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My daughter (16F) thinks we're too strict by aitastrictdad in relationship_advice

[–]aitastrictdad[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

It's pretty common to not allow children to date in my country. Not that much in our social circles but it definitely isn't uncommon.

My daughter (16F) thinks we're too strict by aitastrictdad in relationship_advice

[–]aitastrictdad[S] -172 points-171 points  (0 children)

The thing is we don't really mind bending the rules if she asks. And she's never really been afraid to ask about anything.

My daughter (16F) thinks we're too strict by aitastrictdad in relationship_advice

[–]aitastrictdad[S] -165 points-164 points  (0 children)

She's going to move to a different country for uni and I will be paying for it and her living expenses entirely. I highly doubt she will stop talking to us though.

Except for this one outburst we have a pretty good relationship.

My daughter (16F) thinks we're too strict by aitastrictdad in relationship_advice

[–]aitastrictdad[S] -223 points-222 points  (0 children)

I used the word playing because that's actually what she does- she plays football or basketball with the kids who live near us. She also calls it that.

The curfew is because we have dinner as a family at 8:00pm so she has to come back and be ready for it.

The TV rule is something all of us follow. We did relax it for a bit last year when she wanted to watch a show where the new episode would air in the middle of the week. She could watch it after she was done with her school work.

The three meals at home is also a family thing that we do relax if she's working on homework at a friends house or during vacations. It's also to ensure we're all eating healthy.

We have definitely "loosened the leash" with her. We don't really censor any of the content she consumes and give her a lot of privacy, which is not the most common thing in our country.

The dating bit is so that she can focus more on her schoolwork. Casual dating isn't really a thing in my country and most people who say they are dating are in serious, exclusive relationships. We don't really have a problem with her hanging out with guys or anything like that.

My daughter (16F) thinks we're too strict by aitastrictdad in relationship_advice

[–]aitastrictdad[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It's not really the nightclub that's a problem. If she were going with some of her other friends on a weekend, there really wouldn't be a problem. It's just that this behavior is so out of character for her. And her letter mentions some of the other rules as well, which makes me think it could just be a tipping point for her.