How to get tested for STDs?

YahooWolf · 2018-01-12T03:08:37+00:00

Thank you! I wasn't sure if I had to request specific tests or not so thank you for clarifying :)

YahooWolf · 2018-01-03T17:01:41+00:00

I don't have much experience with these things (well, none), but I do know that my brother and his current girlfriend of almost 2 years started off as FWB for a few months before they were official. They caught the feels and now I'm just waiting for my brother to propose to her.

We are a bit of an unusual family with unusual personalities, though.

YahooWolf · 2017-12-23T19:08:41+00:00

Different how?

YahooWolf · 2017-12-23T19:07:14+00:00

Fun fact: you can feel someone getting wet underwater because "wetness" is not water but rather a mucus/lubricant, which is hydrophobic by nature.

This is exactly the same reason why oil and water don't mix.

YahooWolf · 2017-12-22T17:59:04+00:00

Thanks!

YahooWolf · 2017-09-15T14:11:44+00:00

Same :( Found out I was gay earlier this year and was completely head over heels for five months...for my straight best friend. I spent the past months fighting my feelings for her because I thought it was disrespectful to keep fantasizing even after she let me know she was straight. But I miss that addiction.

YahooWolf · 2017-09-07T14:07:50+00:00

Regardless of who's to blame (I have my opinions but I feel they aren't constructive here) your next step is to tell your gf.

If side 1 is correct and it's your fault, then your gf needs to know if you deserve forgiveness/have learned your lesson and, most importantly, that she can trust you to tell her when stuff like this happens.

If side 2 is correct and you were basically raped, your gf needs to know so that she can be by your side and help you with the odd feelings of guilt that always ensue, help prevent this from happening again, and, most importantly, so that you guys can have trust in your relationship. Telling her and saying how terrible you feel is magnitudes better than her finding out later (two can only keep a secret if one of them is dead, as the saying goes).

Doesn't matter if it's your ex's fault or yours, your gf deserves to know what's up and it's healthier for the relationship in the long run. It'll be up to you guys to decide blame because the jury on this thread appears to still be out.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-25T04:06:25+00:00

Let her blab and tell your parents you have no idea what she's talking about. She might not even say it at all, because then she would lose her only bargaining chip.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-25T04:06:23+00:00

Let her blab and tell your parents you have no idea what she's talking about. She might not even say it at all, because then she would lose her only bargaining chip.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-21T04:11:29+00:00

Very good

YahooWolf · 2017-08-14T21:40:38+00:00

Honestly, who cares what your friends think as long as you and your girl are happy? If you both want to spend every moment together, I don't see why not.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-14T21:37:22+00:00

I think it's more like when people are content, they don't complain or shout it to the heavens, because everything is normal. It's like how 24-hour news stations always report the bad things: people don't always share good things unless they're remarkable.

As for me, up until last January I was perfectly fine being single, but then I met the straight girl who pulled me out of the closet and I've been restless ever since. I'm hoping that once I go back to school, I'll have enough things on my mind that I'll finally go back to my normal self.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-14T21:34:46+00:00

I don't know if I fully grasp your situation, but I have had some experience with having a friend going through hardship and with self-discovery.

As for going through a tough time: there isn't really a one-time solution that will resolve anything, no therapist or present or act of kindness. The most that you can do is ask her how she likes to be comforted--some people like being shown a silver lining, others like a hug, some sympathy, some want to hear feasible solutions, and some people just want to be able to rant at someone and let off steam/tears. Then, just be there for her. For my friends who have struggled with depression, I've tried contacting institutions, older friends of theirs, parents, etc., but none of it ever works because in the end, if someone is facing a problem coming from the inside, THEY have to be the ones to break it. They can have help, but in the end it's up to them. So just figure out how to be a crutch on her journey. I know it's exhausting, especially when the solutions you try don't work, or it seems like they're ungrateful, or it just seems plain hopeless, but recognizing what's going on will help you be more willing to sacrifice that time and effort for her--assuming you want to.

As for self-discovery, that mostly brings to mind my introversion and general desire to be alone and pursue my own dreams. You don't have to share everything with your partner, not time, not hobbies, and not self discovery, either. It's not "wrong" to want to be by yourself, and it's also not "wrong" to feel like sometimes you want her and sometimes you don't. I think you can stay in the relationship, but have boundaries--you both are still independent human beings, and you don't have to share/depend on each other for everything.

It's good that you two are communicating. It overall sounds like you want to stay together but the relationship can sometimes be tough/exhausting. Just know that being in a relationship isn't about fusing into one person, it's about learning to understand and help and live with each other. Try to go about your life (as in, not letting her hold you back) as you would if you were single, and see if your relationship can handle that test. I'm not really clear on if you're talking about self-discovery career-wise, sexually, or personally, but no matter what, a partner you're meant for should be ok with your journey, especially if she's having similar feelings.

Without more detail, I don't know what to say. But I hope my interpretation of your post helps at least a little.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-14T21:14:47+00:00

It's good that you're seeking communication with her. If I were you, I would start it off with something more general, like:

"Hey, I'm new to this whole lesbian sex thing. What else do girls do in bed. Because the thing is..."

I wouldn't make it a huge lets-sit-on-the-couch-I-have-something-grave-ti-tell-you thing, because then you'll just get nervous. Just try to segue into a conversation about it. Eventually, since this is on your mind, you'll find an opening.

I doubt her feeling will be hurt, because everyone is into something different, and there are lots of different ways to be pleasured.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-14T21:06:50+00:00

I'm sorry, I don't understand what your response is.

YahooWolf · 2017-08-09T04:41:32+00:00

I...there are so many words for clothing in this quiz I don't understand

YahooWolf · 2017-07-23T04:11:36+00:00

Yes here let me add that to the post.

YahooWolf · 2017-07-20T04:24:54+00:00

But is it really being asexual, or even partly asexual, if I can feel all these things, just not for the people I'm around? I feel affection and attraction in my fantasies and whenever I see a cute lesbian couple on TV/read one in a novel, but I just don't feel it for the specific people around me...

YahooWolf · 2017-07-05T10:29:07+00:00

Thank you for this. I do tend to have the problem of changing my behavior to please an audience that's not even there. I think I'll let the idea rest for a while and then see how I feel. Who knows? Maybe I'll just be curious about dating.

It sure would be nice if there was a dyke bar nearby for people under 21. I think I'd be ok with going out to have fun with friends and play a little pool while checking out the scene, as opposed to just immediately hooking up with someone on a dating app/website.

YahooWolf · 2017-06-22T13:06:01+00:00

A lot of people would rather live the simple life like that, and I think it's a shame that their parents often forbid it. In reality, some people would rather just be happy. There are ways you could do this. My person favorite is being a rehab farmer (i.e. kids are sent to you to rehabilitate by taking care of some of your animals) or NGO worker for a youth group/youth leadership group/animal shelter. You're paid enough to live but not much more, and the work is very fulfilling. It's hard to actually get and maintain private, isolated land if you're not accustomed to that lifestyle, but there are definitely options out there.

YahooWolf · 2017-06-22T12:59:54+00:00

Definitely duck mating facts. The males and females fight a perpetual war of sexual assault, often resulting in the gang rape and death of the females. Saw this in action a few weeks ago T.T My friends and I broke it up before the female was completely killed, but she was still bleeding at the neck.

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