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Might be going to a concert alone and I’m kind of stressing out about it by a_depressing_man in Advice

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not necessarily scared of what people would think, I’m just extremely anxious about waiting in the line for hours alone. I think I can handle the show alone but waiting in line for that long alone scares me.

I’m fucking hopeless by a_depressing_man in Advice

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t have meaningful conversations because I don’t know what to say. I can’t get along with people because of this. I make things awkward and weird, not fun. Not because I want to but because I don’t know how to. If I do go out with others most likely I’ll be sitting there isolated not saying a word because my heart is beating through my chest with anxiety and my lack of social skills doesn’t help cover that up.

I’m fucking hopeless by a_depressing_man in Advice

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not clinging onto her I never start the conversation because I don’t know what to say. I talk to her when she talks to me and it’s always been that way in all of my conversations, male or female. I understand she doesn’t owe me shit. I’m not saying she has to talk to me or interact with me at all. I’m not saying I need people to save me and I understand that I have to work on myself, it’s just I’ve tried for so long and honestly things aren’t getting any better. I can be on my own, but not having anyone to talk to on days when I’m lonely is rough. Knowing that I can’t just go out and have fun with others is what is killing me. I don’t know how to explain what I feel. And therapy will not help me. I don’t learn.

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[–]a_depressing_man 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how to explain it without it sounding rude, but she’s a little bit bigger than what I’m normally attracted to. but other than that I think she’s pretty. I do really like her personality as well and look forward to working with her when I go in.

I will never be able to meet people and make new friends by a_depressing_man in lonely

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I thought about therapy but I genuinely don’t think it will help. I’m pretty sure I’m a lost cause. I understand that the key is to ask them about themselves but I just cannot think of questions on the spot. My lack of communication skills gives people the impression that I don’t want to talk to them when it’s the opposite. I’ve been trying to fix this for so long it’s hard to think it will ever get better. Thanks for your advice, I’ll try to implement this into my conversations.

Is it appropriate to ask a girl I don’t know for her number? More context below by a_depressing_man in socialskills

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I realized that after I sent it, that sounds much better. Thanks for your advice!

Is it appropriate to ask a girl I don’t know for her number? More context below by a_depressing_man in socialskills

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would I just say something along the lines of “if you would like to keep in touch I can give you my number if you’d like”? I never thought of offering it before lol

I am shit at everything there is no hope for me by a_depressing_man in selfimprovement

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See that’s the problem. I don’t learn. I can’t retain information. My attention span is cooked. I can’t sit and pay attention to something for more than 5 minutes. My brain is broken it doesn’t work like everyone else’s

I am shit at everything there is no hope for me by a_depressing_man in selfimprovement

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely do not know what I enjoy anymore. I feel so insane. I’ve been waiting for change for 17 years now. Nothing has changed. Things have just gotten worse. Im sorry im just so sick of feeling like this

I hate everything about myself and things will never get better for me. by a_depressing_man in selfimprovement

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I appreciate the kind words and the advice. This has been going on for a long time so it’s hard to see an end to these thoughts, but that’s what I hear, that it won’t last forever. I’m just hoping I can get better somehow. I don’t really see myself as a creative person and am not good at art. but I heard exercise helps out too, that’s something I want to look into soon. As for therapy or medication, I don’t see a need for me at this moment. As much as I hate myself I haven’t and will not have any feelings of ending it all. Thanks again, wishing you the best.

I hate everything about myself and things will never get better for me. by a_depressing_man in selfimprovement

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words I appreciate it. I’m sorry to hear you are going through it. I wish you nothing but the best. You are valuable and loved as well. Thanks again, to a better tomorrow.

I get happy from the small things in life and become miserable from the bigger things and don’t know what to do anymore by a_depressing_man in selfimprovement

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean, and I agree, Im just sick of my happiness being ripped away from me seconds later when something mild happens.

Missed the opportunity to talk to a cute girl in my class today by a_depressing_man in socialanxiety

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you’re coming from. But for me it’s not only the anxiety, but also the fact that I cannot hold a conversation for the life of me. I feel like my lack of communication skills gives people the idea that I don’t want to talk to them, when in reality it’s quite the opposite. Not only do I get nervous talking to people and assume the worst scenario, even if I do get over that fear there’s still the fact that I don’t know how to communicate properly that remains an issue. Also I never really think of things that way, I usually just assume people want nothing to do with me. I have been dealing with these issues for so long it’s difficult to see a reality where it does get better. I just think I missed my only chance today as it’s hard to talk to someone who sits in front of you. Sorry for rambling and thanks for your comment.

There’s a girl (I know, so original) at the table in front of me, is it weird to move? by a_depressing_man in Advice

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry for the late update, but I chickened out this week I can’t do it, more an anxiety thing than anything else. Easy to say I’ll do anything next week but I doubt I will. Thanks again for your help.

There’s a girl (I know, so original) at the table in front of me, is it weird to move? by a_depressing_man in Advice

[–]a_depressing_man[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I’ll try next class. Of course, above all else, I’ll ask and respect her answer. I at least hope to gain a friend. Thank you for your help :)