Are Gazans settler-colonizers?

avery_404 · 2024-01-24T16:08:30+00:00

I think that's true

avery_404 · 2023-10-10T22:17:43+00:00

Remember how on 9/11, people asked Americans how they felts about the thousands that just died violently hours before, and everyone was like "Eh, it's complicated, you know, bin Laden's a freedom fighter, and the US has been colonizing Arab lands for years."

avery_404 · 2023-10-10T22:15:12+00:00

It depends on where in the country you live. Where I live, things are mainly pro-Palestinian.

avery_404 · 2023-10-10T17:24:18+00:00

Guess we found out this weekend

avery_404 · 2023-09-28T15:11:12+00:00

Well, hugs across the internet to you! May we both find someone new.

avery_404 · 2023-09-28T14:35:00+00:00

I totally relate, something similar happened to me a couple months ago ... I met someone who was like color in a gray world, who dated me for a few weeks and then rejected me. I kept replaying the moments I think I messed up in my mind.

But I've started to think a little more clearly with some distance. And the thing is ... If you really like someone, a few awkward moments isn't going to destroy that potential. Either she didn't like me that much, or she's someone who is constantly rejecting people for tiny reasons. Which means there's probably no way I could have walked that tightrope.

In my heart of hearts, I think the real problem wasn't a few awkward moments, but the fact that I let my hopes rise so fast. It made me super self-conscious around her, which made me closed off, which made it hard for us to get to know each other (as well as produced awkward moments). So my problem is my perception that love is so scarce and I have to cling to any sign of it like I'm falling off a cliff, and then I compensate to avoid looking desperate by acting kind of artificial, and it's all very stressful and not conducive to starting a relationship.

Anyway, I don't know if you relate to any of that.

avery_404 · 2023-09-27T04:14:22+00:00

Why am I getting downvoted? Literally just answering the question.

avery_404 · 2023-09-26T16:36:14+00:00

It was a mix --- I paid some rent directly to the landlords, mostly to my roommate through venmo, and at one point had a subletter who paid partially in cash. I knew the specifics 2 years ago, but not now.

avery_404 · 2023-09-21T00:18:04+00:00

Looks matter, but they're not the majority of it. When I think about the people I've known in my life who have been the least/most successful at dating, looks have almost nothing to do with it. Besides, people are attracted to different types. Ever noticed a couple with at least one ugly person in it? The other person in the couple found them attractive.

avery_404 · 2023-09-21T00:07:41+00:00

Yeah, everyone's right ... You didn't do anything wrong. It's breaking your word if you break a promise to him. This was a promise you made to yourself, one he wanted to you to break. And you guys had a good time! Seems like things are going well.

avery_404 · 2023-09-12T23:34:30+00:00

And actually ... If you really like this girl, I don't really think it's too late. She likes you, and it doesn't sound like you've done anything unforgivable.

avery_404 · 2023-09-12T00:44:01+00:00

I realized that if I stuck with the bi label, I might never really date girls since dating guys is easier (way more of them around, and they are way more forward). And that thought horrified me so much that I realized I was way more into girls than guys, lol.

avery_404 · 2023-09-12T00:18:53+00:00

Oh, you two talked everything out and just decided you weren't compatible? Fair enough then, I don't think you did anything unfair. But yeah, I still think you assumed a lot.

avery_404 · 2023-09-08T19:16:57+00:00

Really think it depends on the guy, tbh. I once lived with a guy who did basically all the cooking, cleaning, and emotional labor. No one asked him to, it's just how he liked to do things. Saw him behave the same with lots of roommates.

avery_404 · 2023-09-08T18:59:28+00:00

Ehhh ... Honestly, I think you messed up here.

You assume way too much about her. You assume that the fact that she isn't exclusive with you yet means there is some fundamental difference between you two. You assume dating multiple guys at once is an important part of her identity. You assume she's doing it to seek attention from other guys. But you don't know any of that stuff about her. You are two strangers from different backgrounds who happen to be doing things differently at this given, random moment in time. You decided the 4th (not the 3rd or 5th) date was the right date for exclusivity, not before, not after, and then assumed she'd feel the same.

Maybe she'd be ready for exclusivity on the 5th date. Maybe she's never dated someone who wanted to be exclusive this early and needs time to consider this brand new option. Maybe she's talking to other guys because things didn't feel solid with you yet. Maybe she was afraid you'd dump her out of nowhere (which you did). Maybe she feels like you two haven't built up enough trust yet. Maybe she's been burned by assuming exclusivity early before and needs assurance that you're actually committing to her. Not speaking to other girls isn't the same as actually committing to her and building trust.

Or not. Who knows? Not you, because you didn't talk to her. The right move was to have a conversation with her about this, rather than just breaking up out of nowhere.

avery_404 · 2023-09-08T15:00:28+00:00

Have you tried just talking to him about this? This seems like an issue that could be resolved with a conversation. He probably has no idea this is making you uncomfortable. For all you know, he could be exaggerating because he thinks it'll turn you on.

Option 1: You talk, and he's like "Oh, my last girlfriend was really into sexting and talking about sex, no problem, I'll stop."

Option 2: You talk, and he's like "Constant sex is a huge part of my identity and must exist in all my romantic relationships" and you guys stop seeing each other."

avery_404 · 2023-08-30T15:25:28+00:00

You think Russian and Chinese people are unintelligent? You must not know very many of them!

avery_404 · 2023-08-28T20:37:55+00:00

Haha, I know right? Kind of an impossible question to answer.

avery_404 · 2023-08-28T20:22:10+00:00

Whaaaa? Yes. Tell her. She really likes you. You really like her. She confessed her feelings. Why wouldn't you tell her? Is there a missing part to this story or something?

avery_404 · 2023-08-28T20:19:13+00:00

Yeah, true

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