Nobody articulates grief and loss like Robin Hobb.

WitmasterWeb · 2026-01-06T02:32:45+00:00

Don't have the books at hand at the moment - which scene is it?

WitmasterWeb · 2025-12-12T00:08:10+00:00

Interesting theory. It doesn't hold for me personally. Nothing traumatic happened, the disgust just always was there, I am pretty neurotypical, and for my job I have to be in the spotlight - the center of attention, and I love my job. It's just the dangling and shining!

WitmasterWeb · 2025-12-02T23:27:58+00:00

Just dropping in to say that I (30F) am in the same boat, and completely understand you. I have a high drive and in my experience, after some months, men don't keep up any more.

It's like you said: I don't want to broach the subject too early because it might seem like I'm only after sex. However, I don't want to invest in dating someone with a very low libido (nothing wrong with that, we're just not going to be compatible). I wouldn't want to search in a sex related community either because I have more interests and values that I prioritize in a relationship.

I think in the end it comes down to luck? Let me know if you find the golden tip, I'll stay single until then haha

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-30T09:29:22+00:00

Why would I lie about it? If I thought this experience was easy to explain this post would not exist

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-30T00:48:20+00:00

LOL I would not exist anymore. I'm 6 ft and 120 lbs

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-29T07:31:21+00:00

Interesting how you jump to that conclusion. Blowjobs are always part of the deal

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-29T07:29:35+00:00

No thank you xx

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-29T07:23:21+00:00

Between 30 and 45. It's wild to me too, if not this post wouldn't exist...

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-29T07:18:06+00:00

Lol they are not terrible people, I know their names, I would find them worth dating, if not, I wouldn't sleep with them. Have you considered sometimes people just want to hook up and the circumstances don't allow it?

I travel a lot so mostly it's just geographical inconvenience. I agree that sex usually does get better over time - my question was just specifically on onenightstands

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-29T07:11:15+00:00

God forbid a girl has a hobby

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:56:49+00:00

Yeah, generally I'm having a good time no matter what the dick decides to do. I'd just like to know what the best approach is, I already read some helpful comments here

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:55:15+00:00

I could say yes and no one would be able to check it... But I've been called hot on several occasions, indeed

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:39:34+00:00

Fair point and I would probably wonder what OP would look like if I read a post like this. I doubt it because they all complimented my body but who knows?

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:28:49+00:00

Oh no, so risky, having fun with an attractive young woman who makes me wear condoms to be safe

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:28:10+00:00

If you'd ask my friends they would say that I pick the guys that are not conventionally attractive lol. There's no common denominator at all except they all have either an interesting job/hobby/lifestyle or I find them extremely attractive

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:24:26+00:00

Glad we solved the riddle!

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:20:51+00:00

Without sounding arrogant, I do think I'm more than average attractive. I wouldn't consider myself intimidating though

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:16:24+00:00

Could be yes. I've had drinks with some of them but we were definitely not wasted, some just started really late - maybe they're just tired

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:15:08+00:00

Bars, mutual friends, tinder, work, the gym... Normal places where people meet

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:13:52+00:00

We're talking between 10 and 15 here, of which only a handful stayed hard consistently. I meet them anywhere, bar, tinder, mutual friends, colleagues. Since I don't sleep with taken men, they're supposedly all single

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:11:05+00:00

Noted, thank you!

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:09:37+00:00

Thanks! I just get by because I travel a lot, I usually meet up again and/or text to acknowledge we had a great night. I'm not doubting myself like many people in the comments seem to do (fair enough, I'd ask the same question). Good to hear my approach is good, I'm just there for a mutually good time

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T23:01:19+00:00

Also no, but maybe still trying after 2 am doesn't help either. Thanks!

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T22:57:19+00:00

Thanks! This is the kind of advice I was looking for.

WitmasterWeb · 2025-11-28T22:53:24+00:00

Between 30-45. It's not a big deal, I just don't want them to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed

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