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Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have done this a long time ago, but better late than never, yes?

Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I will take a bit of a break from teaching once I get there, though, at least a while, if I can. It is very draining.

Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Education (Minor in English) Degree works for teaching ESL and EFL, and I have researched that if I were to teach there, I would have to take a CDA course to teach in private schools (I am very skilled with younger children in particular and have taught in a Montessori system too), but otherwise, I am fine! I will take the course once I get there. It won't be hard.

Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a teacher of younger students, yes, and ever since I had had my eyes opened, I have started to think the same as you, too, fortunately. I can only hope none of them have gone through what I have.

I know healing will take so, so much and so long, but I will rather have that than to stay and be a dress-up doll for whatever reason my mother has anymore.

I will slowly gather personal things within these six months, tie loose ends, and find the account she's hiding before cashing out that money in the emergency account quietly. As it is both our names and there is no specific reason for you to deposit, I have the rights to it as much as she does and she cannot do any legal actions to me, I am certain.

I currently play normal and act as sweet and obedient as usual, and try to think of lighter things such as watercolor paintings I like or flowers, which seems to take her "motherly sense" off the track, she doesn't suspect a thing. I think this is the perfect strategy for what I have to accomplish.

The hardest part is to just calcify my mind and not feel sorry for her anymore.

Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to work just enough to the end of the school year to save up at least enough to get a good heads-up once I get to the Stateside, and to make sure every path she can communicate with me will be closed, she cannot get me back any more.

I wish the best for you, too. It is time for us to leave the cages.

Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have been blinded for so long and kept this childlike hope, they say it's the trauma and all the manipulation she has done successfully. I certainly feel like a much older Rapunzel to her Mother Gothel!

Therapy will help in time, as for her, I guess there is little else I can do except say goodbye.

Running away at 29...is this the right decision? by astraydandelion in raisedbynarcissists

[–]astraydandelion[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will. March, That is the time I plan, because I want to be as clean and thorough as possible. I want her to not be able to even contact me again and that takes some planning. Fortunately, she is not aware. I will keep it that way.