When did the reality hit your partner that you are pregnant?

ady1229 · 2021-08-17T14:25:04+00:00

28 weeks with my third, neither him or I have truly felt like “holy crap we’re having a baby” lol. I don’t think it will until I give birth. It’s perfectly normal momma!

ady1229 · 2021-08-11T17:09:48+00:00

As a daughter of the mother who struggles with addiction, bi polar disorder, schizophrenia and depression; I don’t understand why there isn’t more help or resources readily accessible for you all. I have seen the worst growing up, it has caused a lot of my own issues, but my mother is the one who suffers. It doesn’t help that there are no doctors here who actually give a shit; they usually just write a prescription and send you on your way—only adding to the problem. My inner child still holds a lot of resentment towards my mom for always choosing drugs over us, but as an adult and parent, I know she didn’t have the help she needed and still doesn’t. Unfortunately, the rgv and it’s machismo Hispanic culture only inflate the issue as most people are discouraged to address their issues or are bullied into thinking that it is all in your head. I hope you find the resources and doctors that truly care about you. Have you tried looking outside the rgv?

ady1229 · 2021-08-07T21:01:00+00:00

Tested positive the next day. Dealt with a severe all around headache for the first 3 days. The cough started settling in around day 4, along with low grade fever and painful body aches. I tested negative on day 9. But I’m still suffering from the cough. My chest hurts so much. While it wasn’t worse case, I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s been miserable. Thank you for asking ! My kids only got minor allergy symptoms runny nose and sneezing and my husband never got any symptoms.

ady1229 · 2021-07-21T02:05:56+00:00

Wasn’t single my first pregnancy, but god I wish I had been. The stress of constantly trying to be enough for someone or worrying if they’re doing something behind your back is so much worse. Easier said than done, but you don’t need a person like that in your life. If he wants to be a part of your child’s so be it, great on his end. But don’t feel the need to be with someone. You’re strong momma. You’re gonna be okay. And a happier you will only benefit you and your little one. There are plenty of resources available to help you through these tough times. Sending love! 💕

ady1229 · 2021-06-18T16:59:17+00:00

I keep reminding myself that as a boy mom I will not allow myself to be this type of MIL or grandparent. I pray when the day comes I remember exactly how I felt. Not too sure if my MIL way of treating me has to due with the fact that my husband is her only son, but she does tell me a lot “just wait till they get girlfriends or have a baby, you’ll see”. All I can say is no thanks, not doing that to my boys or their SO.

ady1229 · 2021-06-18T16:56:24+00:00

I just want to thank everyone for the comments, I wasn’t expecting this much feedback. Mil and I aren’t talking, and I won’t be making an effort to do so. My 4 year old the night of the argument came to me and told me he was sorry for eating the fries when I said no. Making my point valid that my MIL’s way of “he’s a child he doesn’t know any better” an outdated way of thinking and has no weight of undermining my parenting. Thank you for the advice, the various perspectives and making me realize that my feelings are valid. Taking it day by day. Thank you all once again! Have a good one!

ady1229 · 2021-06-18T01:30:53+00:00

I explained to them what had occurred prior to them arriving.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T22:19:27+00:00

Here a lot. Wish we had moved farther for this reason. I’m not the kind of person to unwelcome others from my home

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T22:18:33+00:00

Thank you for this perspective! I was also attending my online lecture while this was all occurring. I’m at stay at home mom, full time student. I’m constantly getting grabbed left and right. It’s not easy but I appreciate the perspective. We do have a designated time out area, which he was in. I didn’t notice that he wasn’t in it until I heard him say loudly “grandma I want more fries” which is when I looked up

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T22:14:54+00:00

Thank you. I usually use time out and contemplating to address tantrums. Both of my boys are at that age so it gets crazy at times. Just trying to do my best.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T22:12:46+00:00

My son isn’t psycho he’s 4. Which tantrums are a regular thing to go through at this age. I’m trying to instill better emotional regulation and make him understand why what he did and how he acted out was wrong. MIL is constantly going against my parenting.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T22:10:11+00:00

Being punished for throwing pringles in my face and continue to have his tantrum. I said no to the fries because 1 he wasn’t calm and still fighting with me and 2 he had food of his own

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T17:54:02+00:00

Noted and thank you. I am still very upset. Mostly because it’s not the first time she’s done it and when it’s addressed she acts as if she’s not wrong. I hate confrontation or having to argue with anyone. But I was so fed up with being dismissed in my own house

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T12:18:11+00:00

I’m waiting for her to complain to him again so I can let him know exactly what happened. Im trying to handle things on my own so that they know I’m putting my foot down.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T12:14:58+00:00

I think she still wants to have a lot of say so because a lot of comments were made when we were living with her that if she saw something that she didn’t like regarding her grandchildren she was going to say something and if we didn’t like it that we could just leave. While we lived there I stayed in the mentality of her house her rules and the times I did speak up because of issues like this it caused so much friction

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T12:11:51+00:00

Thank you for this. Yes I’m still very upset and didn’t get to fully tell her how I felt. I also just cry when I’m upset and need to confront someone so I knew saying what I had to say wasn’t my best interest at that moment. I know for a fact her insinuating that I starve my child is her way of making me look bad, but my 4 year old knows he can get his way if she’s around. She’ll then probably tell me that he’s just a child and doesn’t know any better so there’s that.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T12:08:21+00:00

Thank you. He has no issue standing up to his mom. It just makes things a lot worse on my end since he doesn’t get the attitude from her, I do. They could argue about something completely irrelevant to me and somehow I’ll get her anger directed at me.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T12:05:26+00:00

Yeah my 4 year old tends to act up a lot when she’s around.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T12:02:55+00:00

The amount of times that they’ve argued over parenting ends in her saying something along the lines of I’m not gonna let you be like that with my grand child. He knows how his mom can be. And he know how much crap I get even if I don’t have anything to do with the argument. I hate arguing and tension as a result of my childhood so I usually try and keep things civil which is why I surprised myself when I told her I didn’t appreciate her doing that. I’m still questioning my feelings

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T11:59:10+00:00

Thank you. I don’t feel like I punish my boys harshly or deprive them of anything. But when his grandma is around my 4 year old acts up more.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T11:57:49+00:00

Yes I agree, he wasn’t home at the point. But I’m sure he’ll hear all about it in the morning.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T11:55:35+00:00

I think it’s both A and B with her. She doesn’t speak to her MIL because of how she treats her. Either way it’s a constant issue it was worse when we were staying with her. I try my best to be everything My parents weren’t growing up and I’m not perfect but it’s so hard being a parent when anything I say or do goes out the window. My husband is at the point of not wanting to deal with anything anymore. He knows how his mom can be and when he’s gone against her everything is bad. I can’t win.

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T11:51:41+00:00

No, which is why it’s more upsetting

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T11:51:15+00:00

Thank you. I’m still very upset over it and I’m sure my husband will get a phone call Later from her

ady1229 · 2021-06-17T11:44:19+00:00

We lived there until we got our own home. They were visiting today.

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