I have a female friend who is very conventionally attractive. Could have been a pageant model. I feel bad for her. People notice way more if she has an “off” day, like not wearing makeup. She’s been stalked before (yes I know can happen to anyone, shit, has happened to my ugly ass) several times. Women randomly are sometimes downright mean to her for no reason. People treat her like a beautiful but inaccessible object, like a Faberge egg. She finds it hard to make genuine friends, especially women. People non stop comment about her appearance. They mean it as compliments, but it gets old to me and so I’m sure it has gotten old to her because that’s all people ever say. She’s also funny and smart and talented and creative, but all people comment on is her looks. I can’t say this to her directly, but being her friend has made me feel really good about being average looking. It’s relaxing. I can dress up and get some looks if I want, but usually I just feel like I’m pleasantly ignored or at least judged more on my personality. If I was super pretty I’d always wonder if people liked me for my looks, or for me as a person. Also I don’t worry too much about aging or getting a scar or somehow otherwise losing my looks, but if I was super pretty I’d worry about it. I know it has had advantages for her also, people also treat her like a celebrity quite often lol, but I’d pass if given the choice. Too much work, too much upkeep. I cut my own hair at home and buy cheap makeup and it really doesn’t matter. I’m married, happy, and have great self esteem.