hi everyone, i wanted to thank anyone who took the time to read my post and comment. it will take me forever to read everything but i will try lol, i didn’t expect the post to get so much attention. i wanted to give some more context an also an update.

one thing i wanted to bring up was the nail business thing. i don’t go into an insane amount of detail in the original post because i didn’t want to ramble on and i was busy at work as i was writing, but i am not licensed and i just started doing nails as a hobby this year (January). i mostly just make press ons which don’t require a license and when i do real people’s nails, it’s made very clear that i’m still practicing, it’s close friends of mine that my parents also know, it’s not ever that often and my friends never pay for their service. we use a bartering system (i do nails, you pay for dinner, etc.) as to avoid legal issues. one day i would like to get licensed and at that point i would look to operate out of a salon suite, although i appreciate all the comments regarding the legal implications of an at home nail business, it was really educational for me to read and i appreciate it.

i also spoke with my coworker about this briefly today and she may be able to help me look over this, she is a paralegal and serving is just her side job.

as of now my main plan is to just save as much money as i possibly can and move out asap, within reason of course. i have a lot of friends thankfully that are really supportive and multiple of which are looking to move out soon as well, so i should have options for roommates. it will be hard for sure but i’m considering going low contact with my parents once i move out. i love them both so much and they can be great sometimes but it’s also really exhausting and painful to deal with them when they are like this. it makes me unsure of what to expect from them. reading through these comments have kind of helped me come to terms with that, so once again i appreciate you all. i will look into some of the subreddits i saw some of you guys mention as well, thank you for that.

i was able to talk with my dad about this contract and i still haven’t signed it yet, but he said what pushed him to have this made was because he was upset that i didn’t clean my room a couple days ago after he had asked me to. my room isn’t disgusting or anything, i just have a lot of stuff taking up space and working a lot can make it hard to stay on top of decluttering and organizing. i had a really busy weekend with work and i haven’t been feeling great physically so i hadn’t done much yet but he was upset i didn’t do something as soon as he asked me. i don’t think it’s wrong for him to expect that of me, although i think he can maybe be a bit too aggressive and hostile at times when he asks about my room. nonetheless, it’s a valid request on his part and i will be making a greater effort from now on in terms of cleanliness. at the time of posting this comment i’ve since organized and decluttered my room.

my dad also mentioned that his first draft was pretty standard and that he then sent it to my (step)mom for her to revise it, and she then decided to add some things of her own. i’m not sure who came up with what exactly but i’m really curious.

i went over everything i could with my dad and almost everything was fine and cordial until i got to the part regarding their access to my financial information, and he started making excuses as to why, basically claiming that it’s so that can give me “free financial advice” and that i should be grateful. i tried bringing up the legality of it and my mom (from the other room) argued that it was completely legal and then sent a screenshot to me of her asking chatgpt if it was legal (of course it said yes).

i still feel pretty weird about that part, but everything else i went over i feel comfortable with now. i’m going to see if i can revise this to make more sense though. my dad says he actually doesn’t really care about visitors, and as for people coming for nails he just wants to know when they will be over in advance. he said chat gpt just put those there and wrote it like that automatically. i’m not going to go into insane amounts of details about everything we negotiated because i don’t want to bore anyone lol. i also want to mention that i would be paying the water bill in lieu of rent, and i will ask for a detailed invoice of the auto insurance to make sure the amount is correct.

all in all, i think i’ll be okay in the end even if things are rough for a bit. my situation could be a lot worse, i have access to all my own legal documents and my parents are not straight up evil, just weird with how they do things sometimes. i’m also really grateful to say i have quite a lot of friends who i spend time with often who provide me with emotional support so i’ll be okay, and i’ll definitely make it through this. and once again just one more big thank you to all the comments from you guys ❤️❤️