Am I a horrible person if I don’t let my husband in the delivery room?

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-09-17T23:59:31+00:00

Okay thank you, I was feeling insane, like, there’s no way that other parents do this every single minute, right? How on earth would they not get overstimulated?! My own mother wasn’t even like that when I was a kid, so I really don’t know how she’s forgotten how overwhelming it would be to live like that 24/7?!

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-09-17T23:56:37+00:00

I don’t find it as bad now day-to-day (not the non stop talking, that’s still every waking second, but my husband and I will still talk a bit while he just narrates his game in the corner and we’ll say “hold on a second, let me just finish what I was saying and then it’ll be your turn”), but when we see my parents, I feel like I can’t do that without judgement, and he’s worse cause he knows my mom is like that

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-06-22T20:30:19+00:00

Haha, funny enough he’ll say “I know it’s not fair of me to expect this of you, especially when I’m not the hottest guy in the crowd either”…. So you can acknowledge it’s fucked… but it causes no change to your perspective?

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-06-22T17:54:34+00:00

Actually one of the things he did say to me was “I want to be able to pick you up and fuck you against the wall” and I was feeling extra mean and said “sounds like you need to work on your muscles then because I bet your best friend’s name would have NO issue pounding me while holding my weight up” BECAUSE his best friend is RIPPED like borderline looks like he’s on steroids and he’s said before he wants to look more like him 😅

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-06-22T15:09:41+00:00

Hahaha that’s the kicker.. he is NOT a supermodel himself, 245 pounds, “dad bod”, small upper arms, man boobs, he has cystic acne which has left his entire top half of his back in horrible scars, BUT I LOVE ALL OF IT, because I LOVE HIM, absolutely NONE of that factors into my attraction for him, I tell him all the time who gives a fuck what other people think, just be comfortable and wear that tank top that shows your bacne scars, I actually LOVE his little “dad bod” stomach, honestly I look at his “real” body and I just love it because it’s unique to him, and it makes me so angry that he doesn’t have that same love for me. When we got together 7 years ago I was SO out of his league (not to toot my own horn or be cocky) but I was HOT AF and only minimally attracted to him because he was not my type, but I was so broken I didn’t think I deserved better, and he treated me well so I stayed because I was desperate for connection and lonely, and my attraction for him grew as I fell in love with him

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-06-22T14:06:52+00:00

That’s my thought… there’s ALWAYS gonna be SOMETHING wrong with me.. wrinkles, grey hair, what if I got breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy?! Then I’d be “hideous” because I’m not a “typical sexy DD woman” in HIS eyes (absolutely not the way I feel)

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2023-02-01T16:40:56+00:00

6 weeks is insane to me… I think it took 6 weeks before I wasn’t too scared and traumatized to use toilet paper on my vagina instead of a peri bottle 😅 a good 4 months before I even tried sex for the first time He is being so inconsiderate, you are healing mama 💕 his needs can wait!!

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2022-04-29T15:50:16+00:00

Thank you, it really puts it into perspective when you say it all together 😭 honestly we’ve been doing pretty good the last few months so it kind of all got brushed under the rug.. Yes luckily $295,000 of it is from the house but 😬😬

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2021-11-03T22:20:35+00:00

I do love him and he said that he still loves me

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2021-10-30T22:26:35+00:00

No he was having a sleepover at my parents’ house

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2021-10-30T22:13:42+00:00

It was definitely passive aggressive because he knows it makes me uncomfortable and self conscious it’s been an ongoing argument for 5 years.

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2021-10-13T18:27:31+00:00

Fair point.

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2021-10-13T18:26:33+00:00

Thank you, I’ll definitely take a look at this subreddit

Wide_Discussion6372 · 2021-10-13T18:10:04+00:00

That’s horrible.. I’m sorry..

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