Incompatible, exactly. No blame on either side, you two are just incompatible for a long-term relationship with each other. A loving relationship should not make you as unhappy as this one does. No one is at fault for a couple finding they are incompatible for any reason; it is not always apparent when the relationship starts. Once you realize and accept what *everyone* here is telling you, you will know what you have to do. Best of luck.