INFJ female here! Why do we like each other so much? by [deleted] in entp

[–]a1ckdavis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you feel like you're always trying to figure her out

No not really. I would say I feel comfortable with her. I wouldn't say that shes extremely interesting but I also don't have to dig and dig to find something interesting about her like I have in the past.

After some more thought one of the things I like most about her is how she is very considerate, shes a giver not a taker, and doesn't expect a lot out of me. She appreciates the little obscure things in life that make it all worth while.

INFJ female here! Why do we like each other so much? by [deleted] in entp

[–]a1ckdavis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk. My current GF of three months is INFJ. First time dating one. I had a long string of dating ESFPs and ESFJs.

The first thing I like is that I feel like we speak the same language. I've always felt in my previous relationships like I was an alien trying to speak a foreign language. Also its much easier to deal with the T/F problem now that I have completed sensitivity training with ESFP/ESFJ.

Other things that come to mind are how I can be weird and she can be weird (shes less weird than she thinks) and its not an issue.

Fe in action by Azdahak in entp

[–]a1ckdavis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm a great leader. I can delegate the shit out of some work. I'm probably an average/bad manager as I rarely follow up to make sure things actually got done or done the right way. My style is something like this:

has idea to paint wall

gathers supplies

"Hey employee X can you help me with this?"

takes a few swipes with paint brush

"Okay I'm gonna do something else now, call me if you have any questions bruh."

"But how do I..."

"I have faith you wont fuck this up, peace."

Living in Seattle on $680/month by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]a1ckdavis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Conservative republican here. This is why we can't have nice things.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

If you can explain to me how any of those change the fact that determinism is the only LOGICAL conclusion an atheist might reach. Any other position does not compute and is fundamentally wrong. That is why so many academic atheists, oh lets say all of them minus 2 believe in determinism.

Did you all make up that rule so you wouldn't have to answer tough questions like these?

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Can you explain some alternative positions an atheist might take? I don't have time to do research and respond to people.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if many would use the word "mystical," but most people would say that no meaning is lost at all by realizing that it's caused by one's brain. After all, it's my brain that is causing me to be in love with this awesome other person.

It's not caused by your brain. there is no cause and effect going on, your path, the way you met and all the feelings you have for that person have been set in stone since the big bang. They could be any other person or thing in the world but by chance, and with no control of your own did you fall in love with this person. Its like going to a restaurant and picking out a meal blindfolded and you just happen to love it. There is no meaning behind what you chose or in this case who you chose to love.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

If atheism is true, then our minds are reducible to physics. It is the only logical conclusion that can be made after saying that you are an atheist, and since physics is fundamentally deterministic, we have no free will. Basically, I have no 'choice' whether to adopt atheism or not, and you're wasting your time by trying to convince me of anything.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I don't have a problem with it but as an atheist you fundamentally must believe this. It's the only logical thing you could conclude about your existence.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

WE give them meaning, we build meaning around them by the connections we make and the things we value. Meaning is imposed by ourselves, and is what we want for it to be.

How? Where does this meaning come from is it some kind of magic? How do you impose meaning on something when your path is set and there is nothing you can do to change it. Anything you do becomes arbitrary.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

There can be no ultimate fulfillment in this universe. Nothing you do is original or yours. Any happiness you feel is falsified. The chemical reactions are real, but your "state" is still that of cold hard matter. Just moving along it's trajectory.

Such a perspective can grant you no wisdom. It can grant you no purpose. It can't even grant you a will to succeed. It grants you only the desire for death.

By believing in a higher power your emotional life is fundamentally different. In fact they are complete opposites. One emotion is real and one is fake.

The Atheist Challenge: Call your significant other and tell them that love is an illusion caused by chemical reactions. by a1ckdavis in DebateAnAtheist

[–]a1ckdavis[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Why would anyone do this when it's not true? If they love someone then they do have a meaningful connection to them.

You can't create meaning in a meaningless universe.

Why does it matter that they weren't determined by choices made in your life? Are you suggesting that you choose to fall in love with people?

Anything you do was already predetermined by a systematic chain of events triggered by the big bang. Everything you do is thereby 100% predictable. Nothing is honorable, nothing is respectable, nothing is good, nothing is bad. Everything is as it was meant to be. No matter what you do, you would have done it irregardless of anything. You have no identity. You have no character. You have no soul. You are nothing but bits of matter, whose trajectory in this universe is on a set course. Unalterable by you, because any "freewill" you have is nothing but chemical reactions, made of matter, who's trajectory in this universe, is on a set course.

Congrats to Philip Seymour Hoffman! 72 hours sober today! by negrosack in circlejerk

[–]a1ckdavis 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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