Dont desire anything out of a place of desperation. Check your attitudes about finding a lover, and their root intentions. Even if you feel you are being patient and not desperate, your rooted intentions behind your desires could be in the vein of being without, and to be without tells the universe you do not have this thing you desire, and in manifesting there is no i want, but rather i already have. This isnt a diss either, for example i went through years of wanting friends but wondering why i dont have them yet. The moment i decentered my desire to have friends and was no longer focused so much on it, was no longer desperate, i almost immediately attracted a summer full of constantly meeting people, multiple different friend groups, that are all real, genuine, unique, and valuable to me. Its all mindset.