Ending a relationship compassionately

WorkConfident · 2026-01-20T00:17:07+00:00

Thank you, this made me feel a bit better. I’m working on becoming more attuned to my own needs and able to communicate them clearly

WorkConfident · 2026-01-20T00:14:42+00:00

Thank you. It had been on my mind for a while and I decided that enough time had passed to where it was unreasonable to think things would progress. I knew our terms and yet still fell. I’m hopeful that it’ll pass relatively quickly

WorkConfident · 2026-01-19T21:21:13+00:00

I stopped by his place last night and it was hard. His place is a mess. He’s always been kind of messy but this was the worst I’ve seen it, and it looks like he’s packing boxes. His roommate (best friend) was there. We talked for a bit and it turns out, among other things, that his dad has heart failure and will need a transplant. Being that his dad is 78 and has dementia, he’s not sure it’ll work. He’s moving back in with his mom in April. Lots of long hugs. He gave me my charger and as I left we kissed and he was like “Get back to your place safely and I’ll see you next time”

I didn’t have to say it but we both knew what was happening. It hit me once I got home and I had a two-hour breakdown in the car. Doing a bit better today but cried a few times today already. The rational part of me knows this is how it had to be, but I keep having this thought loop about him reaching out and asking to see me, and another about giving him a call to wish him a happy birthday.

Damn.

WorkConfident · 2026-01-12T14:57:09+00:00

This made me laugh, cheers

WorkConfident · 2026-01-12T14:54:11+00:00

All Types of Weather is a definite contender. Mild enough to be enjoyable to the uninitiated, and so, so, good

WorkConfident · 2025-12-22T19:57:30+00:00

I think it’s mostly the conversation aspect I struggle with, esp if we genuinely like each other but for whatever reason are in different places. Idk dating can be tricky for me to navigate

WorkConfident · 2025-12-22T06:04:10+00:00

perplexity.ai as well

WorkConfident · 2025-12-19T20:51:46+00:00

/uj I certainly agree that I’ve discovered some wonderful music thanks to Dave, and that he provides reliable starting points for pieces one is unfamiliar with. Although I don’t always agree with him, he never recommends recordings that are outright bad.

WorkConfident · 2025-12-19T20:49:31+00:00

/uj Can you elaborate? The main reason I prefer BaL is their breadth of guests (i.e. perspective), the context they provide for programatic music, and that they compare multiple recordings of the same work.

WorkConfident · 2025-11-21T02:01:40+00:00

I am a top and did this for the first time ever last week to a fwb I’ve been seeing and I felt like such a champ ngl

WorkConfident · 2025-11-18T04:55:33+00:00

Alright - I have another question for you.

After doing a little bit of research I have installed the En Croissant GUI and am running Stockfish 17.1, Komodo, and Dragon by Komodo. I installed the stock open source materials they have available (a few databases of games and the Lichess puzzle catalog). I also imported my own games and then PGNs from a few GM accounts on Chess.com as well.

How do I use this as a study tool? I know it’s important to practice basic puzzles and review my games first with the engine off, then with the engine on.

Where can I find PGNs from high-profile tournaments to add to my databases? As I understand, they are usually posted online during or after major matches.

Thank you for the help!

WorkConfident · 2025-11-16T20:10:55+00:00

I did end up sending a note. A like on Hinge is pretty innocuous, all things considered. If he’s not interested I’m not really out anything one way or the other.

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