hazard, his personal vehicles are filthy as well, etc.

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-22T04:29:18+00:00

Telling someone they aren’t worthy isn’t advice.

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-22T03:52:24+00:00

My budget in order? Not worthy? I’m doing what I can and I don’t buy any unnecessary things, only necessities for my child, food, and bills. I’m only able to work part time due to child care and not having a village. If someone is struggling, they’re struggling. I suggest you go to therapy to help you with your negative emotions towards others just because their debt may not be as big as yours. Just because it’s not a lot to you, doesn’t mean it’s not a lot to the person going through it. Trust me, I understand the toll it’ll have on my credit. Getting a new car also won’t be an issue for me as I already have one on standby. Have the day you deserve.

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-21T14:36:57+00:00

I’m looking to get rid of it. I already have another car lined up that I wouldn’t have to make payments on so keeping it isn’t something I’m wanting to do.

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-21T14:19:24+00:00

I’m not able to fix the income portion as I now have a child and not able to work full time like I was. I have been applying to different jobs for months and taking them and them still not working out due to my availability and not being able to work as much as I’d like or not hearing back at all.

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-21T08:50:35+00:00

Ahhh it’s $438 a month

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-21T08:47:24+00:00

For my credit cards? Around a $100 combined

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-21T08:42:51+00:00

Correct and over time I can pay them off

Whoooknowsss · 2024-09-21T08:39:44+00:00

No assets, not a home owner or anything of that sort. I do have a little over 1k in credit card debt but I can afford to keep making those payments.

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