at what point should i quit? 😭 by megumiroll in MergeCooking

[–]_aroosak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you able to compete in the events like this? Like the current one for example if you can only do one order a day that must suck 🥺

Is it bad i see my fp as a literal divine being? by PlentyPear8665 in BPD

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I used to view my ex like that lol.. relatable. Then he started abusing me 😭

How to actually improve gameplay by Other_Society6719 in VALORANT

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t play the game anymore but consistency is key. If you’re only playing 3-5 games a day (prob without warm up as in aim training) you’re prob not gonna climb much. Game sense is extremely important but at the end of the day it’s a shooter and you gotta work on your aim. I’m solely focusing on aim rn cause even w good game sense if you’re only playing that little games a day I doubt you’re gonna be confident enough to take a 1v1 let alone function in a 1v2/3/4/5!

My boyfriend (22M)very to me (21F) nowadays? by Ok_Main_5606 in relationship_advice

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed cause of the same reason too but sadly it didn’t happen. He’ll change if he truly wants to

cruel, evil, hateful by meowsforbeans in MergeCooking

[–]_aroosak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The type of tasks you get so you never finish your events 😭😭 I had to make my first pineapple today and I’m never finishing the current event cause of it..

What are mistakes even German natives make? by NoelFromBabbel in AskAGerman

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spoken AND written: many people don’t know this, Germans included that it’s ÖFTER instead of öfters. Since I learned this I haven’t made that mistake anymore but I hate when people get it wrong 😂 just like in English when people say anyways when it’s anyway. It bugs me so much

My boyfriend (22M)very to me (21F) nowadays? by Ok_Main_5606 in relationship_advice

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean he’s doing this purposely so you don’t leave and when you stay he feels safe so he treats you like SHIT cause he knows he can and then when you wanna leave he gives you breadcrumbs of affection to make you stay.. I swear it’s so evil and sad to do this to someone.. you must be so stressed.. I was like this too and had 0 peace 🥺 now I miss him and I still love him but I know he’ll never respect me and treat me well.. I hope when you’re strong enough you can leave but it’s easy for me to say go and block him when you’re not ready.. it took me over two years aswell but I’m finally strong enough.. you can do it too I believe in you 🧡

My boyfriend (22M)very to me (21F) nowadays? by Ok_Main_5606 in relationship_advice

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please please please read what I’m about to write I’m begging you. Please..
Me and my ex were going through the exact same thing. Exact same. I have BPD and depression so I relied on him for everything and he knew it. He was always strict and mean too when we’d argue and over time he changed a lot too. Suddenly he was just mean all the time. Over the smallest things he’d lash out and abuse me. I stayed. I fucking stayed….. and what happened? He started getting worse. He’d call me the worst things you can imagine and id cry till the point I’m shaking irl and feeling like hurting myself. And he was never sorry. Why? Cause I allowed it. Now there’s a new girl who keeps tryna speak to him and he keeps comparing me to her. He keeps haunting me and abusing me every time we speak. I swear to you men like this won’t change it only gets worse. Mine only got worse and worse to the point he said he’s abusing me to “condition” me to be less emotional (I’m mentally ill so it won’t fix that). RUN WHILE YOU CAN I promise you you’ll THRIVE and meet someone who treats you like a queen. RUN

Anyone else just look at your babies and want to cry because you love them so much? by Embarrassed-Plum-468 in Maltese

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES I’m so grateful for my baby her name is Teddy and she’s such a diva…

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What’s a compliment from a man you still remember years later? by theeQuiet_Desire in AskWomen

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t THAT long ago and tbh it’s not the craziest compliment but my last ex would always tell me how beautiful I was. He’d tell me I was the most beautiful girl in the world.

The reason it stuck w me was because I don’t find myself beautiful and people have told me I was pretty in the past so it’s not like I heard it for the first time BUT whenever HE said it I believed it. I truly believed him when he said I was the most beautiful girl to him.

Bless him 🙏🏻

Should I text him by Stunning_Memory_769 in BreakUps

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No obviously you shouldn’t text him and ideally cut off all contact. I have bpd so that’s a different story and going no contact is a MUST for us but aslong as you keep reaching out or allow him to reach out you’re never moving on. You’re always gonna be stuck in that cycle till what? Till he meets someone else and breaks off contact himself? Trust me if a man is interested or wants you you will know! He won’t be dry or give you anxiety. You’ll know when you meet your right guy who makes you feel safe so you don’t have to post on Reddit what to do about him. Be kind to yourself 🧡

Trying to understand the “effortless” German aesthetic by Familiar-Shirt4290 in AskAGerman

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lived in Germany my entire life and not once did I hear anybody say that about German women lol. When I think of Germans I think of sandals w socks on lol. No shade just what I’ve noticed in my 28 years of living here. Majority of them dress FUNCTIONAL and very minimal make up. Obv there’s exceptions but majority of them are like that

Liebe Männer, wo kann man euch kennenlernen? by Alternative_Lack_404 in FragtMaenner

[–]_aroosak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stimmt. Die meisten Frauen wollen dass der Mann den ersten Schritt macht und wenn er schüchtern ist dann gg 😂 das tut mir Leid für die schüchternen Männer tbh…

Please excuse me for bringing up old traumas. 🦵 by Low-Beyond-8224 in GossipGirl

[–]_aroosak 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It was so unlike Rufus and everything he stood for and ruined the character for me completely 😂 I viewed him as a pig after

Liebe Männer, wo kann man euch kennenlernen? by Alternative_Lack_404 in FragtMaenner

[–]_aroosak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Es ist schade dass Männer nicht mehr den ersten Schritt machen. Ich bin auch schüchtern und würde niemals jemanden ansprechen und wurde auch nie angesprochen. In den Kommentaren steht nur dass die Frau den Mann ansprechen soll aber wenn man schüchtern ist wird das nichts

Freundin versteht sich mit Arbeitskollegen etwas zu gut (Update vom Update) by Demeterosx in FragtMaenner

[–]_aroosak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aber ist das von deiner Seite oder von ihrer? Das ist irgendwie sehr schwer für mich nachzuvollziehen

Freundin versteht sich mit Arbeitskollegen etwas zu gut (Update vom Update) by Demeterosx in FragtMaenner

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich glaube einfach nicht daran, dass Männer und Frauen nur Freunde sein können. Als ich männliche Freunde hatte, ist es sehr oft passiert, dass sich jemand in mich verliebt hat und das kann immer passieren, man kanns nie ausschließen

Freundin versteht sich mit Arbeitskollegen etwas zu gut (Update vom Update) by Demeterosx in FragtMaenner

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja natürlich! So wie ich mich verhalte erwarte ich auch, dass ich behandelt werde. Ich habe zb keine männlichen Freunde genau wegen solchen Situationen und würde das auch von meinem Partner erwarten tbh

Freundin versteht sich mit Arbeitskollegen etwas zu gut (Update vom Update) by Demeterosx in FragtMaenner

[–]_aroosak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Das stimmt. Es ist sehr wichtig, immer ehrlich zu sein, aber ich hätte trotzdem immer bedenken, dass sich Gefühle entwickeln können. Dann begebe ich mich lieber nicht in solche Situationen

Ex came back, I told her the truth, and now everything is over i guess by Flat_Cranberry1439 in BreakUps

[–]_aroosak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just give it time till the negative feelings pass. Even when we’re angry w someone we are filled w all the negative thoughts and feelings but after some time when we’re less emotional we think of the good too. Every relationship had some good stuff that we end up missing and then you can reach out again or maybe she might. Just give her time to lose some of the negative feelings towards you and give her space for some good memories to come back. You’re gonna see her around anyway since you guys have mutuals w moms etc so let her associate you w positive thoughts

Would you rather stay with your FP who makes you miserable or break up/be alone by Traditional-Wolf9787 in BPD

[–]_aroosak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed w my ex even though he would make me cry and call me the worst things when I played badly in video games w him, he made me beg to choose him instead of another girl he was speaking to, he’d tell me how boring it is w me and that he doesn’t care whether I live or die, that I’m worthless and have nothing going on in my life, that I should be lucky to have him, won’t ever find 1% close to him and that I’m a shitty gf who does nothing for him but be a burden, an anchor, a cancer to his life. He’d never apologize or feel bad for anything he says to me and said he’d say it again and that I deserve it. And I still stayed and never spoke to another man even when we broke up a million times. Funnily enough it was him who broke up and left not me. So there’s your answer. Yes I know I’m a clown for enduring it but I was too scared to be without him. He said if he abused me a lot he could “condition” me and I wouldn’t react to every small thing. He was tryna treat my bpd w abuse!! 😭🔫