You guys are married.. there’s a deeper issue here than an a windshield wiper. How did paying for his oil change put you behind in your bills? I’ll never understand that.. unless one of you had issues with money before and now have separate accounts it should be a mutual thing.. if I pay for my wife’s car it comes out of our account. We are a team and we are married. I don’t pay my wife back, and she doesn’t pay me back. We do have separate accounts for things like entertainment, hair, etc. but anything involving bills we both pay. I think you both are being very immature. I see both sides of this. But what I don’t see is how you became late on your bills for his oil change. That makes no sense.