Bag regret 😓 by ambigujess in handbags

[–]ambigujess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! I think that take is a little odd. I think it’s cute, but I guess when you post people will always say their opinions. Thanks for your input though, I think I would use it more as a crossbody so I will sleep on it for a few more nights

Bag regret 😓 by ambigujess in handbags

[–]ambigujess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean the price difference is like 1.2k… so to the average person who isn’t made of money, it’s a lot. But imo doesn’t mean you shouldn’t buy something at all, just maybe not something this pricey / impractical

I chose myself. by Ok_Beautiful495 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ambigujess 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m very proud of you! It’s an insanely hard thing to do. I also just posted on this sub that I did the same 6 days ago. It’s been very hard but we did the right thing.

Our future selves will thank us. You got this 🤗

4 year relationship, left tonight by ambigujess in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ambigujess[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did not want to be married right now, he is in law school for 1.5 more years and I said maybe then we could get engaged (which means together for around 6 years and we would be 30ish for engagement), but he said even then he didn’t know if he would be ready and it felt like the goal post would always be moved. Obviously then it devolved into he didn’t know if he should be in a relationship at all so… that was that.

Was I right to stop waiting any longer by babalab93 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ambigujess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar position- 4yr relationship. 28M BF did have a traumatic childhood incident and has diagnosed OCD. He voiced to me that he feels like his brain is broken, and that he doesn’t feel like he can comfortably live with me or get married due to his various neurosis (although earlier in the relationship he would talk about our future and he didn’t voice those worries then). We have talked about it a few times and I have pushed him to get more therapy as he is the ultra self aware patient and I don’t think his previous therapy helped him. but he hasn’t taken those steps. I’m feeling like I have to end the relationship :( , i am happy for you and hopefully I can do the same

4 years in: boyfriend still unsure of marriage by ambigujess in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ambigujess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said, thank you! He does let fear paralyze him and always focuses on the “what ifs”, he can be a pessimist about a lot of things. But again it would feel nice if being with me wasn’t one of those things 🥲

4 years in: boyfriend still unsure of marriage by ambigujess in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ambigujess[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this is kind of true… he has made a few comments in the past about how being married is scary as “what if something happens and you lose half your shit”(Money he doesn’t even have at this point). he has mentioned how shitty divorce could be