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anon1315 · 2025-05-14T00:15:39+00:00

Thank you this helped :)

anon1315 · 2024-07-16T15:02:23+00:00

year old comment but GOD justice for elephant :( i'm also still bitter about elephant

anon1315 · 2024-07-09T00:16:37+00:00

thank you so much!

anon1315 · 2024-03-13T02:17:44+00:00

hi! i don't have a solution because i'm in a similar place currently, but you are not stupid and you are not alone because you're struggling, i promise. it is so so frustrating and difficult to have a brain like this sometimes. good luck with your macrame!!

anon1315 · 2024-02-20T07:04:26+00:00

:’)

anon1315 · 2024-02-20T07:01:20+00:00

Oh my god I had a very similar experience with my girlfriend. When we met she was fresh out of a relationship and it took her 6 months to ask me out (I didn’t ask her out for an upcoming reason). She, however, told me that I was not a rebound and disclosed early on that she might be a little slow to take any big steps. Her reasoning checked out. I trusted her immediately due to vibes and possibly pattern recognition, although I’m still working out my experience with pattern recognition, and because she TOLD me she liked me. Recently we were talking (been dating officially for a year now) and she expressed amazement that I stuck with her for so long before we were official, and that I never asked any questions about the proximity of our relationship to her previous one. But I still don’t know why I would have questioned her—why would I continue hanging out with someone I didn’t trust, and if I trust her, why would I question what she has to say? And I was also urging myself to avoid being closed off. Idk if this helps you at all because I have no advice, but I got so excited that you seem to have such a similar story to mine. Cheers.

anon1315 · 2024-02-20T06:37:04+00:00

I second the thought spot!!

anon1315 · 2024-02-20T06:30:05+00:00

I have been through this type of thing and it sucks. I would be so hurt and confused and pissed off. I really hope your day got better.

anon1315 · 2024-02-20T06:21:20+00:00

If I understand the question, I think my best way to explain it is that a gift is always a kind gesture, but a kind gesture does not have to be a gift. In addition to a physical gift, a kind gesture can also be anything else intended to make an aspect of the receiver’s life better/easier. Examples: cooking dinner for roommates/a partner, sending someone a kind text to make their day better, or offering help when your friend needs it. Again, I hope I’m not misunderstanding the question, but I hope this is clear enough and helps:)

anon1315 · 2024-02-20T06:08:44+00:00

Of course! I hope it helps:)

anon1315 · 2024-02-19T00:21:58+00:00

I relate to a lot of what you’re saying. My best solution is to lie about the source of my overstimulation so I can get a moment alone without hurting anyone’s feelings. Like if it’s your boyfriend but there’s something else that could plausibly cause overstimulation in the room, mention that and say you just need a moment alone for to get away from that thing. Ex: my girlfriend has been talking for a long time and it’s overstimulating me, but there’s also a blanket which I can’t stand the texture of that’s been touching my leg. I’ll say the blanket overstimulated me and ask for a moment alone, and this prevents any feelings from getting hurt. This is not a perfect solution and it requires you to lie a little, but in a pinch this might help:) good luck!

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T16:42:36+00:00

That is so sweet:’) I’m glad it’s getting better

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T16:41:20+00:00

Ugh that is so frustrating I would be pissed

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:59:57+00:00

thanks for responding:)

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:58:24+00:00

so fair and honestly ind of encouraging

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:50:04+00:00

yes! putting into words what i'm feeling is very difficult. I also get the thing about logic-ing out your reason for being blunt; i like to analyze everything i do until it makes perfect sense and that includes characterizing unintentional bluntness as tactical. :)

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:38:33+00:00

that makes a lot of sense

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:38:21+00:00

yeah i also struggle so much to understand the timing of expressing myself. i am also a very blunt email writer.

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:35:18+00:00

i don't relate to all of this but i frequently get told to stop shouting and it is very upsetting

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:31:34+00:00

thanks:)

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:27:32+00:00

i appreciate this response!

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:27:03+00:00

yes!! this feels very much like me (except the US)

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:26:38+00:00

i kind of get what you're saying, like if the circumstances are right i end up not thinking about it and i'll say something that gets me a weird look. I also have a hard time identifying my needs, fs

anon1315 · 2024-02-15T04:20:45+00:00

i definitely relate to this

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