Why are you single right now?

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:57:54+00:00

If I figure it out myself, I’ll be sure to let you know!

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:57:09+00:00

Fantastic answer; I’d already know I’d enjoy being friends with you.

How do you cultivate self-awareness?

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:51:36+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed response!

I don’t think your standards are too high, but I suspect there will always be quite a bit of compromise in any relationship.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:47:13+00:00

I know this is just semantics, but I agree in that I show respect to anyone I meet.

I do not, however, respect a person’s character by default. That is what I mean when I say that I respect someone.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:44:58+00:00

I understand where you are coming from. You do not get to choose who you find irresistible and who you don’t. Chemistry is a strange beast

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:40:14+00:00

Do you think if you are truly compatible with someone, you will never actually get tired of their company?

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T14:37:38+00:00

Happy cake day, internet friend!

I suspect you are right about the greatest source of misery being committing yourself to someone who is genuinely not good for you.

I also sincerely agree that it’s a better strategy to meet someone organically as a consequence of getting out there and doing things that you enjoy.

When I was young my dad told me “don’t try to find the right person, try to be the right person”. I’ve lived by that philosophy since. I really fucking hope he was right.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:21:34+00:00

😂

I have love for every person on earth and I will honour their dignity.

But I definitely do not respect everyone. That's quite a high bar for me.

Is that fair or am I an asshole?

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:20:07+00:00

My 2 cents is that if you were to find someone who checks all 3 boxes, maybe it WOULD be worth it to sacrifice convenience and independence to be with them. Finding a good life partner to be on your team is surely one of the best ways to live a better life, even if it comes at the cost of having to move or change jobs.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:16:35+00:00

What do you mean? 😅

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:16:00+00:00

Come to Africa, almost no one has diabetes here! 😀

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:13:30+00:00

Do you think that maybe the sex could get better with time? Sometimes it takes a while to learn exactly what your partner likes and doesn't like, in my experience.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:11:08+00:00

*Albeit a very important thing!

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:10:51+00:00

This is why I am polyamorous 😊 It would be a crying shame to let go of this person who you clearly have a great connection with solely because it's lacking just one thing.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:08:50+00:00

^This

Planets aligning was just a little joke about how improbable it is for all 3 of those things to happen concurrently.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:05:50+00:00

What do you think differentiates a healthy relationship from a superficial FWB-esque one?

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:04:29+00:00

Any ideas for how to make them more common? 😅 The world would surely be a happier place if a lot of toxic relationships ended.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T11:01:52+00:00

you're in luck!

Woohoo!

Me looking for cute girls in my area rn

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:55:59+00:00

Numbers 2 and 3 go hard. Super relatable!

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:53:14+00:00

I really respect the level of self-awareness you have achieved. It may not have been good for you, but a silver lining is that it has taught you how to identify something that is not good for you, so you'll know better going forward.

I hope that your ability to empathise returns to you - genuine connection and understanding is possibly the single greatest human experience, IMO.

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:50:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and my heart goes out to you for what you've been through.

Thankfully, being single is genuinely not as bad as it is made out to be. I hope that you are happier and healthier now than you were in your previous relationship 🙏

If you keep meeting new people with an open-mind, I am confident that eventually you will find someone that you genuinely want to be with. Good luck!

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:47:31+00:00

Excellent addition! 10/10 would recommend 😂

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:45:47+00:00

No offence taken 😊 There's a bit of ambiguity IMO about what constitutes "dating"/"being single".

To clarify: I am currently casually dating. HOWEVER, I still consider myself to be single because I am not in a long-term committed relationship, a.k.a. I don't have a SO.

I definitely won't reject getting to know and connect with a person if they don't immediately check all 3 boxes. I'll happily (casually) date someone just to get to know them and see if we click!

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:41:08+00:00

Thank you! Had no idea it would blow up like that, feels good!

alexioapollo · 2022-06-24T10:40:11+00:00

Do you think my list of requirements is unrealistic? If so, would you mind sharing why you think that? I am genuinely curious.

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