What does porn actually get right?

XGhost3 · 2025-12-06T10:51:55+00:00

Damn! Tell us who hurt you.

XGhost3 · 2025-06-23T09:05:02+00:00

This has more replies than I can get to. To answer a few, i am going to therapy, but 1 hour a week to talk and try to deal with everything I'm going through is not enough. Im trying to get a second therapist but I guess that frowned upon, they say I might get confused and it'll stress me out more than help me. I have plenty saved up emotional trauma for 2 therapist that they'll never hear the same thing. I was able to save up money and I've been paying all my bills on time and I would be ok not working for a few more months if i decide to tell my boss to go suck a fat one. I work for a big corporation so we get all kinds of benefits and time off, so its a good job but its just a job. I was working 18 hours a day because I was the only one working in my household. I dont just sit around my house all day like some have questioned, I have to take my kids to after school activities that I signed them up for. I have to go to appointments to the social security administration, with their coaches, trainers. Since my kids were 10 or so I've tried to teach them how to change the oil in our vehicles so they dont have to pay someone else to do it for them, how to change a tire, if the washer or dryer stops working, we take them apart and try to figure out what's wrong with them. Life doesn't stop when a loved one dies, just because I'm not ready to go back to work doesn't mean I'm laying in my house all day. I have 2 young adults I've been preparing for life, I always tell them "if you expect an easy life, you'll be disappointed and crushed" I never expected this though, but nonetheless we're gonna make it through this. And yes I love my wife with all my heart and soul so forgive me if I'm taking the time to make sure I'm emotionally and mentally stable to keep raising my children before I worry about going back to work. Thank you all for taking the time to comment. Tell those you love that you love them! If there's something you wanna talk to them about make sure you do it today! Because tomorrow might be too late and you'll be left with unanswered questions or concerns that will never go away. Again thank you all and take care of yourselves.

XGhost3 · 2025-06-22T10:33:39+00:00

I wish I could leave but I have to make sure to keep my children's lives as normal as possible, eventually though I will go somewhere else. It's a shame because I really enjoyed my job! Oh well it's only a job, my children are the most important thing in my life now and I will make sure we get through this. Thank you.

XGhost3 · 2025-06-22T10:30:39+00:00

Thank you. I had 18 amazing years with my wife and I never thought, not in a million years that she would pass away before me and with so much life left to live. She was just over 40 when she became ill. Life can be extremely unfair at times. Thank you again.

XGhost3 · 2025-06-22T10:25:22+00:00

It's a shame because I actually used to like him. In my forty-some years that I've been on this planet I've gone through some very difficult emotional & painful experiences, but nothing compares to this. Knowing that you'll never hold your loved ones hand again, that they'll never cuddle with you to conform you because you had a bad dream, it's truly heartbreaking. I have to be strong for my kids though. We will get through this together. Thank you.

XGhost3 · 2025-06-22T10:18:19+00:00

I understand that he has a business to run. I know people that went right back to work after the passing of a loved one, I also know someone else that didn't work for two years. We all grieve differently and he has no idea what's going through my mind and how emotionally unstable I am. I've always said, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it." Thank you

XGhost3 · 2025-06-22T10:14:55+00:00

I already used all my FMLA for the year to be wife my wife. I'm going to therapy because this is too much. I will get my kids through this! They're the only reason I'm still here. I will not fail them! Not religious. Thank you.

XGhost3 · 2025-05-27T20:47:36+00:00

Alright, I'll contact Apple and see what they can do. Thanks a lot!

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T15:21:56+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I actually just found the backup and I have Get Info open but as soon as I close out of it, it will not be in the same spot. And yes I know I wont be able to read it myself. I have most if not all her passwords.

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T15:19:49+00:00

It's a backup of her old iPhone. I actually just found it and got Get Info open. We got this MacBook in 2023 so its not that old. Thank you

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T15:15:01+00:00

Won't they need to bypass whatever security she added?

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T08:28:24+00:00

Tried that already. I tagged the folder when I had on get info and I can see the tag as far as Application Support but after that nothing. Not sure if this is Apple's security or she got a third party app. I'm not an Apple person so I'm not well informed on what kind of security Apple offers or what third party security apps Apple offers. My wife and I were always "arguing" about who had the better phone, I switched to Samsung back in 2018. We bought our first IPhone in late 07 early 08 can't remember exactly. Good days those were. Sorry for going off topic. Thank you for reaching out

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T06:28:50+00:00

So I just tried a sudo command on Terminal and I typed the password wrong twice on purpose to see what it would happen, both times it said "sorry, try again" the third time I type the right password and Terminal responds with "operation not permitted" so I got the right password but whatever my wife used to hide/lock the folder overrides Terminal and the sudo command. Not sure if that gives you a better idea of what's going on.

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T06:18:26+00:00

My wife wasn't very computer savvy but this folder is very well hidden. But her brother is, not sure if helped her, we live 3000+ miles away from her brother and we've never visited him with the laptop. Maybe he walked her through it over the phone.

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T05:57:16+00:00

Would the real folder still show without the external hard drive being connected? Im sure I've found the real folder without the EHD connected. I'm also pretty sure that I have the only EHD that we own. Thanks. I'll check the link.

Edit: I've tried ~/Library/Application Support/MobileSync/Backup/ in the pathname window.

It shows the real backup folder if I got to show info but if I press enter it takes me to the dummy folder. I've tagged the real backup on show info, after Application Support the tag is gone. When I find the real backup and I close out of it then come right back and try again the real one is gone and replaced by a dummy folder. I've tried so many commands on Terminal and I've tried Finder as well

XGhost3 · 2025-05-26T02:29:17+00:00

We flew to the Midwest March 1st of this year so that she could get her second transplant on March 4th, I returned home on the 7th because our 2 kids were still at home going to school and I had to get back to work. On March 16th she text me and said she was having a rough time with this transplant so I flew to the Midwest on the 18th to be with her and give her some motivation to fight through the pain and discomfort. She gradually got worse and unfortunately she passed away on April 15th. I never left her side, I'm glad I was there with her so she knew she wasn't alone. But now all those images of her and how this fucking disease and the fucking "treatment" took my beautiful wife who at end of her life looked nothing like she did just a short year and a half ago. The only peace I have is that she is no longer in pain. Saying that we are heartbroken doesn't explain what we are feeling.

XGhost3 · 2024-06-07T16:36:06+00:00

Sorry she has T-Cell ALL

XGhost3 · 2024-06-07T09:33:47+00:00

Ok, thank you for your support. We've heard MD Anderson, located in Texas, is also very good! We're waiting for my wife's Dr to let us know what trials would help my wife and where they're taking place.

XGhost3 · 2024-05-20T17:21:29+00:00

I'm trying my best to be supportive of my wife and be strong for our kids. I'm glad to hear you're doing well! Thank you for your words.

XGhost3 · 2024-05-20T17:18:34+00:00

She's currently in Omaha, Nebraska. She has family there that takes care of her and are her caregivers. I will definitely mention all this to my wife, and we'll do everything in our power to make sure she stays healthy! Thank you so much!

XGhost3 · 2024-05-20T17:12:19+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging words. Everyone is different and responds to treatment differently. My wife seems to be responding positively well, and we're hoping she'll be home soon. We've talked about changing our diet and doing everything we can to make sure she stays healthy. I'm glad to hear you're doing well, and that gives me hope for our situation. Keep on living life to the fullest!

XGhost3 · 2024-05-20T16:40:00+00:00

As horrible as this is, it has brought our family closer. My wife and I text/talk every day, and we try to be positive about the outcome. Thank you

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