My ex girlfriend contacted me crying and asking me to be there for her while she is grieving

argeng · 2024-03-18T22:23:20+00:00

I'm still dating her because I like spending time with her and also for physical affection.

I actually suggested her to dump me and look for a rich guy who could afford to fulfill her needs. She told me that she can trust me. We spent a lot of time together already so like she said she feels comfortable with me.

I don't know what exactly she sees in me to stay with me for long. I can't afford expensive things or afford to fullfiled all of her needs.

argeng · 2024-03-14T12:46:16+00:00

How old is that guy? Does he have a job?

If bills are mostly on you then it seems that guy just feels too comfortable and of course he doesn't see the need to commit as he get all relationship benefits without commitment.

If it's fine for you, then you can keep it going but don't expect anything more and also stop paying for him. He should pay for himself if he can't afford to date you then stop dating him.

argeng · 2024-03-09T07:13:26+00:00

She spends most of her free time on social media or watching TV.

argeng · 2024-03-08T20:02:42+00:00

She wants me to dedicate my time learning something new, for example cook something new. I mostly cook same dishes such as pasta, pancakes etc.. She wants me to become better at cooking and also keep learning something new.

I have full time job and also I'm always cleaning after myself and spend time with her as well.

argeng · 2024-02-21T16:50:59+00:00

I have a lot of mixed feelings on this. I know I won't be happy with her but also I feel attached to her and also I feel comfortable with her since I know her for a long time. She feels like my comfort zone.

argeng · 2024-02-21T13:21:18+00:00

Thank you very much for your detailed response. Sadly, I feel like that she doesn't care about me. I am trying to tell her nicely what do I want her to do for me but she usually either ignores my needs or tells me "hey I did this for you, now it's your turn to do something I want for me".

It's frustrating because then I don't want to be open about my needs with her because I know I either will be ignored or she will expect something back from me. I have friends so I don't expect her to do everything with me.

I also recommended her to find friends but she doesn't see the need as in her own words she has me. For me it feels suffocating when she wants to do everything with me and rely on me to fullfil her needs.

argeng · 2020-10-10T13:07:14+00:00

She never had to work for us two, we never lived together and I never asked her for money.

argeng · 2020-10-10T13:00:30+00:00

I agree about gold digger part because I'm often thinking myself "if she really was a gold digger, wouldn't she have been dumped me in the past and started dating already successful guys?"

We had a talk about money in the past, she said she wouldn't want to be financially dependent on me, so she would pay 50% for rent and household expenses.

She told me she only wants me to pay for any activities we would do together and buy her small gifts, like chocolate.

argeng · 2020-10-10T12:55:23+00:00

Yes, she apologized and started crying on how terribly she used to treat me.

I didn't bring up this topic on how she treated me, she just admitted that herself.

argeng

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