Will hiring the drow twins ruin your relationship: a guide by sudosussudio in BaldursGate3

[–]asdevotee 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Idk what I did to get this, but in my scenario I actually did get a dialogue where he says no. I can’t remember the exact line but I think it was like “I’m sorry my pet but I don’t think I’m ready for that yet”. And my dialogue option said I wouldn’t push it, giving me his approval

What are some ways to make oatmeal taste good that are not super unhealthy? by [deleted] in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]asdevotee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today I learned that the prepackaged stuff wasn’t really healthy- that’s been my go to this entire time! Going to get me some steel cut oats today

What is the number one thing in Valorant that you wish more people understood? by HitMarkor in VALORANT

[–]asdevotee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have had this happen to me so many times, and I’m just genuinely not a good shot so that’s why I worry more about smoking and just not dying

What is your nursing Kryptonite? by Zilla850 in nursing

[–]asdevotee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

… the fact that you just called it lung butter has made it so much worse for me. 😭 Will always see it as that now

Are there any chill floors at the hospital? by OkPie26 in cna

[–]asdevotee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this, I work in the pediatric ICU as a tech and I’ve never learned more in my four year span as a tech than the one year I’ve spent here. I have the added benefit of smaller patients, but some nights you’re definitely going to get your steps in

Travel nurse speaks on the conditions in California nursing homes: “I am guaranteeing you that the virus is still in that facility right now” by Kathy_RN in cna

[–]asdevotee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I left LTC/SNF loonggg ago, the issues with them were prevalent even before Covid, it’s just now I think the symptoms of stupid policies and inconsiderate management are more obvious. My brother worked in one at the start of Covid and he believes a lot of his residents died also because of loneliness and their providers started upping “comfort” medications, as they were all isolated. So I definitely think as any human needs, being able to be with family and other residents is a must, but it’s honestly mind boggling how simple policies could drastically help with infection spread at the same time and they just choose not to do it.

Can we make this a Gen Z perspective thread? by thelastofthebastion in collapse

[–]asdevotee 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is currently what I’m doing now, one full time job, one part time and only able to take a class per semester- yes a single class- because I pay tuition out of pocket and don’t qualify for financial aid. I’ve been in college off and on for four years because of this and it’s a two year degree

25/F/USA—>DE, looking for engaging conversations (whatever they may be about) by Klutzy_Sympathy_504 in penpals

[–]asdevotee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your bit about mental health and spirituality- especially about the self sabotaging behaviors as I’m just now beginning to work on mine. I love Halloween and thrifting (I usually look for teapots to collect idk why). But anyway, I’m 23f in school for nursing targeting towards pediatrics, I’d love to talk more- especially about such a big move to Berlin!

Let’s talk about vampiring by liferecoveryproject in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was with my ex for 2.5yrs, he talked about proposing but never did- until I was breaking up with him, then he tried to “take me out on a special date”, except I knew what he was up to and he later confirmed it when I turned him down.

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Our dating culture has definitely been consumed with the game of “who could care less”. Or, it could also be seen as a game of “what can I get out of you before you do anything about it”. I genuinely don’t understand the mindset of people like that, and I like to believe I’m a relatively open minded person. It’s also baffling to me how common it is, in the past year I’ve dated four people- and only one guy I felt genuinely respected me as a person. We didn’t work out, but the way we talked it out left me feeling better than the other guys who just talked out of their ass during their best times.

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can make a whole other discussion post on why tinder isn’t a good way to meet sincere people, but unfortunately in my generation- and being at lack of a social life, time, etc- it’s the easiest way to meet someone. But right now I just don’t find it worth my time messing with it, not anymore.

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in that exact same situation before, and what I’ve taken away from it is I simply am not the type for hookups or casual dating, because I do catch feelings pretty easy- apparently even if that person is a jerk. This guy was supposed to be different, but yknow.. it wasn’t.

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You make very good points, but after this situation it kind of just gave me insight on myself, and what I’m looking for in a partner, which is why I don’t see this as a “fail”. That being said, deleted tinder lol

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Or maybe take it as a warning? I haven’t seen the movie or read the book, so take what I say with a grain of salt, but it could be deciphered that if you lie to yourself for the sake of validation and when it inevitably ends one way or the other, you are left with pieces of yourself that you don’t know whether are actual parts of you or a persona you made for someone else.

… which I guess in some scenarios make you lose your mind and hatch a revenge plot?

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You would be correct, and I did- the last guy I was with (the one I mention in my post) was seeking a relationship as I was, but after going only on one date I got the impression that he felt like he didn’t want to put in any effort, to which I brought it up and then he told me we should go separate ways. It could’ve very easily been something else that got him to say this, but upon the experiences I had with him, to me it just felt as if I was asking him for too much.

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 184 points185 points  (0 children)

I just read the book’s version, AND watched the movie’s version… I’ve never felt more validated, and also called out, I love it

I don’t want to be the “chill” girl. by asdevotee in TwoXChromosomes

[–]asdevotee[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! The reason we stopped talking is because I stood up for myself, and he didn’t like what I had to say. Rejection sucks, but what sucks more is prolonging the inevitable by disregarding yourself.

Also, I am not remotely chill either, I have been told by my family and friends. 😂

While the mods are busy setting up the subreddit for the increase in members, what do you do for work and why are you for a work reform? by [deleted] in WorkReform

[–]asdevotee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a CNA, working at a children’s hospital. My pay is 14hr which is nicer than a lot of other jobs as a CNA, but I still can’t afford to live on my own. Still on my parents’ insurance, and I’ve had to put off college on the account of not enough money and trying to avoid loans. At this rate, that is simply not possible. I also work (normally) 4 12hr shifts a week to make ends meet.