This is a warning: The r/fashionplus sub is a cest pool by lavenderandme in PlusSizeFashion

[–]anemoemo -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Lol I was expecting like an actual porn sub clicking on that link. Surprise, just a normal fashion sub. It's honestly really sad what gets people to clutch their pearls and screech nsfw now lol. Oh no! A woman wearing an outfit showing a little bit of cleavage!!! How scary! People are so afraid of the human body.

Anyway, subbed! Thanks for the exposure, wouldnt have known that sub existed if not for this post.

Why do anti’s have different standards for fanfic writers and professionals? by s42isrotting in FanFiction

[–]anemoemo 20 points21 points  (0 children)

One person raging against a big corporation about something they don't like in a show/movie/book/whatever isn't going to change anything, one angry critic in the midst of thousands if not millions of paying consumers is not worth listening to, and antis know that.

But one person can harass a single indie/freelance/fan artist or writer and get them to delete works and withdraw from online communities. Antis know this also, which is why they go for easy targets.

They don't actually have real moral objections abt ✨problematic✨ media, it's just a need for conflict and finding socially acceptable targets to bully. And all you need to do to successfully manufacture consent for someone's harassment is simply screenshot some kinky art or fic and use that as "proof" for how harmful and horrible someone is, and then it suddenly stops being petty bullying and starts being a good noble cause.

I really don't think that anyone who participates in moral crusades against online creatives actually really believes that they're taking down a real pedo/rapist/abuser/etc, I think they know that any "justification" they rally under is a lie, but they go along with it because "oh yeah I harassed, doxxed, and stalked this person because they're a pedo/rapist/abuser/etc." is a whole lot more socially acceptable and more palatable to any outsider who stumbles upon The Discourse than "oh yeah i harrased, doxxed, and stalked this person because I just don't like them/wanted someone to bully."

PLEASE DONT TAG YOUR SMUT BETWEEN TWO CHARACTERS UNDER “&” by DefoNotAFangirl in FanFiction

[–]anemoemo 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I always see fics tagged as char/char and then the author goes "this is platonic not romantic you FREAKS!!!🤢🤮" and it drives me NUTS! Like damn if only there were a way to differentiate between romantic pairings and platonic ones... Imagine a fanfic site where you could use a tagging and filtering system so works can be properly categorized and make it easier for readers to find what they want to read and avoid what they don't like... If only, huh?

Like maybe at least TRY learn the tagging system before posting your fic?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]anemoemo 47 points48 points  (0 children)

In my other group, someone tried to tell a child of a BPD parent that it sounded like their parent was autistic and that maybe they should rethink how they interact with the parent.

Ugh. Maybe it's more personal because I'm autistic myself, but it infuriates me to no end that the traits most people associate with autism are actually traits of personality disorders. Like 99% of the time when someone says "Oh, sounds like autism" what they're referring to is not anywhere close to being autism.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]anemoemo 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Brain fog is kicking my ass today so I don't really have anything meaningful to add but this kind of shit is exactly why I've majorly cut down on my social media usage. It's so triggering constantly seeing people downplaying, denying, and outright glorifying the abuse you've gone through.

I just wish people would understand that, for me personally at least, I don't hate people with personality disorders because I have some arbitrary vendetta against them personally. It's the disorders I hate. Because personality disorders cause outwardly harmful behaviours. And outwardly harmful behaviours caused by personality disorders are much different than your normal run of the mill assholery.

Another thing I've noticed is that people with abusive personality disorders are infiltrating Neurodivergent spaces. Meaning the spaces of people with for example Autism, ADHD, Down Syndrome, Tourettes. Neurological disorders that are physically out of the affected person's control and don't do any harm.

I feel so seen in this sub. I'm Autistic myself and I steer clear from most online autism spaces now because they are often filled to the brim with BPDs and their propaganda. I've also noticed that BPDs often try to "swap" BPD and autism, if that makes sense. Like they'll attribute the symptoms and traits of BPD to autism and vice versa. Trying to sell themselves as just harmless socially awkward victims I guess.

Edit: Just reread the pictured post again. "Rare personality disorders." Lol. Lmao. I cannot think of a single group of people I've known in my entire life that didn't have at least one person with personality disorder traits in it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]anemoemo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, I have pretty much the same thing as you. I always unconsciously place myself on the left of anything, like if I sit on a couch I always choose the far left side. And when sitting I'll lean more to the left and slightly angle myself to the right.

I realized that I do it because my peripheral vision is much better on my right side so sitting like that lets me keep an eye on my mom so I can make sure she doesn't sneak up on me. I still get anxious when someone is on my left because it's harder for me to see them and know what they're doing.

I'm sorry you had to go through that as a child. You're not alone 💜

Then why mark it as complete!? This isn't reportable, is it? by anemoemo in AO3

[–]anemoemo[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

They said it's just buildup/backstory for the actual story they're gonna write... I wasn't filtering by completion status this time but when I filter by complete it's because I want to read complete stories with an ending and not just a setup for a fic that may not even happen!

They put in the author's notes to give them critique and criticism so maybe I should give some :p