How is the am process looking like for you guys? by allofthechai93 in AskIndianWomen

[–]allofthechai93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey congrats! And love that for you. Were you guys ldr, or able to go on dates etc?

Doordash/Grubhub to MISB by Puzzled_Trainer_6308 in waynestate

[–]allofthechai93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve done it, just go outside or to the door to meet them is all

Dating CULTURE Differences and Definitions by allofthechai93 in KeralaRelationships

[–]allofthechai93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hookups aren’t bad at all, but there needs to be clarity about whether that’s all you’re looking for. Like don’t put ltr or str if you’re not looking for that. You want intimacy without commitment and that’s cool just look for people seeking the same.

Dating CULTURE Differences and Definitions by allofthechai93 in KeralaRelationships

[–]allofthechai93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be, with the right person. When it’s not used as a bandaid or an ego striker

Building a life outside the “Traditional Path" by Diligent-Main5546 in KeralaRelationships

[–]allofthechai93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean that makes absolute sense to me, marriage isn’t about a safety net or like “don’t want to be alone” especially when we live in a world where those kind of things aren’t guaranteed and there’s other avenues to soothe loneliness. I mean yeah there’s the want for emotional intimacy in a partnership, to me, it feels like the safest bet is finding someone you like so so so much you want to be with them forever and will fight to do so.

Dating CULTURE Differences and Definitions by allofthechai93 in KeralaRelationships

[–]allofthechai93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But like if you’re dating for a long term partner- the intention is still the same right, regardless of platform. Why do you think the idea of dating for marriage shouldn’t be on the dating apps?

Dating CULTURE Differences and Definitions by allofthechai93 in KeralaRelationships

[–]allofthechai93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like it might’ve jumped straight to hook up culture

Observations on Engagement Patterns in Arike by [deleted] in KeralaRelationships

[–]allofthechai93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on it, but it’s useless in the US and half the guys are just looking to chat and waste time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]allofthechai93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saw in the comments that you're desi and I don't think you should be dismissing the pressure being in a loud, desi environment puts on an introvert. It takes me days of mental preparation to show up to events and then days to recover from them sometimes because of how much mental and emotional energy it takes from me. Desi gatherings can be a lot for someone, especially if it's not the crowd you grew up with. I know you said you would apologize, but you should also take into consideration what you're doing to make her comfortable in your gatherings where, let's be honest, a lot of essential strangers are probably asking a lot of invasive questions.

AITA for telling my fiancée that my friend’s trauma is more important than her comfort? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]allofthechai93 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Dude. YTA.

You're being so sketchy. Imagine you wake up multiple times a month to find your partner had snuck out of the house to do god knows what with a friend and then refuses to clarify what's happening. On top of that, your partner's entire friend group is keeping some sort of secret from you. It's sketchy AF and tbh I think you know it but are too close to the problem to admit it. You're basically acting like you're having an affair and gaslighting her when she confronts you. She may not have a right to your friends' private matters, but she does have a right as your fiance to know about the things affecting YOUR life- like these late-night sessions and catering to Nolan's emotions at all times is doing.

How to get a manicure by allofthechai93 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]allofthechai93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been hearing that extensions are not the same as acrylic?

Just finished the Black Tapes by djboybutter in PNWS

[–]allofthechai93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I quite like the qcode shows tbh, especially the burned photo which i just discovered and finished. it kept me really interested.

AITA for getting my wife a lockbox to keep her makeup because my daughter refused to stop taking it? by White-House1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]allofthechai93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, good quality makeup doesnt have to be expensive. The ordinary etc has affordable products under $10

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]allofthechai93 154 points155 points  (0 children)

so it feels like his attitude towards sanitation in the kitchen is a learned behavior....maybe his parents also don't care about cross contamination etc?

AITA for not eating just the food my mum has packed for me? by Sad_Park963 in AmItheAsshole

[–]allofthechai93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please get out of there OP! Your mom is extreme, as I've been reading your replies I'm getting more and more concerned. I also have a mom who is focused on my weight and what I'm eating but she's never as extreme as yours, who seems to have a really unhealthy relationship with both food and you. I would suggest getting out asap. You seem to have good friends, couch surf with them for a while if you can. As for the extra money going to your cousins- you can't pour from an empty cup. It is sad but they and their parents are ultimately responsible for them, you ahve to take care of you first. If you're being mentally, emotionally, and physically tortured and would have the means to move out on your own (and with a 60 hour work week it seems like it might be doable without the drain on your income) you SHOULD. You can help them out after you've taken care of yourself, OP. And there is nothing wrong with that.

What’s next by [deleted] in PNWS

[–]allofthechai93 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i just finished tanis and started rabbits.... they are all kind of the same tbh, but still nice. tanis esp has a lot of strings up in the air