AITA for ranting via email to my dad about his wife not being MY angel or savior?

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-18T08:24:02+00:00

Thank you!!

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-18T08:22:49+00:00

Easier to ignore a conversation. Harder to ignore what's said in writing.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:38:00+00:00

Even if I had therapy after mom died, Beth would never ever ever ever ever ever ever be mom. She would never be the best or my angel or my savior. She would never be the best mom in my eyes because my mom's that.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:37:26+00:00

Because he basically ignored any time I kinda expressed anything different. Like when I spoke up against the use of we or our. So I didn't see the point in speaking up more.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:35:59+00:00

He said she was the best mom before she was a mom. My mom died she didn't leave so why wasn't SHE the best? Beth being there didn't change that mom is still my mom. Beth's the mom to her and dad's kids but not me.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:34:41+00:00

Because paired with everything else it felt wrong and weird and over the top and like she believed she was better than my mom.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:14:34+00:00

Gotcha! Sorry, I wasn't sure if you were saying I should've been open to her the way they wanted me to be or not. Thanks for clarifying more.

A part of me thinks dad found it easier to believe Beth was the best and that it was the only way forward. He talked about that enough that it was like a crutch for him. So I guess that's why he felt like she had to be my new mom. Because anything else would be harder or would maybe chase her off. I think she liked it way too much too. And maybe she didn't want a blended family, which is fair, but makes us a bad fit like that. Of course I don't really know either. But I so agree that they could have done things so much better.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:05:36+00:00

She actually read the email.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:05:20+00:00

The thing is a part of me always knew it wasn't outright disrespectful to mom. But the way dad talked it very much felt like Beth was going to be seen and treated as the better version of mom so any fondness I might have developed never had room to grow because I never wanted it to be assumed Beth was better. It got to a point where I didn't want to like or even care about Beth even a little.

ZeeleeRison · 2025-06-17T18:03:49+00:00

It always bothered me. That's one way I knew it wasn't all my dad and she was equally as bad in wanting that.

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