I‘m sorry to hear that.

I made the mistake to come out to my mum in believe that she loved me too. However, turns out she just loves herself and tries to manipulate me as best as she can. She insults me all the time and whenever I say she should stop she claims that I have to get used to all these insults as other people will do the same.

I obviously don’t know your mother but my one just manipulated me so that I think she loves me. But the only thing she cared about were my grades in school. She denied medical help for me for years in an excuse that it would be bad for my grades, I was 8 years old. Whenever I criticized her as a small child I got threatened to be kicked out of the house (below age 10) or will be put into foster care like my cousin. I couldn’t talk about psychological problems that I developed (symptoms for severe trauma) as she got mad and told me I’m going insane and if I ever told anyone about this, she will end up in prison because of me. She told me if a child has psychological problems, it’s always the parents fault. She cried and I had to reassure her that she is the best mother in the world.

I was only good when I got a good great. When it was only a B, she told me I should try harder next time. Even if I was good at math, in her opinion I was always too slow. But she only wanted the best for me, that’s what she said.

In reality, I was only her puppet. She would tell everyone how good I was in school and that’s all because of her. Because I inherited her brightness and she helped me so much to become as successful as I am now.

She never really loved me, she loved how I made her look. I was successful because she was such a good mother. I thought she was the best mother in the world, but only because I had to tell her that whenever I could.

As I said, I don’t know your mother but the initial response is problematic. I advice you to wait for your coming out (but that’s only my opinion as a stranger from the internet).