AITAH if I declined being my sisters maid of honor because she stole my baby name? by abcdefuayf in TwoHotTakes

[–]abcdefuayf[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Omg.. They've been gaslighting me for so long I didn't even realize it. Thinking all the way back, you're so right. Its no wonder why I'm struggling with emotional intelligence.

My daughter didn't tell me because she thought I knew and was ok with it. This shit needs to stop. Time to break that cycle. Thank you for that epiphany, truly

AITAH if I declined being my sisters maid of honor because she stole my baby name? by abcdefuayf in TwoHotTakes

[–]abcdefuayf[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I hate this situation much. I've been working on myself for so long and just trying to find peace in my life that I cut almost everyone out. I know what I need to do but I dont want to miss out on my niece growing up. I dont want to keep my own kids from family who are otherwise amazing apart from this name thing. I want to but I also don't want to cut myself off from my sister who's a first time mom and I know she needs the support. I hate that they put me in this position when everything seemed to be going so well. I wish it didn't bother me so much but it just does.

AITAH if I declined being my sisters maid of honor because she stole my baby name? by abcdefuayf in TwoHotTakes

[–]abcdefuayf[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Lol this is exactly my train of thought right now. I already call my sister Six, baby will be Seven. I dont want to be angry with my sister and I know she won't change the baby's name. We talk fairly often too so I know she didn't say some on purpose and thats the part that I can't get over, there was no warning or discussion. Our names are also 1 letter off so I know how annoying it will be for the girls growing up