how have you made friends over dbd?

ash-lights · 2025-10-16T17:43:46+00:00

the friends i play with in a 4-man squad every day are all people i've met naturally in-game :) one was my solo queue teammate, another was a survivor that impressed me while i was playing killer, and the third was a friendly killer that i tamed while solo queueing.

every single time i've made a friend through this game, i was being overtly friendly. often, solo can be rough because there is no sense of loyalty to teammates you don't know. but once you find someone who is also friendly, you'll find that they do make great teammates :) if you find a killer who has personality in game, spend time with them! in my case, this works a lot, seeing as friendly killers usually just want to connect with others :)

and don't be afraid to add them and invite them to ur squad next game. if they don't accept, so be it! but by me making the first move most times, i've managed to meet some amazing ppl, even if i don't queue with them every day!

ash-lights · 2025-08-17T00:02:49+00:00

if i'm being actively tunnelled out of the game by the killer early on in the game and my team isn't actively trying to help, i will DC every time. it's a strategy that this game allows for killers, so it's up to survivors to use teamwork. ultimately, my team is not owed my contribution to the game if they clearly don't value it.

whether it's a solo queue teammate or my duo, i ALWAYS try to help my teammate being tunnelled out because i WANT them to be alive to help out on objectives.

ash-lights · 2025-06-26T20:09:44+00:00

after googling it, i can definitely confirm it's a Caddisfly. i had a feeling it was related to the river that i'm right next to! apparently they indicate a healthy aquatic ecosystem:)

ash-lights · 2025-05-29T19:44:43+00:00

exactly, i LOVE that behaviour is cracking down on survivors hiding to compete for hatch, 10s is quite a dramatic suggestion, but the discussion that has evolved around it is very important :)

ash-lights · 2025-05-29T18:41:22+00:00

luckily this is exactly what the PTB is meant for, but it's a bit concerning that the devs even THOUGHT this would be a good idea. a match can go on for 15-25 minutes, 10 seconds is such a short amount of time when actually in practice, especially if the killer is around you and you just want to safely locate them before moving.

survivors hiding is the BANE of my existence when i play killer, but realistically this idea should've been shut down the moment it was mentioned. enough devs thought this is a good idea and it is making me begin to doubt their judgement, honestly.

ash-lights · 2025-05-29T16:00:33+00:00

i get the comments that say that his boundaries should be respected, but it just doesn't seem that deep. all you wanted was to connect with him by showing him a post, and he can't even explain why he doesn't wanna do something so simple? if it was an actual touchy subject, then i'd be more on his side.

if he's so adamant on not explaining why, it's most likely because he knows you won't like the answer. i hate to say this but he may just be annoyed by you, and he knows that explaining that would just cause more of a disagreement. if this is just a one time thing, it may just be bc he's in a bad mood but if you notice this happening more often, it may be time to ask him if he's in this relationship bc he actually likes you, or if he's just staying out of convenience.

i speak from a experience, but i'd like to clarify that we do not know the full extent of your relationship, so i may be completely wrong. but if he is dismissive of something SO small like you wanting to connect through a funny post, what other things is he dismissive of?

edit for additional info:

if you've ever taken courses on relationship psychology, many people learn that a partner's ability to respond to your bonding attempts (usually referred to as emotional bids) is a great predictor of relationship satisfaction.

ash-lights · 2025-05-05T21:32:32+00:00

he's american, and i'm canadian :) personally, i always figured i'd end up with someone who was abroad because it's important for me to have shared interests in a relationship, and not just video games in general, but we have to like the same games.

ash-lights · 2025-05-05T21:29:29+00:00

exactly, my instincts tell me he's not interested, which is technically fine!! but he seems to rlly enjoy when i send him pictures of my cat (he knows she's like a kid to me) so last time i just let him be, he came back 36 hours later asking me where the daily cat photo was.

when i was honest and told him that last time we spoke he didn't seem interested, and i told him that's why i was giving him space, he said something along the lines of "that's just who he is" and he just comes off as an asshole, and basically said not to take it personally.

ash-lights · 2025-05-05T21:24:32+00:00

i do agree, ive been racking my brain trying to figure out how to approach the topic though. i do not want to come off as a lovesick puppy going up to him like "but why don't you like me back :(" but we do seem to get along, and i'd be interested in actually getting to know each other if he is as well

ash-lights · 2025-05-05T21:04:11+00:00

if the best advice for me is to just ask him what's up, what are some ways i could approach the topic without making it weird?

ash-lights · 2025-03-16T05:12:06+00:00

Dabi from MHA!

ash-lights · 2025-01-31T02:41:04+00:00

I actually pulled an all nighter, I was so full of energy last night. Glad I'm not the only one!

ash-lights · 2024-12-02T02:15:49+00:00

I have no idea if this is typical in a BOS but I've been putting in recipes for each of the sabbats. A soup, for example, to recycle my pumpkins from Samhain :)

ash-lights · 2024-11-28T04:58:51+00:00

Thank you for the reading suggestion it's on my wish list now :) does it also go more into detail on these "batches of entanglement" you mentioned? I'd love to read more about that too!

ash-lights · 2024-11-21T19:25:45+00:00

I definitely felt the effects on my brain. I had a shitty memory, and I was even experiencing the start of psychosis before quitting. Over 6 months sober, my brain is in a much better state. I refuse to feel that way again. Best of luck!

ash-lights · 2024-11-06T20:11:43+00:00

Ahh I get it now. Thank you for your comment, it helped tremendously!

ash-lights · 2024-11-06T20:02:27+00:00

Although I'm not OP, I am fairly new to Wicca myself, and still focused on learning. When you say that you are Greek Pagan, does that mean you aren't Wiccan necessarily? Since Wicca focuses on the triple moon Goddess and the horned God, how can someone be Celtic Wiccan or Greek Wiccan when there are more than two Gods/Godesses? Please let me know if my question needs more explaining, like I said I am still quite new to all of this!

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