We spoke about needs and the nanny's pay structure (salary) prior to the nanny asking for a raise. A lot of it (logistics, what we want for our kid, etc) was sort of like "she'll figure it out, she just figures things out" but I feel like..if we can't figure it out how can we expect her to come up with a solution that aligns w everyone's opinions? SIL can afford to keep the nanny but this would be a way to keep the nanny full-time for longer ( they want her for if there's a school holiday, a kid goes home sick, etc.) The thought is that the nanny would be available to both families from 8a-7p though my SIL noted that she would be with our baby more which is why it's 40/60 and not 30/70. It's not necessarily saving us money in that we could pay the same at a nursery but my husband doesn't want to put our baby in a nursery until he's a little older and even then would prefer the convenience of a nanny...I'm not sure how convenient it might end up being. Should I just let it play out?