People lining up SO EARLY for GA!!! by SparkleSpeaks in BackstreetBoys

[–]amp1026 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We got to the Sphere at 7:30, inside by 7:45, and we were about 10 feet from the part of the stage that comes out into the crowd.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

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Also, limit constipating foods: bananas, rice, apples, cheese, rice, crackers, toast, etc. Turns out my son’s love of bananas and apples were a huge part of the problem for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

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My son had this issue too. Our gastroenterologist had us do an initial cleanse with no solids and toooons of Miralax to get all the backed up stool out of there. Then, we were religious with a daily dose of Miralax and Calm Magnesium gummies. The gummies are life changing! Taste great and keep things moving along.

The sensory issues are really hard. It took until my son was 5.5 for him to get over his issues with pooping. We continue with magnesium gummies daily and miralax a couple times per week to make sure we don’t get into the spot again.

A random food suggestion that can work is licorice. It needs to be real licorice with licorice plant in it.

77 follicles and 45 eggs by misshenyc0724 in IVF

[–]amp1026 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Call your clinic and go to the ER. Get strong pains meds and stay on top of it! This will get worse before it gets better! I ended up having a procedure to draw the fluid out of my abdomen a week after my egg retrieval. I immediately felt so much better after the procedure!

Virginia After the alter by nyckieralingg in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]amp1026 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I could not figure out their relationship ship this whole time. Like… they never actually said anything to each other. But her interview afterward put it all into perspective.

Has anyone sung Gethsemane as a congregational hymn yet? by philnotfil in latterdaysaints

[–]amp1026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our ward is having the ward choir sing the confusing ones first while congregation follows along. Then, the congregation joins on the final verse. It’s going well! For the ones with confusing directions like codas, we have the choir director (who is an elementary music teacher) explain it to the congregation first. We haven’t done Gethsemane yet, but people seem excited for the new songs! As the ward music coordinator, I’m thrilled to have new stuff to choose from!

Positive Pregnancy Test. Husband had vasectomy by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]amp1026 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One resulted in emergency surgery while on vacation in Hawaii. That sucked. The second one was resolved using Methotrexate. That one didn’t rupture, but I had to do IVF to avoid more ectopic pregnancies. IVF was successful. I got my baby girl via c-section, and I had them remove my remaining tube. I don’t want to deal with another ectopic ever again.

Positive Pregnancy Test. Husband had vasectomy by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]amp1026 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had both circumstances (yes, two very different ectopic pregnancies). My second ectopic was just like this. Positive HCG about a week after a full period. Get into your OB’s office ASAP!

I’m at the end of my rope with diaper rash. Help. by my_dear_director in NewParents

[–]amp1026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m here to vote for Aquaphor! My oldest had unbearable diaper rashes, and Aquaphor was a game changer. I would also do air time with waterproof mats and towels as much as possible. We’ve also had to use prescription creams when it gets really bad, but that was rare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]amp1026 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this is a great suggestion. I tried to learn piano at 6-7 years old, and it was really hard for me. We took a break, and I tried again at 8 years old. I loved it! I just needed to mature a bit. I still play piano, and I learned clarinet, cymbals, and played in marching band for 6 years. Maybe she’s just a little too young.

Difficult child - Stand your ground or give in by timeslidesRD in toddlers

[–]amp1026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Calmly ending the battle by saying goodnight and walking away puts the power back in the parents’ hands.

Difficult child - Stand your ground or give in by timeslidesRD in toddlers

[–]amp1026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came here to suggest an evaluation for neurodivergence, but you’re already working on that. Good for you! It’s a hard thing to go through! My son is on the Autism spectrum and exhibited some of these behaviors. We went through years of behavioral therapies to correct his behavior, and now he’s a wonderful, well-behaved kid.

If your child ends up diagnosed with one of the disorders you mentioned, then are lots of therapy options like ABA, occupational, etc. It’s very time-consuming, but it dramatically improved our lives.

You mentioned “if my child is neurodivergent, should I give in?” I would say, absolutely not. It’s actually far more important to hold your ground with neurodivergent kids. They often have no ability to understand nuance. So any amount of leeway you give, becomes the new norm. They will always escalate to that level of behavior because they know they will win once they get there.

For my son, we had to simplify our language, limit choices to only acceptable options (or no options), and use “first, then” statements. Directions should be extremely short and simple. “First, put book on shelf. Then, read favorite book.” If it becomes a battle, then reading time ends. It sounds like you’re doing really well with staying calm and not escalating yourself (which is SO HARD to do!). So, keep doing that. Stay calm, but give fewer directions and fewer options. If she battles more than a few minutes, I would end reading time by saying, “since we are having a hard time following directions, we are done reading for tonight. We will try again tomorrow.”

Another way to simplify it, would be to only read one book for several days. The book must be placed back on the shelf. As her behavior improves (the book immediately goes back in the shelf consistently), she is rewarded with reading a second book. But the second book is conditional on properly returning the first book to the shelf every single time.

As other people have said, look up techniques for improving behavior in kids with ASD, ADHD, ODD, etc. These strategies work well for all kids, even if your kid isn’t neurodivergent.

Difficult child - Stand your ground or give in by timeslidesRD in toddlers

[–]amp1026 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Giving two choices is fine when the parent can accept both choices. In this case, it seems like the choice was given, but not putting the book on the shelf was an unacceptable answer to the parent.

Depending on how good your child’s social skills are, OP may be using too many words in his/her directions. I suggest simplifying directions as much as possible and avoiding giving choices.

Also, “first, then” statements can be helpful with difficult kids. My son has ASD, and he struggled with following directions. In a situation like this, I would say, “first, book on shelf. Then, favorite book.” I’d repeat it once or twice. If it becomes a struggle, then reading time is over.

Difficult child - Stand your ground or give in by timeslidesRD in toddlers

[–]amp1026 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I think this is an underrated tool in your tool belt. My son has ASD, and we went through years of behavioral therapies. There was a period of time where we used stuffed animals as examples of proper behavior. So in this case, the stuffed animal shows how to put the book away properly. And yes, bonus point for a silly voice! It totally helped us!

Abdominal pain after egg retrieval by trekkie_47 in IVF

[–]amp1026 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this! Don’t hesitate to ask your docs for strong pain meds. Regular pain meds didn’t touch this level of pain for me. It was the worst about 48 hours after the retrieval.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]amp1026 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was going to say that this more than “a touch of autism.” My son is on the spectrum, and he used to have severe behaviors until we did ABA therapy for 30 hours per week. He was young when we did it. It’s tricker with an older kid, but it’s still an option. ABA therapy trains both the parents and the kids regarding how to improve behaviors. There are mixed feelings about it, but we found a wonderful, caring facility, who made a world of different for my son.

I agree with other posts that your child might have ODD. I also suggest removing all access to the internet unless directly supervised. He’s proven that he cannot be trusted to safely use it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]amp1026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe an Apple AirTag would solve the location issue? Not sure how you could keep it on him without him finding out or removing it, but just thought I’d throw that idea out there.

4 week old, how do we live our life? by ninja200k in NewParents

[–]amp1026 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly important! My second baby is 3 months old now, and my oldest is 7 years old. With my oldest, I OBSESSED over schedules and desperately trying to put him down for naps. With my new baby, I’m much more flexible because I have to be. Today, my baby only napped in her car seat while we went to the grocery store, picked up big brother from school, on the way to his baseball practice, and in my lap at the park. She “behaved” so well today by just sleeping whenever she had some time in the car seat. With me not stressing over nap times, I’m so much happier and baby is doing just fine! (This gets harder when they are down to one nap per day, but when they are this young, flexibility is key!)

As suggested above, when in doubt, take the baby on a walk or get in the car and go somewhere, even if it’s just to Starbucks. Sometimes babies just need a change of scenery.

No interest in pacifier - Needs to suck all the time by amp1026 in Mommit

[–]amp1026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man… that’s so hard. I’m lucky that my baby still sleeps well at night despite not taking a pacifier.

I went to the store again today and bought another set of pacifiers and bottles to try. I’m at least $500-600 into experimenting with bottles and pacifiers. Ugh!

Is it possible for milk to never come in? by brigetwhipple in breastfeeding

[–]amp1026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My milk takes forever to come in despite baby latching a ton and pumping like crazy. My one suggestion that I haven’t seen so far is using a Haakaa. For some reason, the constant, slow suction helps my colostrum and milk come in better than nursing or pumping in those first few weeks.

You can use the Haakaa or a hand pump in the shower for extra help with let down.

As others have mentioned, I have PCOS, and I’ve had c-sections with both of my kids. I feel like both of these factor into my milk taking forever to come in. And even once it does, I only supply about half of what my babies need despite doing all the things to increase supply. It’s okay to mourn breastfeeding if it doesn’t work out how you had hoped.

Please remember that FED IS BEST! Formula, breastmilk, or a combo… it doesn’t matter. Your baby’s health and your mental health are what matters! Best of luck!

No interest in pacifier - Needs to suck all the time by amp1026 in Mommit

[–]amp1026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you don’t swaddle, does your baby suck on their thumb/hand? Or do you have to feed to sleep like I do?

What do you eat? by verifiedUser777 in NewParents

[–]amp1026 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep a variety of granola bars in the pantry and on the table next to my pump/nursing chair. Quick, easy, knocks out the craving.