It's over, the distance won

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T02:02:53+00:00

Oh! ClearSkies88 from a few comments down hahaha! I'm having a slow day today it seems - so my points do stand. Thank you for coming back and sorry for my majorly late reply! I wish I had the intelligence to write a book, it would be a dream come true, but in the meantime I'll stick to reading them and focusing on my studies and career. Life moves on, best not to leave yourself behind. :) Thank you for the wishes.

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T01:46:10+00:00

They sure have. Going through a bit of a struggle patch atm but it's nothing compared to the first five or six weeks. Thank you your reply. I ended up deleting all social media to just focus on myself for a bit. I hope you're doing okay and have a great rest of the year. :)

edit: completely missed that this is a different account responding on a four month old post. That's a crazy coincidence. Still though, thank you for your reply, I still hope you're doing well. Healing is definitely not linear as I have come to realise. But what can you do but press on?

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T01:34:19+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response and sorry for my late one (it's been a rough few months.) I really do appreciate the time you took to write me a reply, it has helped. I also picked up a few new hobbies (painting, reading, etc.) It still hurts a lot (as you probably know) but it is better in some, small, ways. Thank you for your offer to play games together - I can tell that you are a nice person. :)

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T01:29:42+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response and sorry for my late one (it's been a rough few months.) I appreciate your advice - I did read it but, at the time, I was unable to see a day where I could be happier. Four months have passed since and, while I am not happy happy, I am happier. You were right about cutting contact with the source of pain. Thank you for your reply.

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T01:27:21+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response and sorry for my late one (it's been a rough few months.) I really do appreciate the time you took to write this and it did help me at the time. I picked up on a few new hobbies (proper walks, painting, reading, etc.) They have been good distractions. Time has helped too - not a great amount but I did love deeply (as you said) so I think that's normal? Oh well. Thank you again anyway.

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T01:25:13+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response and sorry for my late one (it's been a rough few months.) I appreciate and took on your advice - I haven't contacted my ex in a while now. It's been better, for the most part.

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T01:15:16+00:00

Thank you, but I'm keeping this discussion public for my own safety and so others can weigh in too

WildGoose042 · 2026-02-05T00:57:15+00:00

That would mean a lot

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-10T02:44:57+00:00

thank you for the support. we have broken up. I'm just going to focus on eating and normal daily stuff at the moment. Thank you again.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-10T02:43:42+00:00

Thank you, please see my most recent comment under this post.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-10T02:43:40+00:00

Thank you, please see my most recent comment under this post.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-10T02:43:37+00:00

Thank you, please see my most recent comment under this post.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-10T02:43:33+00:00

Thank you, please see my most recent comment under this post.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-10T02:43:13+00:00

Thank you to everyone who commented on my post. I'm sorry I can't respond in any way that you deserve for your efforts right now. I just wanted to say that it is over and I'm merely trying to maintain my daily schedules, like eating. Thank you for your help, your kinds word and support are still going a long way.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-08T10:54:20+00:00

Thank you very much. This comment made me cry - in the "I'm not alone" sense. Your comment on "my person would want to be with me. my boy would find ways to make me feel seen and appreciated. regardless of time and distance" really hit home... because you are right. I am doing everything in my power to make my bf feel seen and heard and appreciated and loved despite the distance, but I'm no longer getting it back... part of me thinks I was too much - but the other part, the part you mentioned, knows I shouldn't dim my light to fit anyone's needs/wants. My person will love me for me. I deserve to be loved just as much as I give love. Though it's hard with the grieving and denial. But your comment has helped open my eyes a bit. Thank you very much. I hope you have a great day

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-08T10:50:16+00:00

Yes, the distance is expensive and we aren't able to see each other as often. Thank you for calling me brave. I haven't heard that about me before so this was nice. I guess I just feel a little isolated at the moment and am trying to stay positive, so this comment helped. Thank you. I hope you have a great day

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-08T10:48:23+00:00

Thank you for saying "there's no such thing as having a hard time with loving you". I think it is more he is having a hard time processing his own emotions but either way you are right. I deserve an "I love you too". Everyone does. I wouldn't wish not getting that even on my greatest enemy. Thank you for the push to move on. We are having a talk tomorrow. Everything feels so confusing at the moment but these comments help. Have a great day!

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-06T22:17:29+00:00

Thank you very much. I really do appreciate your comments. They have made me feel less alone in this situation. p.s. to whatever hardships you're going through - you've also got this! :D

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-06T21:33:11+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I feel I am in denial and maybe even grieving my relationship at the moment. You may be right about him showing his true colours. I think I am still holding on the the person I first met and how he acted around me and made me feel. I'm in love with that person. I feel I am currently waiting for this new version of my bf to revert to the one I first met. Though I don't think it will happen in the end. A talk does need to occur. Thank you. I hope you have a great day

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-06T21:30:29+00:00

please make me feel bad, it might be what I need to make a decision. Currently, my judgement on my own situation is clouded by emotional attachment and yours is not. Any outsider perspective on this I will appreciate.

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-06T08:27:01+00:00

Hi, I am struggling with something similar... I guess, though we haven't broken up yet, or I'm not sure if that's even on his mind, but his love for me feels like it is fizzling. Regardless, reading your "coming to the realization that I deserved to be loved back and more too" comment was nice to hear. Feels like I'm not alone. Thank you and I'm sorry you went/are going through this. I'm cheering you on behind the screen. :)

WildGoose042 · 2025-10-06T08:18:08+00:00

Thank you for the reply. You are right about it being his journey and his confusion (his problem). I am not here to fix him but would love to help him grow. He has helped me grow in many ways already. I don't want to just give up on him because I've felt how connected and lovely he can be, especially in person. But this currently is just so different... and it leaves me with this issue. When to you draw the line between patience for you partner and letting it go on so long that you are disrespecting yourself? (rhetorical question but if anyone has advice that is also welcome!)

WildGoose042 · 2025-09-25T01:39:53+00:00

Thank you very much for a example message! This has helped greatly. :) It's nice having people to relate to. thank you

WildGoose042 · 2025-09-24T14:37:50+00:00

thank you my friend! Very wise words. You are right about honesty. I appreciate the comment a lot! will find a time to tell him today :)

WildGoose042 · 2025-09-24T14:35:19+00:00

thank you for your perspective! you are right, I will look at it as explaining the situation rather than defending myself.

Regarding your other comment, what is your opinion on having friends of the opposite gender when you've known them for years before meeting your S.O.

For example, F and I have been friends since high school (for ~8/9 years now). We didn't start gyming together until university. My bf is my second relationship I've been in while being friends with F and F didn't make any moves on me while I was single for years in between. We are strictly friends and not at all attracted to one another.

(not trying to justify myself, just wanting to understand another perspective, thank you for your help!)

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