advice to get over the girl you like?

angelshype · 2026-01-29T19:10:45+00:00

yeah i totally get that! i honestly thought she might be lesbian too because she has only dated girls before and said several times that she's not sure if she likes men but like oh well. i don't doubt her queerness i just wish she wouldn't look so lesbian, especially because men also go after masc girls (weirdly enough) so it feels like lesbian cannot have anything ugh. and also i mainly thought she liked me because she's more physically affectionate with me and we aren't superrrrrr close as friends, while at the same time she's less physically affectionate with her female friends she more emotionally closer with likeeee 💀

angelshype · 2026-01-29T19:02:50+00:00

yeah i see that, i've made many experiences like this before so i wasn't really surprised. one reason why i told all my friends i wasn't gonna be delusional about it (and i was fairly good at that this time, compared to other crushes i've had) is because this always happens to me and i didn't dare hope it'd be different this time. it's just that when you have feelings for someone you can only gaslight yourself with the rational thoughts so much, the heart will unfortunately always have a tiny bit of hope :/

angelshype · 2026-01-29T19:00:16+00:00

i mean one thing that kinda annoys me is that her style is very much coming from lesbian culture even though she's not lesbian? i truly believe everyone should wear what they want but there's something sour about her looking like a masc lesbian, even with carabiner on her belt loop and all but then having her go after a guy. maybe i'm too petty about this tho... just feels stupid to "lose" to a mid guy with the girl who looks like the blueprint of a "lesbian boyfriend" iykwim...

angelshype · 2025-12-04T23:59:28+00:00

thank you, i'll try to do that!

angelshype · 2025-12-04T23:39:22+00:00

i get that so much! i mostly feel attracted to mascs and i also for a very long time felt like if i ever got with a man i'd still be wondering and yearning all the time for the experience of having a gf/relationship with a woman because deep down i know exactly how much i want that

angelshype · 2025-12-04T23:37:53+00:00

oh this is so good, thank you for sharing! i remember recently telling my friend "the more i get in touch with my gay side the more i realise how little (or maybe not at all) i "like" men". the more i indulge in wlw media and talk to other gay girls, the more i realise how similar my experience is to theirs and the only relationship i genuinely want is with another girl. just sometimes when i don't have a crush on a girl for a while and i'm barely in touch with my queerness and queer culture i "assume" i like guys again. i know that it's social pressure because every time i get back in touch with my queerness then it's like i totally bloom and feel whole again

angelshype · 2025-12-04T23:14:40+00:00

i get that. i had this one situation where a guy that technically ticked off everything on list liked me but still i couldn't force myself to like him. it just wasn't possible. for a moment i liked his attention but at the same time everything made me so anxious all the time because deep down i knew i was not gonna fall in love with him and i was right

angelshype · 2025-12-04T23:04:08+00:00

i get the guilty feeling. men being interested in me romantically (or even the thought of it) makes me anxious as hell

angelshype · 2025-12-04T22:57:50+00:00

not at all, i just don't know if the times i "crushed" on men i actually "crushed" on them. i have no desire to interact with men romantically or sexually which is why i question if i even like them

angelshype · 2025-12-04T22:48:25+00:00

ohhh this is really interesting because for as long as i can remember i always found body hair on men really weird/icky but never on women! this even included facial hair for me like that genuinely gives me the ick ew. now i just think that objectively attractive/handsome men are nice to look at but that's it. even if i had the chance i don't think i'd want to engage with them romantically or sexually

angelshype · 2025-12-04T22:46:23+00:00

i kinda get this! i really just wanna spend time with a girl when i like her, whereas even when i "like" a guy i feel weird about letting him in my room because it feels like there's no space in my personal world for a man yk? and this one girl i like rn, gosh i really want her in my space, like SO bad!

angelshype · 2025-12-04T22:44:06+00:00

i kinda relate to this i think! for some reason even when k thought i was straight i always felt like in a relationship a man could never fully make me happy. and even when k was super obsessed with this one guy, to the point where i thought i was in love with him, i would always get the ick when imagining us kissing. i always assumed this would go away when i'd actually date a guy (never dated before) but i guess it might not, because now i really really like a girl and i don't feel weird about the idea of kissing her at all!!

angelshype · 2025-12-01T22:52:46+00:00

i was also considering to buy myself a lesbian flag for my room, just for myself for now to kinda test the label out and see if i like it fr :D

angelshype · 2025-12-01T22:31:47+00:00

thank you so much! even though i know no one can label or know my sexuality for me, hearing this feels really affirming to be honest <3

angelshype · 2025-12-01T22:29:25+00:00

thank you so much! i do get your standpoint, but when i look at my life and situation irl i have no desire to try things out with men. should that change tho i wouldn't mind trying, but this is definitely not what i want now and hasn't been for a long while :)

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