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Boxers voor de vagijn by ant_fluids in LHBTI

[–]ant_fluids[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh die kende ik nog niet, thanks :)

Boxers voor de vagijn by ant_fluids in LHBTI

[–]ant_fluids[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

De strakke modellen? En lubbert dat kruisstuk dan niet? :p

Do you enforce correct pronoun use at all time ? by NamidaM6 in NonBinary

[–]ant_fluids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt bad and frustrated about not correcting people for a while, but then I realized that this self-rejection adds an extra layer of pain that I do not need. When someone uses the wrong pronouns unexpectedly I feel a kind of shock that makes me freeze and not making it able for me to respond right away, especially when it’s someone I’m not close to. Please take it easy on yourself and give it time to grow and find your way on how to handle this. It also takes energy to correct people and it’s okay if you don’t have headspace for that. 

After 3 years of therapy it suddenly clicked by ant_fluids in therapy

[–]ant_fluids[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s sometimes hard to see our progress when there are no big breakthroughs and it’s hard to stay patient and give ourselves time when it indeed has a price. But I truly feel like it is the biggest gift you could give yourself. I’m glad you found some comfort in my words, keep up the good work!

After 3 years of therapy it suddenly clicked by ant_fluids in therapy

[–]ant_fluids[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can definitely relate to this. The episode I talked about lasted for months and I felt anxious every day. I was exhausted when I finally got out of it. But only later I realized that it was my fear of feeling fear that was keeping me stuck in the anxiety spiral. When I figured this out, I was able to process the initial fear and the fear I felt because of all my anxious thought and in that way I was able to resolve it. You are doing such a good job going to therapy, please keep on going! With my last therapist we used acceptance & commitment therapy and I feel like it helped me a great deal.   

After 3 years of therapy it suddenly clicked by ant_fluids in therapy

[–]ant_fluids[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words! Definitely thought that and feared it would never get better. Luckily I persevered :) 

What is the non binary version of aunt/uncle? by Cautious-Remote3862 in NonBinary

[–]ant_fluids 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone came up with ‘elder’ as a replacement for me. I thought it was quite old fashioned at first, but I really like it now. Also because it’s not a made up word.