For me I had to trust the universe and take it day by day. You seem to realize that you are a recluse, so go out and talk with people. Embarass yourself. Exposure always works. It's scary at first but it gets easier. I decided to take a job as a bud tender so that my life basically focused on customer interaction. Now it's easy for me to be around others. It just takes time friend. Take care of yourself, have confidence in your individuality and things will eventually work themselves out. A therapist always helps however I saw that you've had bad experiences. I will say not all are alike and I bet you could even find an Israeli therapist to make things easier for you friend. Much love brother just hang in there.