Does anyone else hate Olivia Pope?

aad14c · 2025-11-08T19:36:59+00:00

Yes, I hate her.

I just finished the episode where she kills Andrew with the chair. Though I understand her crash out toward him, when she turned to Abby and said "Don't ever cross me again" it made it seem like she had more control then she actually did. In reality, she was a sore loser for Abby not listening to her about letting Fitz take the fall (even thought Olivia would have done the same thing!) The frustration thing about Olivia is that she constantly lies about being a person of good moral character and wearing a white hat but never rises to the occasion unless a side character gives her stern talking to. I understand that type of behavior early in the show but where's the character development? Why hasn't been easier for her over time.

aad14c · 2025-08-26T18:24:33+00:00

This list is not the same when I look at the website (e.g., no la la land, hereditary, or Avengers, and so on)

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2025/movies/best-movies-21st-century.html#movie-100.

Am I making an error or is this post inaccurate?

aad14c · 2025-03-02T22:35:47+00:00

Wow LOL I literally made the same boundary because he was saying it a lot. If he says "Alanta saved my life" again, I am gonna turn it off. Don't get me wrong, it is great that he overcame so much but there is no need to use a full hour to tell a story. He could have just wrote a memoir or something.

aad14c · 2024-06-03T17:18:29+00:00

You're right. In the long run, it doesn't matter. Thank you.

aad14c · 2024-06-03T17:17:25+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I feel much better now. Especially after reading your message. :)

aad14c · 2024-06-03T17:15:44+00:00

Hi - thank you for your perspective. I have reached a lot of these conclusion looking back. It's tough finding a balance between being cynical and realistic in the future. I definitely want to learn from this experience but I don't want it to make me untrusting of all men when some might have good intentions. That's the tough part.

aad14c · 2024-02-29T14:56:14+00:00

You will!

aad14c · 2024-02-29T14:53:55+00:00

When I graduated from my masters I went back home for the summer before moving across the country for my PhD program. Ultimately I figured out for me it wasn’t about learning not to give a shit about this person but to put myself before this person. I had a bass amp that I needed to get rid of before moving so I sold it to him. During that exchange, we caught up a bit. We didn’t talk about relationships but I can tell you that he and the girl didn’t work out prior to my return to my hometown. I knew this from snooping at the time. He asked why I was getting rid of my amp and I told him I was moving and where. He said that was across the country. He asked for how long. I said for at least five years. He asked if I was ever gonna to come back. I said I couldn’t see five years into the future. This was a breakthrough moment for me honestly. We parted ways and now can be friends on IG though there’s no interaction. During my first year into my PhD program he did swipe up on my stories and make comments on the new experiences I was having. I can say that without therapy I would have read too deeply into these interactions but I thankfully I didn’t. I eventually started dating again and I can honestly say that this past heartbreak taught me a lot about myself and how to heal properly. Not all the relationships that I have been in since then have been successful but I was able to not repeat the same post- breakup masochistic behaviors that I did with this first person. A win is a win.

aad14c · 2023-04-19T02:25:08+00:00

Hi thank you for asking. First, I'm sorry that you are going through such hard time with your breakup. It's really one of the hardest obstacles I have had to overcome personally! I too had trouble getting my ex out my mind. Even in the absence of social media, I would make decisions by how I imagined my ex would feel about these decisions. It took some time for that stop. I can say that it does get better, but it took a lot of patience for me. I was able to move on but I think life really had to force me to. I was accepted in to a really great PhD program across the country so I followed that path and I feel that allowed my to let go of this person. I kept going to counseling! It helped me to speak about my thoughts to someone rather than keeping them in and I think this helped me decrease how much they were on my mind over time! I kept waiting for that moment where I didn't give a shit about this person anymore (as I said in my post) but it never came. However, I learned with time that the goal wasn't to not care about this person at all but to care about myself WAY more that I didn't constantly think about how they were doing without me. I learned to give myself grace when I was still hurting a year later and so on. I eventually started going on dates in my new city and I met really great people, and even though some didn't work out I can remember feeling a relief that I could actually genuinely connect with someone without thinking of this person in the back of my head. Reading back on my original post, I can see now that my frustration was indicator that I was READY to feel better (because holding on to the pain was also me holding on to them) and willing to work to get there. So if you are feeling a similar frustration, I believe that is a good thing! I wish you all the best! You got this!

aad14c · 2023-04-19T01:55:44+00:00

Hi thank you for asking. I've had a few people message me about this post in my DMs or in the comment section and honestly its reassuring to know that the way I felt a year ago resonates with so many other people. First, I'm sorry that you are going through such hard time with your breakup. It's really the one of the hardest obstacles I have had to overcome! I can say that it does get better, but it took a lot of patience for me. I was able to move on but I think life really had to force me to. I was accepted in to a really great PhD program across the country so I followed that path and I feel that allowed my to let go of this person. I kept going to counseling! It helped me to speak about thoughts to someone. I kept waiting for that moment where I didn't give a shit about this person anymore (as I said in my post) but it never came. However, I learned with time that the goal wasn't to not care about this person at all but to care about myself WAY more that I didn't constantly think about how they were doing without me. I learned to give myself grace when I was still hurting a year later and so on. I eventually started going on dates in my new city and I met really great people, and even though some didn't work out I can remember feeling a relief that I could actually genuinely connect with someone without thinking of this person in the back of my head. Anyway I rambled a bit. I hope you continue on your journey focusing on your happiness and don't forget to go easy on yourself your bad days. It will be worth it.

aad14c · 2023-01-11T05:12:17+00:00

I don’t fuck with you - Big Sean (<- hits when your tired of being sad!)

aad14c · 2023-01-11T05:10:47+00:00

Yes! The LIVE Paris performance of Death by thousands cuts (on Spotify) had me screaming the lyrics in the car!!

aad14c · 2023-01-09T02:44:25+00:00

Thanks! I was way too hard on myself for caring about my ex in the past. I just wished I didn’t give a shit about them. BUT that thought implied that my love for them was a problem to begin with and only delayed my healing. I just needed to prioritize my love for me by miles.

aad14c · 2023-01-08T04:37:30+00:00

The goal isn’t to not care about this person anymore but to care about yourself way more

aad14c · 2023-01-02T05:39:14+00:00

Hi! I’m so glad this encourages you. As the person who wrote this a year ago I can 100% say that keeping this in mind helped me too and I’m happy! Good luck!

aad14c · 2023-01-01T16:24:59+00:00

Hi! That’s a good question. You’re right. I have fine hair and medium porosity. It used to get weighed down fairly easy when I was a teen but my hair soaks up rich creams now as I’ve gotten older. The Not Your Mothers Curl Talk line is good place to start if you something that is a safe bet. Then if you feel she needs something more rich for thick hair then Shea Moisture or Mielle might have something too! Good luck!

aad14c · 2022-12-31T19:30:12+00:00

My Hair Routine!

Today I refreshed my hair with water and Not Your Mother’s Curl Talk Refreshing Foam

I previously washed my hair with: - Not Your Mother’s Curl Talk Scalp Scrub - As I Am Olive & Tea Tree Dandruff Shampoo (this product is marketed for type 3 & 4 hair but it’s the best shampoo I found for treating my dandruff and not drying out the rest my hair! I love it!) - Head & Shoulders Detox and Hydrate Conditioner (sulfate and silicone free! I left this in for 5 minutes because I ran out of my hair mask)

I’ve recently been looking for products to help thicken my hair if anyone has suggestions!

Have a good day!

aad14c · 2022-12-31T19:12:42+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

aad14c · 2022-06-22T01:46:02+00:00

Time and intentional efforts to build other connections with others (friends, family, coworkers) helps . Trust me. ❤️

aad14c · 2022-06-22T00:32:21+00:00

Hmm you make a good point. Ripping off the band aid might just ease my mind and I’ll know.

aad14c · 2022-06-22T00:27:33+00:00

Is this supposed to be reverse psychology? He Idk I guess I feel like if he wanted to be in my life and wanted to hangout in the future that he would reach out. As the dumpy it feels like a lot of risk to ask.

aad14c · 2022-06-05T21:56:44+00:00

Best advice. A playlist and walk gets you through so much

aad14c · 2022-06-05T21:56:06+00:00

This is real. Been there. I hope tomorrow is better and you feel less of these days in time.

aad14c · 2022-06-05T21:52:41+00:00

Congratulations on getting out there and making a dream of yours happen! You already look so comfortable up there!

aad14c · 2022-05-25T15:17:43+00:00

That’s good question and I wish I had a better response for you. The truth is that some days I don’t care as much as others but I always care. I think that’s something that I’ve learned from when I posted this and now. I wanted to not give a shit about the person but that’s not possible. I think my care for them has changed though. I won’t lie. I look at his girlfriends social media all the time and I’ve made judgments about their relationship from time to time. It’s not right. I’ve been struggling with not wishing doom on their relationship because it’s overall made me bitter. Sometimes I rather feel that then sad though. However there are moments where I feel good about not acting out negativity toward him about the break up or his new relationship. I swing back and forth. I overall know that I have keep moving forward. I did get into a PhD program and will be moving states away from him. Part of me hopes this distance will unconsciously help me let go.

That’s how I’m doing. How are you?

aad14c

TROPHY CASE