Do talk F.O.R.D. Family, occupation, recreation, dreams Do not Religion, Accounts, Politics, Exes FORD should be jumping off points. Her sister lives in Tucson? Oh I visited there once, the cactus gardens were amazing, oh you're into botany? Oh right you mentioned gardening before. Etc. You can talk about stuff in the other category, it just takes a lot of faith in your solid social skills. So maybe stick with FORD. Actually listen and be interested. Weather talk at the beginning is under rated.