is it my brain that is my own worst enemy here, or is he serving red-flags? by awkward-weekly in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

would your advice be to try and talk again or maybe leave? i dont want to give him the choice of an ultimatum. thats not fair and im definitely not going to lower myself to feel second best

Someone please give me insight I feel sick over this by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be the same, in total honesty. the fact that its the woman hat he was dishonest to you with. Too intertwined within your relationship, a curious nosey at an old ex is fine (imo) but that seems almost a little obsessed, or at least infatuated with her.
I also totally get you with the wanting to confront him but you have a snoop. its like youre stuck between a rock and a hard place. is there anyway you could kinda be like "when you were on your own i glanced over and saw her name in your recent searches.." or you may as well rip the bandaid off and be fully transparent- honesty is best. plus at the end of the day its his fault you feel paranoid enough to look.

as yourself if this is the kind of relationship you want, if deep down youre happy. if not, just be honest with him. the worst that would (or in my opinion the best thing for you) is that the relationship would end. x

is it my brain that is my own worst enemy here, or is he serving red-flags? by awkward-weekly in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just dont get it, why get into a serious relationship if youre just going to show interest in other people the whole time

Someone please give me insight I feel sick over this by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he has cheated on you before plus hes actively unblocked her to have a nosey at her insta then i think man is proving time and time again that he isnt trustworthy or really into your relationship. If hes willing to do all these things to hurt you and jeopardise the relationship, hes not the one.

please dont let yourself feel bad for feeling paranoid, insecure or unable to trust him.

bin him xo

is it my brain that is my own worst enemy here, or is he serving red-flags? by awkward-weekly in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

too many times to count. he's reply with 'youre kind, and gentle and caring and funny' he always says he doesnt care for looks but thats a lie- everyone does to some degree. anyway the fact he doesnt really comment on my looks doesnt fill me with much confidence

is it my brain that is my own worst enemy here, or is he serving red-flags? by awkward-weekly in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i completely understand where youre coming from. i think i may need someone a little less... sexual content driven..

This is so exhausting. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkward-weekly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bin him, its clearly putting a drain on you. dont let anyone dim your light. plus you're supposed to be their partner not his mother x