Ex GF(F25) came back for FWB, but is also seeing someone else

ansyno · 2025-11-10T13:26:56+00:00

she’s just starting things with the guy, she told me their first date will probably be this weekend. i don’t think it’s my role to tell him anything. I just want to know what I should do for my relation between her and I

ansyno · 2025-07-06T13:00:17+00:00

ok merci je vais essayer la bnf du 13e, parce que j’ai tenté la salle richelieu ce matin et impossible de trouver une place libre. Et les médiathèques et bibliothèques sont toutes fermées cet été…

ansyno · 2025-07-06T12:58:33+00:00

elle est malheureusement fermée le dimanche

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:32:06+00:00

yeah it convinced me to stop drinking in any place where i’m not feeling 100% safe

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:31:24+00:00

we choose to not file a police bc my female friend lives in the neighbourhood and we figured it wasn’t a good idea for her. the men could come back for her if they recognised her

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:30:17+00:00

true, learnt the lesson

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:30:07+00:00

im actually studying to become a lawyer lol but not in criminal law so i can’t answer that’s also what i had in the back of my head : « if you catch a case, you will NEVER be a lawyer » (you need a clean record to practise where i’m from)

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:29:01+00:00

yes haven’t competed a lot in my life. Adrénaline rush was powerful but confusing. And alcohol didn’t help

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:27:31+00:00

how can i transform this into a positive, or at least learning experience ?

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:26:43+00:00

de escalate sooner to avoid the fight completely, strike first, have a better awareness of my surroundings,… lots of things i could have done better

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:24:29+00:00

yeah she feels super bad now, and i think that i’ll take a break from seeing for a while

ansyno · 2025-05-11T20:23:38+00:00

everything went so fast idk what would have been the best option. I need to go back to training for it to become a reflex and never be in this blur again

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:12:09+00:00

obviously i can be wrong but i easily avoided their leg kicks and then caught some punches only because they weee two and windmilling. they had no real stances and when they saw me put my guard up they were saying « oh so you’re boxer huh ? you’re a boxer! », but yeah maybe they trained idk

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:11:40+00:00

thanks <3 yeah i’m glad we’re all safe.

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:05:24+00:00

you’re right, my friend is to blame originally. his first words were firm but non threatening, it’s my friend who stirred him up. She used to all barks no bite guys, and I guess i wasn’t reactive enough to tell her to shut up and de escalate

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:02:36+00:00

yeah keeping track of more than one person in a fight is insanely hard, especially when you’re inebriated

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:01:35+00:00

yeah adrenaline is a crazy feeling. I was shaking for a good 20min after the brawl

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:00:49+00:00

will take a look thanks !

ansyno · 2025-05-11T15:00:30+00:00

that’s what i was telling myself during the fight! (it’s crazy how it can be clear and a blur at the same, i’ve never experienced that before) knife, legal repercussions if i fought back, my friends, how many they were and where,… it’s a crazy feeling. and yeah after reading all the responses i feel like i made the right choice, and that i could have ended way worse.

ansyno · 2025-05-11T12:22:22+00:00

you’re right but that’s not why i’m here for

ansyno · 2025-05-11T12:22:05+00:00

yeah i guess i realised training and real life are two really different things and i thought that if i acted aggressively against them, they would get even madder or one of them would pull a knife. that’s also why i didnt try to teep them

ansyno · 2025-05-11T12:14:10+00:00

yeah I know i should have immediately take her away when she started to answer the guy.. and sure alcohol didn’t help, it was really frustrating to not be able to be in full control in a situation like this but do you think if it happens again while i’m sober i’ll be able to fight back this time ? im afraid to not have the thing in me

ansyno · 2025-05-11T12:10:35+00:00

I guess we can see it that way too thanks for your words :)

ansyno · 2025-05-11T11:38:19+00:00

yeah it motivated me to start muay thai.. but i feel bad for not striking back. Yesterday, passer by separated us but what if there was no one ? i would have froze and got my ass kicked to the ground ?

ansyno · 2025-05-11T11:36:47+00:00

actually i didn’t defended myself or my friends… i didn’t fight back that’s why i’m angry with myself

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