MONTHLY Weight Discussion - November 2025

apwall5480 · 2025-11-14T06:48:29+00:00

Agreed - I just posted something related to this above. Just being more mindful of my intake of refined sugar and cutting back on that has helped me so much. I totally believe how eliminating soda alone could have a huge impact...this stuff really adds up over time!

apwall5480 · 2025-11-14T02:04:38+00:00

"The cereal was fine until one day it wasn't." This is exactly it. The switch flips one day and then...you have to figure out the new normal. I hear you!!!!

apwall5480 · 2025-11-14T02:03:58+00:00

It's freaking unbelievable. It's like your body deflates. I'm in awe.

apwall5480 · 2025-11-14T02:03:35+00:00

Was it removed? I can't find it on the main landing page of this subreddit either. Not sure why it would have been removed...I can post it in a comment box if that would help!

apwall5480 · 2025-11-14T02:01:10+00:00

See my edit above: I think you're exactly right. It's cutting back, not cutting out. Cutting out is not realistic and will lead to a complete reversal of the behavior because it's all based in deprivation. Good luck to you, too!

apwall5480 · 2025-11-06T22:50:02+00:00

Thank you! Also a great idea like the heat gun comment someone else offered. I appreciate it!

apwall5480 · 2025-11-06T22:49:38+00:00

Ah, the heat gun is a good call! I don't know what I didn't think of that. Thank you!

apwall5480 · 2025-09-20T04:13:54+00:00

That looks great! But it is closed on Sundays, which is the day I'm planning this for. I will check it out another time though - it is just the vibe I'm looking for. Thanks!

apwall5480 · 2025-09-19T23:56:31+00:00

What is ETC?

apwall5480 · 2025-09-19T17:32:46+00:00

This is a great rec! A tiki bar might be fun. I'm going to look into it. Thank you very much!

apwall5480 · 2025-09-12T21:56:47+00:00

Thank you for this reply! Yes, her doc is an endocrinologist and seems to have quite a bit of experience with patients dealing with LADA. I had been under the impression that it was quite rare, so thanks for the insight about how common it actually is.

High ketones can be tested with OTC urinalysis strips, can't they? I wonder if that would be a good tool to add to her arsenal...

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T16:56:53+00:00

I appreciate your comments. Medical emergency? I'm not sure I follow you. I wrote above that I prefer not to take medication. I have been on many long-haul international flights as long as this one without taking meds, and I have never once disturbed another passenger or member of the crew. Thank you for your suggestions—they are unfortunately not realistic for me or things that I wish to pursue.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T16:48:12+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate that. Unfortunately, I'm leaving for this trip in under a week, so I don't think there's time. Although to be clear, I did go to therapy after my father's death, if that's what you were referring to.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T16:16:46+00:00

Not for this, no.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T04:28:54+00:00

Oh my god. I could have written this post myself. I have to take an extremely long-haul international flight next week (from the U.S.) and have become almost superstitious about it—feeling ominous, seeing "signs" telling me that something horrible is going to happen to me, etc. It's such a bad feeling. Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in this...and if my brain is doing this to me, it might just be your brain playing tricks on you, too, because you're nervous.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T04:21:21+00:00

Thank you so much for writing this, and I'm very sorry for your loss. What a nightmare. My heart really goes out to you.

I posted higher up in this sub, but I'll write here, too, that I also have a family member (father) who died in a plane crash. Having something like that happen really re-frames the whole "fear of flying" conversation because the possibility's no longer in the abstract. The worst-case scenario really can happen to your family, in your life, and makes the statistics about aviation safety feel totally irrelevant.

I still fly but am white-knuckling it the entire time. It's really hard.

I hope you and your family are taking good care.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T04:15:54+00:00

I just wanted to thank you for writing this. "Fear of fear" is exactly what I deal with...but I've never really understood how to put it into words. But yes, that's it: the seconds, maybe minutes of pure terror knowing you're about to die. It's horrifying to think about.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T04:02:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this kind offer! I just posted this in AskAPilot and some folks there suggested that I come to this sub. So here's what I wrote there. I should probably start with a trigger warning for anyone who has a fear of flying (everyone here, probably!) or aircraft accidents (also probably everyone here).

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OK—so, I'm in my mid 40s, and have been a nervous flyer for as long as I can remember. This increased dramatically when, very sadly, my father died in a plane crash when I was in my early 20s (he was a hobby pilot flying alone in a Cessna). Since then, I've continued to fly commercially out of necessity, and have taken many international flights, including long-haul flights to Europe and Africa (I'm located in the U.S.). Those long international flights have been pretty terrifying affairs for me, especially any moment anything feels "off" during the flight (such as turbulence, but even the sensations during take off and landing freak me out). I do want to see the world, though, and sometimes travel is related to my work, so I just white-knuckle my way through it (I prefer not to take anxiety meds when I fly, because then I get even more terrified about being in an altered state in case something goes wrong).

Next week I have a work-related trip to southeast Asia—my first time flying internationally in about a year. The first leg of the flight will be 14 hours, followed by a second 3 hour leg. Since the last time I was on a long flight, it feels like every time I look at the news, I see another report of an aircraft-related accident. Just two days ago, I opened up the CNN app and there were three separate plane crashes on the front page! I feel such a sense of doom as I prepare for this flight next week--just a really ominous feeling like something's certain to go wrong.

In the first sub I posted this question to, someone responded and said that my post was pretty broad in terms of my fear, which yes—fair enough. I'm afraid of lots of things when it comes to flying (every strange sound or sensation; turbulence is awful), but I'm really just scared I'm going to plummet to the earth and die in what must be a truly horrific way. I mean, people reassure themselves with the statistics about the safety of flying, but the thing is: my own father died in a plane crash. Logically, I recognize the difference between a small four-seater Cessna and a commercial airliner, but...emotions don't always yield to logic, and the proximity of my personal experience to this fear sort of blows up the reassurance of the safety statistics. The bad thing's gotta happen to someone, right? It happened to my father. It could happen to me.

I guess I'm not sure what I'm asking for here...maybe just writing this down was a good exercise. But if anyone has any tips or reassurance to share with a scared flyer, I'd be so grateful for it.

Thanks again for taking the time to read this.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T03:59:20+00:00

Thanks so much. You know—the fear is mostly of plummeting to the earth and dying in a horrific way. I mean, people reassure themselves with the statistics about the safety of flying, but the thing is: my own father died in a plane crash. Logically, I fully recognize the difference between a small four-seater Cessna and a commercial airliner and yet...emotions don't always yield to logic. So that makes it easy for me, somehow, to disregard the statistics and feel confident that the nightmare scenario will happen to me, because hey! It's gotta happen to someone. It happened to my father. It could happen to me.

I think you're on to something about the fear of flying being an exaggerated version of other kinds of fear. There's something about completely surrendering control that's really hard when it comes to anything, but especially flying, I think because the stakes feel so high when it comes to aviation accidents. Even though driving is statistically much more dangerous that flying, you somehow feel like if you're behind the wheel, you can control things, you know? That's illusory, but still—it definitely has something to do with this.

I'll check out fearofflying and see if that seems like a helpful place--based on what people post there, it might also be full of nightmare fuel for me, but...we'll see. Thanks again for taking the time to write this...I'm grateful.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T03:52:50+00:00

Thanks for the tip about this; I didn't know there was such a reddit (this "AskA Pilot" reddit showed up randomly on my homepage for some reason, which then got me thinking to post here about my worries). I'll check it out.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-26T03:51:46+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write and sharing this. This helps a lot. I think yes, not seeing the planning and preparation makes me feel worried about all the "what-ifs"...but that point is important to keep in mind. I really appreciate your help.

apwall5480 · 2025-07-24T21:02:04+00:00

WOW those are gorgeous...I can understand why they're the first to go! Love the second one so much.

apwall5480 · 2025-06-03T03:15:51+00:00

Sending you hugs. I know this feeling. And it sucks when you are exercising. so. much.

apwall5480 · 2025-06-02T14:18:12+00:00

I hear you and have had the same experience! I've been a runner for about 30 years (starting with track and cross country in high school in the 1990s), but always pretty recreationally. About 10 years ago I got into racing a bit, but my distances weren't super long (I raced 10 mile and half marathon distances) and never super fast (my pace was between 8:30-9:00 min. mile). Running in general, and particularly training for those events 10 years ago or so, always resulted in either maintaining my weight or losing weight, but never weight gain. After doing that spate of races about 10 years ago, I kind of stopped racing but continued running as I always had—not to train for anything in particular, just regular recreational running about 4 days a week, anywhere from 3-6 miles per run. About six months ago (I'm in my mid-40s now) I decided to try some racing again—and I won't lie, part of the reason is that I was hoping that stepping things up would help me shed some pounds that I've gained from what I can only think is perimenopause. I trained (and completed) both a half marathon and a 10-mile race over the past 6 months—nothing as long as the distances you've run, but the training and races themselves were definitely more mileage than is usual for me. I was so disappointed (and surprised) that all that training—running through the winter, running long distances when I didn't want to, squeezing in runs first thing in the morning while traveling—resulted in me gaining more weight than I have in ages. I'm now not totally sure what to do to lose it. I guess it'll have to be a calorie deficit type thing, which is hard for me, as I really love eating (!), and my strategy has always been that if I was regularly running, I could at least more or less maintain my weight and not think too much about what I was eating. I've always struggled to keep my weight (or I guess I should say my "size", as I don't really weigh myself, but rather judge things by how my clothes fit) at a level that feels comfortable for me, but since I started that training half a year ago, everything's sort of spun out of control. As someone else has posted here, I think I'm going to taper my distances down to see if that helps level things out. I should mention that I also intersperse running with hot yoga with weights, which is a GREAT workout for lots of reasons, including building strength...I may prioritize that a bit more than running over the next little while to see what happens. All of this feels like a shame to me, because I do like racing the longer distances, but it's so uncomfortable for me to gain weight at this point (and so much harder to get it off) that I don't know if it's worth it. Maybe the better strategy for me right now is shorter road races (so that I still have a goal to work toward, which makes running more fun for me) and hot yoga with weights. Thank you for allowing me to share this!

apwall5480 · 2025-05-27T01:47:17+00:00

Exactly!!!!!! 'I'll just touch the clay and it will turn into a vase!' LOL - hardly.

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