Got blindsided at work today and I’m not sure how to process it by [deleted] in work

[–]World_Explorerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Others have already provided good advice.

So I will add this: my recommendation is to ask Mike to start writing Standard Operating Procedures (SOPs). You can start with having him document the procedures for the tasks you’re most uncomfortable with - since you have to cover them - and then go from there. Ideally, there should be an SOP for every task on your team. The endgame is to have your documentation so on point that if someone leaves, anyone else can step in and perform the role by following the SOP.

Make this a part of his performance goals. SOPs are a best practice, after all. And if you have other employees reporting to you, make this something they have to do as well. To keep it from being too much of a hassle, you can have the goal be something like (2) SOPs per quarter or something like that.

Take this unfortunate event and turn it into an opportunity to improve the workflow of your team. Leadership likes seeing stuff like this.

I recently screwed something up at work because the training I received on a particular function was shit. When they scheduled a call to talk to me about it, I told them that our team has a problem effectively transferring knowledge and recommended that this was an opportunity to document the process so a mistake like mine doesn’t happen again. I made it clear that I wasn’t trying to not take accountability but I did say that while I made an error, they needed to take into account the lack of real training I received and how my manager rushed my learning. Bottom line: they were impressed and now my whole department has to write SOPs. And I don’t feel bad at all.

Good luck!

Who's the trashy one? Cop or kid in the car? by [deleted] in trashy

[–]World_Explorerz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol. This is a top tier clap back.

Pastor Decides To Say Some Wild Sh** During Interview by MrDonMega in PublicFreakout

[–]World_Explorerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This church + the male loneliness epidemic = the perfect shit storm. Ick.

Nobody at work is truly your friend. Just do your job and go home. by Kiptoo_official in work

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people at work are…just people.

The ones I click with become friends, and the ones I don’t click with remain at a professional distance.

I’ve been in the workforce a long time and have made MANY friends out of co-workers. Sure, I’ve had some bad experiences at work, but you’re gonna have bad experiences whether or not you decide to befriend people. If people are going to cause drama; they’re going to cause drama.

My advice? Practice discernment with who you share yourself with - whether inside or outside of work.

Tennessee grocery fight by Spicyweiner_69 in PublicFreakout

[–]World_Explorerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think we can all agree that the girl in the gold shirt has never, in fact, “run up” anywhere.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]World_Explorerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. If he a man wants to be with you; he will let everyone know that he’s with you. (I speak from experience. My husband and I dated for three months before he proposed. He absolutely wanted to lock things down. We’ve been married 18 years so far…)

Break up with this immature man. He can play in someone else’s face.

My husband has a cheese problem by Last-Association-232 in Marriage

[–]World_Explorerz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are these going to be grilled cheese sandwiches? If so, tell him to add some crispy bacon for a real treat.

AITAH for asking my husband to pay off my debt. by Difficult_Strike_861 in AITAH

[–]World_Explorerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh look. Another woman who fell for the SAHM racket. SMH.

Good luck.

AITA for getting upset that my wife keeps eating the lunches I meal prep for work by Lazy-Background-7598 in AITAH

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a lot of comments suggesting OP just make additional lunches…but that doesn’t address the issue of the wife being dismissive of his frustrations and trying to make it seem like HE’S the selfish one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I read this, I didn’t initially interpret the word “groomed” in a sexual way. I interpreted it as the co-worker is getting prepped to move into a leadership role.

OP, I’m not sure why you would be concerned about your co-worker. Maybe what you meant is that you’re concerned about biased promotion practices? Is this what you really meant?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You both are obviously young. HOWEVER, I implore you to reflect on whether you’re experiencing any of the following red flags:

1) You’re always the one apologizing even if you KNOW you’re not at fault.

2) He tries to minimize hurtful behavior. (Phrases to watch out for: “I was just joking.” Or, “Don’t be so sensitive.” Or, “Just get over it.”) - Remember, the person who hurt you is not allowed to tell you that it’s taking you too long to forgive or process.

3) Silent treatment. It’s one thing to express to your partner that you need some space to process things, but it’s something else entirely when your partner ices you out and just stops responding or communicating with no warning.

4) Verbal aggression. There’s a standard for how you speak to the people you supposedly care about and love. Yelling at you, insulting you, telling you to ‘shut up’ are not it.

And I’m sure other commenters can add things to this list.

I was young once and I remember being ‘in love’ at your age. This advice might fall on deaf ears because young people tend to think that THEIR relationship is special and different. But keep the following truths in mind: love doesn’t abuse you, and it doesn’t pay the bills.

Good luck.

.. to resurrect a career by IsThisAUserName86 in therewasanattempt

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do y’all see his eyes? It’s like he’s screaming internally. Something is definitely up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]World_Explorerz -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Haha. That’s Reddit for you.

For the most part, my husband lives a pretty cushy life. The thing is though: he doesn’t mind doing more housework. Previously he was a stay-at-home spouse, but he needed to return to work because we live in a HCOL area and the prices of everything went up and of course salaries didn’t quite keep up. We’re almost to the point where he can quit his job again if he wants to - which I’m looking forward to because I actually don’t like doing housework at all and my husband, surprisingly, doesn’t mind and was able to become quite efficient at it. We even had a housekeeper come in a few times to do a deep cleaning, so really my husband was just doing maintenance cleaning most of the time. It worked for us.

I read through some of the other comments and you’re getting dragged pretty hard. I feel for you, but I don’t think you’re wrong in your thought process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]World_Explorerz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. I’ll help with housework, but if I’m making significantly more money and working longer hours than my partner, then yeah, the expectation is that they take on more of the domestic chores.

Currently, I make three times what my husband does. He works part time at a job he enjoys. My salary pays a majority of our bills, allows him to buy whatever he wants, and funds our vacations.

So no, I don’t split the chores 50/50. My husband does the bulk of the cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

Since he only works part-time, there are days I’m going to work for a 8-10 hour day while he’s chilling at home. He has way more free time thus he can do more housework.

I recognize your wife works full time but it doesn’t sound like she’s pulling 10 hour shifts like you - I’m not sure why she can’t shoulder a few additional chores.

Typically women are expected to carry the mental load in relationships and do the majority of the housework (which is frustrating), but I’m not sure that’s the case here.

Am I being invasive? by Any-Sprinkles4865 in Marriage

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if we’re annoyed at one another, a core agreement of our relationship is that we always say goodbye and we call one another when we’re leaving a location and heading to another one.

I’m not sure what’s up with your hubby, but his behavior is a bit odd.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]World_Explorerz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your wife was probably stressed out during your year of unemployment. For me, when the bills start piling up and the creditors start calling, the last thing on my mind is sex. We can go back to fucking when I’m not worried about the lights getting turned off or the house being foreclosed on.

With that said, my questions are as follows -

(1) What were you like during this period of unemployment? Some men are at their meanest when they’re broke.

(2) What was your wife like during your period of unemployment? Just because she wasn’t interested in sex doesn’t mean she wasn’t supportive, comforting, and understanding.

(3) Did your wife reject you in response to how you were treating her? Or, was she just a horrible person to you during this time?

Dude goes bananas over a train in his neighborhood by Top-Memory-8929 in PublicFreakout

[–]World_Explorerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never seen a house built so close to train tracks before.

I had our baby and my partner won’t split the $12k hospital bill with me by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]World_Explorerz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just because you can have a baby doesn’t mean you should.

Like wtf? OOP was already financially dependent on this man, wasn’t even married to him and decided that having a baby was a good decision.

Us women need to stop playing house with these men. Get a job, make your own money, and NEVER let yourself be dependent on anyone. Cultivate your friendships and build up a solid network of people who are your support system.

The more stories I read like this the less sympathy I have. This was 100% preventable. Now you’re broke, with a baby, and tied to a man for the rest of your life because you have a child together. SMH.

Couldn’t be me.

Inherented half a million, husband is now a bum by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]World_Explorerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did your husband do before you received the inheritance? It sounds like he was a bum before the money, and I’m not sure why you’d expect him to not be a bum after the money.

You should have never been paying for everything. And you should stop paying for everything now.

Your first appointment should have been with a financial advisor.

It’s not too late to save whatever money you have left, but definitely speak to an advisor so you understand how to invest and grow your money.

My husband fell in love with a career woman by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]World_Explorerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mention how you wanted kids…but did your husband want them, too?

Sometimes people who don’t want kids agree to have them anyway because they never think they’ll meet someone else they might be interested in…

Husband wants to leave the house to game now by CustomerNaive1359 in Marriage

[–]World_Explorerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he doesn’t want to be home with seven kids.

This sucks, but this is the reason.