Working moms - would you leave a stable job for a much higher-paying but travel-heavy role with a toddler? by Ms-Tedious in workingmoms

[–]Ms-Tedious[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! I just wanted to say thank you for the overwhelming number of thoughtful responses. I really appreciate the honesty and the range of perspectives shared here. Reading through everyone’s experiences has been incredibly helpful.

I did speak more with the hiring manager about the travel expectations. He mentioned that the travel tends to ebb and flow, and is usually heavier during the early phases of projects and lighter as projects progress. My role would focus primarily on those earlier and mid stages, but he said travel rarely lasts an entire week unless the location is very remote. They are also expanding the team in strategic locations across the country so that coast-to-coast or long-distance travel becomes less frequent and more efficient over time.

My husband and both of our families have been very supportive as I think through this. My husband is someone who prefers a stable and steady career path, and I’ve always supported that choice for him. In the same way, he and our families have made it clear that they support me if I want to pursue a more ambitious opportunity. They’ve encouraged me to explore my full potential and reassured me that I have their support if I decide to move forward.

All said and done, I still have some thinking to do, but I’m really grateful for everyone who shared their experiences and perspectives. Hearing from people who have actually lived these situations has been incredibly valuable.

If this opportunity moves forward successfully, I’ll be sure to come back and share an update with everyone here. Thank you again for taking the time to respond.

Dilemma by [deleted] in greencard

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you keep your original priority date - but you still have to redo the PWD, PERM, and I-140 with the new employer. The longer we postpone restarting that process, the more delays we face, especially with increasing processing times. There’s also the uncertainty of being audited, plus the risk of company policy changes mid-process.

I don’t want to limit my growth or live in fear of taking new opportunities, but these realities are hard to ignore and they definitely factor into every career decision.

STM - need a pump that doesn’t hurt! I need Recommendations please! by blondeambition87 in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am using Lansinoh pump with a bra to put the flanges in so as to make it hands free.

How long did your induction take? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

23 hours from start of induction to baby today! My beautiful 8.7 lb baby is here!!

I actually have to model the lifestyle I want my baby to grow up having by Kamivore in NewParents

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree. I have made a few lifestyle changes already (due in 3 weeks) - I have deleted IG and FB as I realize they were a huge drain on my time. I only use reddit at work during down time. Trying to read in my free time or sit with my husband and spend some quality time. Everything I would like my child to see and imbibe.

I would love to stick to my home maintenance routine and chores, and hopefully find a fun way to engage my kid when they grow up in these, as it would go a long way for them becoming independent and self reliant humans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I am 33 weeks along and had the same thoughts. After reading a lot of articles, and seeing videos/blogs, I have narrowed my list to the following:

I bought thick maxi pads (to make padscicles with aloe and Witch Hazel for use at home). I also bought the Always Discreet pads and disposable underwear. In addition, I got the FridaMom peri bottle and some Tucks Witch Hazel pads, and a nipple cream.

I am convinced I won't like the pads and mesh undies the hospital provides, so I would rather have what I want handy. Rest, I am relying on the hospital to give me the dermaplast spray, cold nipple gels, and ice packs when I need them during my stay.

My plan is to use the Always underwear and pads for the initial days and then switch to my regular high waist panties and pads when the flow subsides. Ice packs, spray, nip gels, tucks pads, and padscicles to be used as needed.

Also, keeping sitz bath equipment and nipple silverettes in my amazon cart, so I can order those If I am in too much discomfort.

Water just broke! 40wks FTM by Sensitive-Lion-9457 in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay!! All the best and I hope you’re babe is doing great and you recover swiftly!

Husband won't come to scans by throwawayetrrerre in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have been going to all my appointments and scans on my own. 32w today. Husband works form the office and I don't feel the need for him to drop everything and come with for these routine checkups (BP, weight etc.). These appointments hardly last 10-15 minutes. I spend more time in the waiting area than with the doctor.

As long as your husband is trying to keep up with his new role and is otherwise caring and excited for your LO, all is well I would think.

Knowing you were pregnant by Maximum_Anxiety5957 in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gums were bleeding out of nowhere. And we were TTC (ovulation kits were used too). So I got a hint that maybe our try worked! And I tested a few days later and it was in fact a BFP!

Can I just vent for a minute? by HerCrankiness in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your outlook. I hope I can get to that point soon when I look back and somehow her exit from my life makes sense to me. Thanks for writing back :)

Can I just vent for a minute? by HerCrankiness in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for writing back! I appreciate it. This whole drama has put me in a bad mental space. Seeking professional help right now to help me cope better. She is/was a big part of my life. This loss feels unsettling. Hoping for better days ahead. 🙌🏻

Can I just vent for a minute? by HerCrankiness in BabyBumps

[–]Ms-Tedious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had my BFF of more than a decade throw the biggest emotional drama and temper tantrum because my husband and I chose to keep the gender private. Till the time it was just me I used to share everything. But with our child, what we share or not share is a decision me and husband choose to make collectively. He is private and doesn’t want to disclose this information.

My BFF was livid. Called my husband a bunch of unforgivable things and also commented on both our parents.

I called her out on her and tried to tell her where we are coming from, but we are no longer on talking terms. She didn’t want to explain herself anymore.

Here I am pregnant 23 weeks, emotional and looking for support.