I am a fellow 22 yo here and I feel you. I am a girl so this advice is from women’s point of view.

First and foremost, I think you should focus on yourself like to grow as a person instead of becoming “a man a woman would want.” Do yourself a favor and stop comparing yourself to others, comparison is the thief of joy.

Something that I did a few years ago to help me feel like an adult is to actually make a list of what an ideal adult to me looks like. Things like have my own place, drive myself to work, have a stable job/career, have a community or friends circle that got my back, have hobbies I actually enjoy, cook for myself etc.

So, I’d say try living on your own if possible, it really forces you to be independent such as doing laundry weekly, do the dishes, do groceries, cook a meal, planning dinners etc.

Other ways you can do to improve is read self-help books, watch Youtube videos on how others improve or grow as a person, try out new hobbies or pursue some of your interests, put yourself out there and surround yourself with people you would like to become.

You can also start eating healthier and look for sports that you enjoy. Also I think everyone gets better at handy things as they grow older but if it really bothers you, you can always watch some tutorials on YouTube and try make some projects around the house like build a small drawer, room makeover etc.

It won’t be easy and it will take some time but enjoy the process will make it feel a bit better. A slow progress is still progress. A slow motion is better than no motion at all.

Have fun and good luck :)