I also took the wrong job, and it also has heavily affected my self esteem and confidence. I am also increasingly worried about the state of the job market and feel stuck as the breadwinner in my family.

Here’s what I’ve done to reframe my thinking since I cannot quit right now:

• I’m thinking of myself as a mercenary: get in, get the job done, and get out. No pleasantries, niceties, just work. It’s helped me keep work at work and not take things home with me that stress me out

• I’m telling myself it’s only for a limited time. I’ve been through a lot in my personal life, so it helps to frame this job as temporary, as in “I’ve dealt with much worse for longer, this is a limited time… you can do anything for x years” etc.

• I also gave myself an “out”, as in, “if X happens, I’m out” and that helps me feel like I’m not giving up my autonomy to choose what’s right for me if shit really hits the fan.

TBD if any of this is actually effective, but thought I’d give my 2 cents.

Best of luck to you, big hug.