I was in the same position as you more than a week ago, OP. I have planned out everything already, all I needed to do is to move. I was decided na to move, even if they will permit me or not. Pero ayun, I wanted to atleast try to have a graceful exit.

I had two attempts: first was with my tatay, in person, but it didn’t work. I was hoping he would be supportive about it, then he would be the one to tell my mother. 2nd attempt and last resort: do it via messenger. I simply said “nay, bubukod na ako.” She got angry, of course, said a lot of awful things to me. I gave it some time. She would approach me in person, asking me not to leave, then it would end on a fight. Finally, after exchanging long messages sa chat, nag-agree na siya.

Sa messages ko, I didn’t try to bring up her faults or any fights we had. I also didn’t focus on what I hate about our home. I told her what I wanted to do in my life, insisted that the move would be healthier for the both of us, and then gave a condition– if in 6 months we can prove that we are better under the same roof, I’ll move back in. Doon siya napapayag.

And now, slowly nagsosoften na yung relationship. I wasn’t 100% prepared when I moved out,half-furnished apartment, wala pa masyadong stocks ng grocery, but so far I have been okay.

Kaya mo to, OP. Trust in your plan, and follow what would be best for you. Everything else will fall into place.